Thanks everyone, I appreciate your insights,
I have two children with autism, and my husband was recently diasnosed with terminal form of early dementia, so they are the resons I decided to have the surgery and now it is like they are the reasons I feel like I should not get it, God forbid I become one of the low percentages of people with complications, I am just so worried about everything no it is rushing through my mind like a movie in fast forward. I certainly know the reality that cancelling last minute is a big deal and maybe if I decide I want it my doctor will tell me to take a hike, IDK, I just don;t think that is a reason I should not cancel if I have doubts?
I am 40 years old, 5'3" and I weight 255 pounds.
Right now I am fairly healthy despite being obese but that is not the reason I decided to cancel
I am just soo scared I will be hurt in surgery, have a bad reaction to something, get really sick, the life style changes are not my worry, I am all my family has, if I am somehow injured from this, where will we all be?
I am just all the sudden saddled with the weight of the world..and I felt fairly good up until they called me with the time I was suppose to report to the hospital
Not sure I made the best or the worst decisionmof my life