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No, you are not nuts. Don't discount your feelings and you are indeed breaking up with food, but trust me, you will learn that food is NOT your best friend. It is your crutch maybe, but certainly not your best friend. It's what got you to this point, it's what got all of us to this point.. friends don't do that. It's like the old friends don't let friends drive drunk.. LOL (well, I tried! ) Let your husband be supportive as he knows how, you will find if he's supportive now, he will probably be even more so afterwards. Mourn food, it's ok to do that and start a new kind of relationship with it... Accept his support the way he is offering it, it sounds like he's trying. He probably doesn't know exactly what you are going through, how could he? He's not in your shoes..My husband has always been thin too and never struggled with is weight... BUT he saw me struggle, he saw me cry, he saw me hate myself and go up and down for years.... he shared that pain with me and he was there to hold me and remind me that he loves me for me too during those times. That was support! I was sleved 11/15 and I was very scared, but I'm doing great and I am glad I did it. Hopefully you will too. Feel free to reach out anytime for support, there is a lot of support here that was given to me and I'm happy to give it to you as well! Hang in there!! You are not alone, we are all in this together and understand!

I was sleeved on 11/15 and would be happy to connect with anyone ande a buddy! We are all in this together and this site has been a tremendous resource and support for me!

YES!! That is exactly where I had it.. lasted about a week then it subsided. Use the gasx-X strips, they do help!

Just checking in, how is everyone doing?? I had my surgery on 11/15 so I'm one month out and down 19 lbs! Yeah! My goal was to be down 20 lbs by Xmas so hopefully I will be able to lose 1 lb this week to meet that goal! Hope everyone is doing good!!

I use EAS protein shakes and there is one that is Chocolate FUdge and has 42 g of protein! It is a little thick, but it definitely helps me to get in my protein for the day because I also find it hard to get all 75-80 g of protein in and then another 50-60 oz of water on top of that. They are tasty and you can get them in Walmart or ShopRite or on line. They also have a carb free one that I haven't tried yet but has 30 g of protein. Those I think you have to order, haven't found them in the stores yet.

Hi! I was sleeved on 11/15 (one month tomorrow!) and I was 219, today I am 201 so only 18 lbs. I'm very upset about it but it's better down then up. I just don't understand why I'm losing soooo slowly! I have PCOS, so that could be part of it, but fortunately the numbers are going down! I see my surgeon today and I'm hoping that his scale shows the same thing, but it's always about 3 lbs higher than my scale! Maybe he can explain to me why it's so slow for me and like many of you, I see folks losing 25+ the first week! It's all good as long as the scale is going in the right direction!

My surgery date is 2 days away, 11/15 in NJ. Wondering if anyone else is having surgery the same day? I see a lot for this week, but not much for 11/15. Can't believe it is only 2 days away, we set this date in September! I'm sort of numb and nervous all at the same time!

I had surgery on 11/15 and like you I have stabbing pain depending on how I move on the left side between the left and center incisions. The two incision sites themselves aren't really sore much, but the area in between... WOW.. some days are worse than others, but there are times where it feels like a knife and it burns. I did ask the about 2 weeko and they said that was the side where most of the work was done a the stomach was pulled through. I go back this Friday and plan to discuss it again. Makes getting in and out of the car a real treat. You aren't alone!

I went through the exact same thing and I was sleeved on 11/15. I was scared to death, went through all the emotions, fears and what if's....For me though, it came down to a few questions and answers: How many times had I tired to lose weight before? Every year, every diet out there since I was 13 How many times had I succeded at losing? less than 5 How many times did I keep the weight off? NONE How many times did I gain the weight back plus at least 20 lbs? EVERY SINGLE TIME, YEAR after YEAR Has my health improved or declined due to the weigh roller coaster? Declined How much medication was I on for Co-Morbidities? Too much A quote someone once told me rang in my head...."If you always do what you have always done... you will always get the same results and what you've always gotten".... that was so true of my diet yo-yo.... I thought about how much better I felt when I was able to lose weight, even if it never stayed off. I thought about how I wanted to feel confident and not embarrassed ever time I saw someone or had to go somewhere. Then I thought about my family, my husband and my children. As scared as I was about surgery, I was more scared of not being there for them some day because of my weight.. I wanted to see my kids grow up, graduate, reach their goals and dreams, see my grandchildren.... I realized I was worth it and that even though this was the biggest risk of my life, I had to do it. I tried everything else out there, I could either continue down the destructive path I was on or take a leap of faith and hope that this surgery would help me. This isn't to say I wasn't scared to death! I had to decide what I wanted more.. my health, a normal weight or the food and the comfort of staying the same....The day of the surgery before they brought me in , I started to cry becauseI was scared. My husband, my doctor, the nurses, they were all wonderfully reassuring and calming. As they wheeled me into the OR, we were singing Christmas Carols down the hallway together.. an hour and a half later the surgery was over, I was fine and 2.5 weeks out, I'm down 14 lbs. Only YOU can ask yourself why you have considered this option and what has lead you to this poit and only YOU can make the decision for YOU. Don't listen to anyone else, (except maybe your spouse), this is NOT their journey or their life or their struggle. Whatever decision you make, it will be the right one for you. If you don't get the surgery you will find what is right for you.. Good luck!!

Congrats! Glad all went well!

Hi Friends, I was sleeved on 11/15 and I just don't feel very successful. To date I've lost only 14 lbs. At the beginning of week 2 I had a complete stall and even gained a pound and I was mostly on clear liquids at the time! How is that even possible.. now here I sit, 19 days out and only 14 lbs gone. I'm not hungry, not thirsty but I am trying my hardest to get in all the liquid and protein (45-60 oz liquid and 75-85 g protein) per day but I know I don't always reach that goal. I don't start on mushy foods until week 4 so I have another 1.5 weeks on this stage. I'm as active as I can be so I don't know what is going on but I know that small amount of weight loss is depressing to me. I am following all of my orders perfectly. One other question for some of you who have been through this! I have an incision on the left where the camera was and of course the one in the middle where the stomach came out. Between those two it is soooo sore that it feels like a thousand knives stabbing me if I bend over. Doc office says it's the muscle and probably needs to heal a bit more but OMG it's so sore! Anyone else experience this? It is literally between those two incisions. Yes, the incisions are sore, but gosh the area between them is so much worse in terms of soreness. All the other incisions are fine, no issues. Thanks!

I was sleeved 11/15 in NJ. I had no nauseau or pain, sore of course, and the gas/reflux was pretty bad (get those Gas X strips!) but that was because they fixed a hiatal hernial. I'm doing really well, so far down about 11 lbs per my scale. I'm eating protein shakes, sf jello & pudding, plain/vanilla yogurt (non fat), I can have milk, oatmeal, pureed veggies, mashed potatos, broth or pureed soup, SF Ice pops, crystal light, tea, water, gatorade etc. The yogurt cup or jello/pudding cup is about a serving for me per meal. I'm doing fine, don't feel overly hungry, my body tells me when I need to eat and I'm listening to it. Supposed to get about 45-60 oz of liquid plus 70-85 g of protein per day.. I feel like all I do is eat and drink trying to get it all in! After 3 weeks of soft/puree foods, then I will move to more of a solid. I'm glad I did it, and I was a nervous wreck! Good luck to everyone having their surgery this week and in the coming weeks. It truly does get better every day.

Good luck to everyone being sleeved this week and next! I am 5 days post op and though sore, so far so good all things considered!

So how are all my Nov 15th pals doing? I'm doing ok but wow am I sore. The gas pain in my sternum has been giving me a hard time and my eyes went blurry for a few days, but other than that I guess I'm doing ok. I can't take the liquid pain medicine, makes me dry heave just thinking about it it takes so bad!! The incident last night literally threw my back out and made 2 of the incisions that weren't sore, sore. I keep reminding myself of the end result for doing this to myself. Once we get past the next few days, hopefully things will be more normal. food totally repulses me, nothing looks appealing and everything tastes differently. Anyone else have this?

Hi Everyone, So I had my surgery on Thursday 11/15. According to my doctor all went well, no leaks or concerns. I can't say that it's been easy, but I'm hoping as the days go on I will think it was worth it. There were some positives, I did not get sick after surgery, I did not have a lot of pain, but those IV Pain Meds were a wonderful thing! I had some strange side effects such as my eyes being totally blurry on anything smaller than a TV screen. I couldn't use the computer or read a magazine because I couldn't seen the letters. It's getting a little better but not 100% yet. Got home on Friday afternoon with a bag full of meds. The other strange side effect is if feels like my sternum area is full of gas and soo painful, it radiates under my left breast to my back. Everytime I drink it feels as if it gets stuck there and then goes down. DANG that hurts!! My back is killing me now. Can't take the liquid pain meds... I tried and tried, but it made me dry heave every single time, the taste is god awful with the last time being the worst and all I was doing was thinking of taking it. The incisions haven't been too painful at all, until that last dry heave incident. I have 4 incisions and 3 are right where the pants waistband goes.. not east to wear pants! LOL Another funny thing I've noticed is that food totally repulses me. Just to look at it, even on the TV, just totally repulses me, I can't look at it. I tried to have some chicken broth last night, but it felt like I was eating a bowl of salt.. YUCK, couldn't do that either. So, I'm trying to get some liquids in, I know I'm not getting enough, I know that for sure. Hopefully today will be better. I also haven't been able to sleep since coming home. Sure, I may doze off here and there for a half hour or so, but over night, nope I'm up all night long. Everyone keeps telling me that day 4 & 5 is the turning point. I sure hope so because I'm really uncomfy right now. Not trying to scare anyone, but did want to be honest with my experience so far. Many folks have said this is normal, so I hope so!! Good luck to everyone having surgery this week and going forward.

Hi! Well today is the day, my surgery day! Hard to believe it's finally here considering I made the appt back in early Sept. I have to be at the hospital at 11, surgery is at 1. I'm trying to breath and keep calm, reinforing to myself that everything will be ok and I will be ok.. but wow, I think once I hit that hospital, I'm going to be very nervous once they start hooking me up. I'm scared, I know that, but again, I'm trying to keep myself calm. I know I must do this if I want to stop this weight cycle! See you on the loser's bench!

Thanks for the tip! I'll take all the tips I can get now. Getting scared!

Good luck to all my fellow Nov 15th'ers!!! Today is our day! Sending prayers and well wishes to everyone. Let's touch base when we can! i don't go in until 11, surgery is at 1. Hugs!

So glad to hear all went well! Mine is tomorrow afternoon! I have to admit your description of throwing up air was comical! Best of luck to you!

So frustrated!!! I got told I don't go in until 1pm tomorrow and I had requested specifically a morning appointment for vaious reasons (child care being the biggest) and that I know me, waiting around, I may get so nervous and anxious I may chicken out. I'm so upset. the she said to me you're getting the band right? UM NOOOOO I'm getting the sleeve!!! Oh yeah, it's on here, right the sleeve, she says to me.. Grrr... Apparently they got bumped from the OR... MY LUCK.. little and none.. part of why I'm so nervous about the surgery! If it wasn't for bad luck, I'd have no luck....Ugh I could just cry, now I have to try and figure this all out.

LOL I feel the same way Beetracy!! I am unusually calm and today when I took 15 minutes staring into my closet trying to figure out what to wear to work and what actually fits me I realized that YES this is the right thing to do because I can't continue to go on like this! I, Like you, am wondering if this is the calm before the storm and that I will all of a sudden have a melt down at the hospital once they start to wheel me in! Good luck tomorrow!

Thats so wonderful and for someone who's nervous and has surgery in 2 days (11/15) it's very inspiring and gives me hope that one day I will be able to do all those wonderful things again!!

Hi Fellow Nov 15th sleevers!! Good luck to all of you and safe travels to those of you going to other locations!! I wish you nothing but the best and will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers as we experience this journey together. Please send updates when you can on how you are doing and I will do the same. I'm scared, numb, nervous all wrapped up into one! Hugs!!

Good luck to you also tomorrow! Let us know how you are doing!!

When do you leave for Mexico and how long do you have to stay there?? Good luck to you!! We need to check in with each other and see how we are doing after surgery! I'm having a hard time believing it's 2 days away and of course, second guess myself. However, I've tried everything!! You will be in my prayers that your surgery goes well! Keep in touch and let me know how you are doing and I will do the same!