TinyMamiOf3kids

Thanks for sharing your story with us. I'm so glad you got the help you needed & you didn't give up. Congrats

If your pain it's out of hand. Go to the emergency room. You can't be suffering.

Thanks everyone...

Yes I went threw a stall at 3 months

Always think positive & everything will work it's self out

Good luck with him. I'm so glad you are happy with this doctor.

I didn't have a questionnaire to fill out. The lady ask me question one on one,and I simply answer them. I was asked about the reason why I want to have WLS,and if anyone was forcing me. If my hubby is complaining. Family history,and such. Basically to see if I was nuts or something. Like some people have spouse that are like always telling them to lose weight or they leaving them,and such so she wanted to make sure that wasn't the case. So I did well and she said she approve of me having WLS cuz I have all the good reasons for having it done. I was there for about 20/30 minutes

My husband used to tell me this all the time. You know what stoped it. I said I will get skinny one day,and you will see. Wala I did... I will get a good paying job ,and I did for 5 years. Seems like everytime I say I will do something I make it happen so I think be believes I'm able to make it by my self,and I tell him the day I leave you. You will remember me forever cuz I'm taking everything,and not only that get prepare for child support cuz your ass won't have a penny left over so keep on with your crap it won't get you far. I can't lose but you will lose everything. Your an old man,and you should be glad a very young woman pay attention to you,and gave you more kids. I can start my life over,but no one in this earth will put up with you as long as I have,but if you find someone good luck to her cuz she sure will need it. Paying bills it's not all there is to life. I don't work but I get income every month so I'm able to pay my own bills. One time I did say I owe $1000 on my amex bill so I went and pay $500 and he was shock. I was like who told you I couldn't pay my bills. In the mean time let him pay them LMBO more money in my pocket,but I'm realizing as time goes by I will be able to make it on my own. What messes me up is I'm disable(doctor disable me due to back injury at work) so I'm not able to sit long or stay long,but I'm determine to make it work. If I have to get a job off the books to get income that doesn't affect my back as much I would take it. I'm not a lazy woman. I'm even willing to babysit,but that's a little difficult if I have to lift kids,but I have a back brace so that helps with carrying stuff. I'm so glad you find someone that loves you. That's a really nice story. I always think of you,and if you made it so can I. You inspire me. How long after leaving hubby you found new love? I always feel that I will become a lesbian or never ever get with someone else ever again. or stay with B.O.B. (battery operated boyfriend)

That's on my to do list for the future looking for a man deaf & mute LMBO that sure made me laugh.

You can't teach an old dog new tricks. Can't teach a man anything new. He does have to want to change to make things better. I'm no fool. I'm saving my money,and that day will come that I will decide leave or stay. The worst about him is his mouth. He would be perfect if he was MUTE! lmbo I'm not a maid so I'm not killing my self cleaning or anything so if he wants to bitch about a messy home so be it. When I'm good,and ready,and especially the winter comes back it will be almost perfect again. I don't hang out as much. In the winter I'm like the squirrel I hide all winter,and come out in the summer. So I have all the time in the world to get my house in order. This is the only time I look good,and manage to stay slim so there for I'm enjoying the attention from men,and the nice weather. So the chores,and all the crap can wait. I'm 21 years younger then hubby so I think it's normal to be jealous,and think the wrong thing. I'm not siding or agreeing with his behavior he has no excuses,but I understand how he feel. Heck I don't wanna be in here my self. Messy house isn't my thing so I run away my self. LMBO I have a lot to think of,and I know the outside world being alone isn't fun or easy. With the exception of food money I don't know what is like to live off the government to be a low income person,and I don't look forward to it neither. I want to have my own place,and say I bought it my self or I pay my own rent but if worst comes to worst I'm not living on the streets. I have to suck in my PRIDE and get off my high horse,and accept whatever government help is out there to avoid living on the streets,and then having unhappy children. I appreciate everyone opinions,and I'm not offended or feel I'm being judge or anything so you can continue to reply,and such. I read,and I comment back when I get a chance thanks

My B.O.B. wasn't expensive,and I don't go threw tons of batteries. I had it about 3 years now.

Thanks everyone

I hate the poster lmbo kidding but unfortunately I don't know if its cheat cuz I'm 1 year out & today I made a BBQ and ate steak & 2 bites of hotdogs & more steak & the worst I had soda. I haven't had soda in months cuz I did like 6 months post up. I feel guilty then again I don't. I'm 109 pounds. So it doesn't matter but now I'm suffering my stomach doesn't feel well

I will not miss size 18 jeans I will not miss XL clothes I will not miss big hands

If it was like he put his hands on me,and of course I'm not looking forward to that,but nothing would hold me back. I know I'm not the only woman that lived a lone or have kids,and live alone. I'm not used to the so called lower class life. I'm in the middle class,and want to stay here forever. I'm not money hungry,and I don't think I'm all that or better then anyone,but I got used to a certain life style that I don't want to change. Teenager most of them don't like being told what to do. I see there relationship,and she doesn't want to work on anything. She would rather spend with the boyfriend father then her own father. How is a relationship between a father & daughter will get better when she wants to be apart. No marriage is perfect! No relationship between family/sibling is perfect. If she leaves she will struggle in life unnecessary. There is no need to leave and do what is your job going to pay you enough to live. If it doesn't work,and it's not peaches & roses I will open the doors of my home for her again. I will not turn my back on her,but I'm not going to pay her bills or shop for her. She has all that at home for free. She leaves on her own free will. I'm not responsibility for her actions once she leaves. She should try to work things out. He calls her a pig,but she is messy & disorganized that makes him a bad father. I don't think so. He doesn't know how to say things yeah,but still if you pay mind to his words he's being honest. heck! I'm the best cook & horrible housekeeper

Congrats best wishes

When you are ready you will do it. There are options. It takes longer but go to a dietician to show you how to portion food size. Jenny Craig weight watchers. Surgery isn't the only way people lose weight. When you are ready you will lose weight. No judgment here. We area support group not enemies

I'm going to be honest here. I love my hubby,and there is nothing I wouldn't do for him,but his verbal abuse must stop. I understand being jealous,and especially now that I'm slim,but it doesn't matter. He should treat me with love & respect. There is no counseling for this man. He is in counseling which turn out to only be for my daughter since he wasn't cooperating. All he kept talking about is his job,and fishing. Instead of the issue,and reason they are attending counseling in the first place. The therapist basically gave up on trying to help him. I know the type,and kind of person he is so of course I won't tell him I'm planning on leaving unless it's 100% sure,and I only have months or days till I move out. Who knows if this marriage can be saved. Now: up date my 16 year old said she is planning on moving out a few moments ago. She is waiting to turn 18 and she can't deal with him anymore,and how he treats us all. She feels things will get worst,and she doesn't want to be here anymore. She would love for me to leave with her when she turns 18 that's in 2 years,and I can't do it. She is leaving out of anger,and she has no ideas what's like to pay rent each,and every month. That's not easy. She will learn a life lesson leaving cuz you don't like your father,but then not having money to pay rent or buy food. I feel sorry for her. She's not prepare for life,and neither is her boyfriend. She has a little work experience,but the boyfriend never work,and will be turning 18 in June. Two people that don't know about life living together. I would love to see how this turns out. I'm willing to accept my daughter back home,but things will get worst cuz hubby will throw it in her face every chance moving in with a bum,and having to do it all. You thought he was the one,and look your back home now. It will never end,and she rather live on the streets then hear him talking shit. Oh well let's see what happens. She thinks oh I'm saving money I can do it all. Having $600 saved up doesn't pay rent or food. If she thinks I'm going to keep giving her extra money to leave me I'm not. She will get the allowance we agree on,and nothing more not with the plans she has. She wants to leave let her bust her ass like I did as a teenager working & attending school. If I make it easy she will not learn how hard it is to make a dollar. The boyfriend is saving from his allowance. Every time I turn around my daughter is buying him something a candy or something like wtf she's gonna support his ass also/

Thanks everyone you guys are the best. You kept me motivated & moving forward. You know I had kids issues marriage issues heck! Even food issues things are falling into place

Congrats & speedy recovery

Welcome to the group & congrats on your set date.

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