LadyK

BUT, I shall remain a lady and be calm...I am absolutely livid at the fact that I am EXACTLY 8 weeks tomorrow and I know it's Thanksgiving, but this has been going on for 9 weeks now (1 week pre-op) I have discussed this several times with my husband about us changing our eating habits together. Pre-op was hell week for me because I had to fight my own self with cravings and still had to watch my husband eat whatever he wanted. I am so hurt and sad right now I want to cry, but I won't cause I just don't feel like talking about it again, when I feel so angry as well. He just came in with 2 bags of chips, 2 packs of cookies, and a pecan pie. I didn't say anything, but he said well I figure it's Thanksgiving tomorrow, and your going to eat dessert over your mom's anyway, you might as well eat some tonight. At that point I kept my cool, but I am so ready to take all of that stuff and throw it off the nearest cliff...How do I get my family on board with eating portions and in moderation, I don't have a problem with a treats ,but that much all at once is getting old. I used to be able to put most of that away in a matter of minutes, but not anymore I refuse to go back to 480 lbs....as I sit here calmly with my protein shake please give me some suggestions to change the eating habits here. We are raising 2 girls and it would hurt my heart to see them look in the mirror at themselves and see what I used to see...I also love my husband dearly, he has high bp too, I want him to get healthy too. It's been 8 weeks and I think it's getting to be ridiculous with the portions. I'm trying to remain calm, over the weeks I've cried, screamed and not said anything, what else do I do?....

Thank you everyone for the encouragement and advice, I'll let him alone about it and let him make the decision. I will continue on and love him anyway and pray he sees different for his health sake

Yes, I would let him alone, but my children see me not eating much, and see him not eating many veggies, and bringing home too many sweets, it's conflicting for them they are only 9 and 7. I want us both to set the path together for healthy and normal eating habits. I can't just not say anything because it's always in the back of my mind what if he never stops, and we could have spent 50 more years together, but only got 20. I can't bear the thought of doing this alone, and l couldn't imagine him trying to raise two girls by himself either. I could never forgive myself if I never said anything, but I have said to him what was needed to be said and I agree with you, I will continue, and let my actions influence him, I've lost 59lbs already, I hope that he will listen soon. Thank you

Thanks for your responses, I really appreciate it I feel a little, better, not angry, but I still want to cry, this is so hard because he asked me to cook the cookies....I'm trying not to be the nagging wife, but it just scares me. Especially when he told me the other day when he woke up he couldn't see out of one of his eyes, that used to happen to me when my bp was too high.

tjloser, yes I thought about this too, but my girls are very young, and my husband I love him and don't want him to have a stroke eating like he does, I need him here, we have to raise our girls together. Yes I did make this decision, but before I decided this we both discussed him changing his habits too. I don't want to force him but I want him to see what this could possibly do to himself and our children, I want them to learn now about how to eat properly, my 9 yr old already inhales her food and it scares me. Jennie LOL yes that's a good idea, I'll ask for flowers

That's right, girl Keep your chin up and keep it moving. I truly believe when we receive backlash because of our choice to have the surgery, the other person feels threatened and jealous, don't know why because you are doing this for your health, God is a povider and protector, you'll be fine and healthy!

Add cayenne pepper to the mix, just a dash or two, or more for spicy. Thanks for this idea!

Yep! I am trying this! I love deviled eggs, but the low-fat mayo just doesn't taste right to me in it.

I'm sorry to hear this, and I think it's only temporary. How much protein do you get everyday?, because my NUT told me if I didn't get enough, it could cause hair loss, as well as a vitamin deficiency. I have 70-80 grams of protien a day plus my b-complex has biotin in it, that is supposed to help with your hair. So far I haven't had any hair loss, I'm only 7weeks out. It will stop for you, feel better

stop drop and roll and smack flap, then we got folks spontaneously combusting LMBO OOOOO you all are making me hurt myself laughing

You look awesome! I can't wait to buy new clothes Keep it up!

The smaller pills they made me swallow in the hospital, the bigger ones I broke in half. I was able to swallow the larger pills at about 4-5 weeks, I'm 7 weeks almost 8 now. They told me also not to swallow any pill larger than the size of an M&M at first. It varies for everyone, ask your surgeon and then test it, if it doesn't go down try breaking them in half, that's better than crushing. I had one nurse crush my pills in the hospital for her shift, and I was sick the entire time she was there , I'm glad the other nurses make me take the meds they brought whole or broke in half.

You are doing great! Everyone loses at different rates, just keep on doing what you are doing.

That's wonderful! You look great!

You can use a blender or a food processor. I bought a Ninja blender from Meijer and it came with the tall blender pitcher and a tiny container with blades in it as well that I used to puree my food.

I have hip pain on one side, but I think my hip pain is attributed to them being misaligned. This started after I had my first daughter and it progressively got worse with the second baby. I also have pain in my tailbone too now, I'm currently looking for a chiropractor. A bad mattress can hurt your hips as well. Maybe the excess skin on your tummy is pulling your lower back so your walking differently? Call your surgeon or PCP or even try to find a chiropractor. I hope this helps and I hope your hip pain goes away.

I'm not sure? What are you mixing your shakes with water or are you using milk, yogurt? Those can add extra calories, but usually not enough to make you gain. Sorry I couldn't offer more help. I'm sure someone will know

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OH WOW around of applause LMBO that is exactly what I hear! I'm so glad I didn't have a mouth full of water when I read this or I would need a new laptop now LOL

I can't wait too! I've always been flexible, but the added padding made it hard to move into certain positions, but since I've lost 59lbs I definitely notice a difference in leg placement Victoria Secret and Lover's Lane is calling my name to buy some stuff, I can't wait till I loose more

Aww hugs to you :wub: I don't think you are crazy, I am a SAHM too and I know EXACTLY how you feel, matter of fact everything you have described in your post is how I felt day in and day out, didn't want to go anywhere, do anything or see anybody, and every time I went to the grocery store I felt people were watching me and laughing at me which probably wasn't the case, but it felt like that to me. My husband would tell me I was beautiful, even at 480lbs, and all I saw when I looked in the mirror was a fat cow. I hated to look in the mirror. Then because of all of these feelings of absolute despair about my self image, I would eat to make myself feel better, and the vicious cycle continued. I decided to have the surgery because I felt it wasn't fair to my children or husband and my poor dog, that on beautiful sunny warm days, I would rather look out of the window. As surgery got closer I put the emotional eating in check with prayer for the strength to realize when I needed to eat, and when I needed to express myself another way besides eating. My husband needs to lose weight too, and when I said I was going to get the surgery, he said he would eat healthy with me, that quickly went out of the window the first day of my pre-op diet he went to Taco Bell and ate in front of me. God know I love him so, but I have made up my mind that I will eat healthy normal portions no matter what, and choose what I will put in my mouth. I refused to buy any more clothes too, I only had about 3 or 4 shirts that I rotated. After you get your sleeve and the weight begins to come off, you'll feel so much better and want to get out of the house. I can't wait now for next summer! The time will fly by even though while your waiting it will seem like an eternity LOL but before you know it it will be your turn! Don't get discouraged, keep your chin up

I was nervous going to my surgeon today about having to step on the scale...I did and I started at 480, and today's grand total was 421 lbs WOOT!! This is so amazing to me, never in life have I lost this much at once!!