Thank you guys so much! I've never done any kind of forum or message board or anything before so it's super cool how many people responded. Red, youre exactly right, it's the permanence of it thats freaking me out I think. Cuz if it's wrong, it's wrong forever. Yikes. I think about my sister alot too though.she and I have always been the big ones in our family, and I almost feel kinda guilty that she'll have to be "the fat one" now, as she put it. shes def not making me feel guilty, thats all me. Jesus. This is bringing out way more baggage than I thought. I'm gonna need therapy lol. I am def going to keep involved here while this whole thing happens, I already kinda feel better talking about it. Laters!