jackie506

Hi I am Jackie and the one person in the world that I DID NOT want to know about this found out today. My mother in law. SHe is a wonderful person but I feel that she is judgemental in anything that has to do with weight. I have heard her talk about several of her friends (after they are out of ear shot) about how much weight they have gained or 'they are bigger than she ever was and comments like this. I made up my mind when I decided to have the band she is the one person I didn't want to know. Last night she asked DH how my doctors appointment went. She thought I was seeing my PCP for an annual. He told her good but she has high cholesterol because I just found that out Thursday. Today she shows up at the house and asked me how the app went. I told her good. SHe said everything ok. I said yes. She said what about your cholesterol and she looked at me like I know so don't lie. I told her yes it was high and she said are you on medicine I said no we are going to control it with diet. She then said 'Jackie what is going on. You have been going to alot of doctors appointments the last couple of months.' I told her nothing was going on and she got this very concerned look and sincerely asked me again and stated she knew something was going on and she wanted to know if I was really sick, if I had been diagnosed with something and I just didn't want to tell people. I couldn't lie after looking her in the face (I suck at lying!!!) and I just said 'ok I will tell you what is going on but you have to promise me you will say NOTHING to ANYONE and I do not want to feel like I am being judged by you. I am having weight loss surgery on July 23rd and I didn't want you or DH family to know because I feel you guys will judge. The only reason I am telling you is because you are really concerned and because I can not lie.' She sat back stunned!!!! She then said 'I promise I will not tell a soul and no I do not judge you. 3 of my friends have had weight loss surgery that by pass.' I said this is not like the by pass and that I will not be lossing weight as fast as people who get the by pass. I told her that I do not want to feel judged if she sees me eating something or if I am not losing as fast as she THINKS I should be according to what she has seen with her friends. She told me she will not judge again but to be honest I am soooooo angry with DH for saying ANYTHING to her. I love her to pieces but damn it she is THE ONE I did not want to know. I think everyone has 'the one' they don't want to know and she is mine. I feel so discouraged tonight now. DH has apologized numerous times and feels terrible but it is not his fault. He didn't tell her about the surgery jsut about the cholesterol but I just couldn't look her in the eyes when I knew she was genuinely concerned and lie to her. UUUUGHGGGHHHHHHHH:faint:

Cazulay I know what you mean also. I have a friend whom I used to go out to eat with 1-2 times a week. On the outside she tries to be supportive but I can't help but notice how since I started my liquid diet this last monday she talks about food everytime we talk or are together. Thursday we were in Kmart and she knows I love cotton candy and when we walked by it she said 'there's cotton candy......no more of that anymore.' I said that is ok (because honestly I haven't been hungry or craving anything since starting this liquid diet.......totally amazing myself) it doesn't even sound good.' She then said well I think it does so she picked up 2 containers. Then we are riding together in my car we get in and I asked her to hand me one of my protein drink from the cooler and she does and then opens her cotton candy and says 'you are going to get low blood sugar and you need some sugar in your system. I don't know how you can do it because I know I couldn't.' I told her I was fine and I am following my doctors and nutritionsists rules and I wasn't even hungry. Then she goes on to tell me about her fish sandwhich and fries for lunch. I just ignored and kinda had to laugh to myself. Then last night she calls me on the way home from the rocery store to see whatI am doing. I told her drinking my beef broth and reading. She goes on to tell me she just got groceries and is on her way home to make a taco bake and that she bought sweet corn yesterday and had that with their lunch and how good it was. I said to her 'you know that doesn't even sound good to me anymore and the broth actually is really good tasting and I can honestly say I am not hungry. Then I asked if she wanted to go for a bike ride with me today and she said no it is going to be to hot. I think she is having a hard time adjusting to the change and I am realizing how much she obviously centered our friendship around food. I hope that we can maintain a good friendship and I am sure over time it will get better. I don't know. It will have to be her choice. I think of her much more than just a 'food buddy' and I hope she does as well. Good luck with your friend also. I know how frustrating it can be. It makes me angry. Not because I am hungry and want to eat but because I feel like she is trying to sabatoge me. I am doing this for myself and my health and I am not asking her to help me but to be courteous and stop trying to make me 'jealous' of her eating. If I wanted to eat I would. If I didn't want to be healthy I would not go for the band but I have made my choice and my commitment to myself. Sorry for suck the long rant. I am just frustrated with her right now and needed some place to vent about it with people who understand. On the upside 9 days til I am banded:whoo::whoo::whoo:

Hi everyone. Hope everybody is doing great. Just wanted to update everybody. Met with my surgeon yesterday for my pre op and had my pre op testing. The pulmonologist cleared me so everything is a go on the 23rd for sure. I am now inked into the surgery schedule instead of penciled in. The surgeon told me yesterday that they found that I have (and I quote him) 'alarmingly high cholesterol'. Didn't even know I had that. Just something else that reassured me that what I am doing is the right thing. I started my pre op diet of clear liquids last monday on the 9th. I have to do 2 weeks prior to surgery of clear liquids and then 2 weeks after. So far it really has not been bad. I have been drinking 3 boost breeze, 10 oz of orange juice and 8 oz of tomato juice along with SF jello/popsicycles and chicken or beef broth. I can honestly say to my amazement I have not been hungry. Others in the house have helped with some of the cooking and that has helped to. I really thought I would be starving but I haven't hit that yet. When ever I want something I just get up and eat a jello or something. Hope everyone is doing good and enjoy the weekend.

Ok. So today was my first dy of the liquid diet. I HATE IT!!!! I have drank the Boost Breeze, eaten some jell-o with Bene protein in it and I think I am about to float away! My kids cooked pizza for themselves tonight and I am setting in my bedroon sipping on my Boost Breeze Fruit drink. Whoopppeeee. LOL I am sorry I know most everyone has to go through this I just had to rant a few minutes. I have a question though. My doc requires a 2 week pre op of clear liquids and then 2 weeks post op clear liquids. Has anyone else had this long and is it 'easier' after surgery or are we still 'starving'. I have told myself all day that I only have 13 more days on this crappy liquids before surgery and then my hope is that it is not as bad after. I know there is no restriction but maybe the mind set? Just looking for feedback from other bandsters. Can't wait!! I am almost there! I can not believe it.

64 oz. of Water, 8 oz. tomato juice, 8 oz orange juice, and 30 grams of Protein either by powder mixed in with something or a boost breeze. I don't know how they expect us to get all of this in.:cry I didn't even come close yesterday.

One day down. 13 more to go. How are we supposed to get all this liquid in in a day?!?!

Sorry I haven't posted in a while. Been busy and then we went on vacation. I don't do a lot of posting more lurking and reading than anything. Ok so I just started my liquid pre op today. My doc requires 2 weeks pre op of clear liquids and 2 weeks post op clear liquid. This SUCKS!! The kids cooked a pizza earlier and I swear it smelled so good. I don't even eat Tombstone pizze 99.99% of the time when they cook it but tonight I wanted to. Instead I just got my jello with beneprotein and a juice box of Boost Breeze and came on here to read and post. Had to leave the kitchen because the pizza was to tempting. I can't really say that I feel 'hungry' after eating the jello and drinking the boost but I can say that I am 'craving' the pizza. It is just a head thing right now. It is almost 10pm and now is when I think my struggle will start. I am one who eats apples and/or a bowl of melons at night while watching tv. I am going to try to just go to bed. I usually stay up until 1am but I am going to try to start going to bed earlier also. Anyway, hope everyone is doing great and good luck to all who are on deck this week.

Congrats on insurance approval. I am just starting my liquid stage today. My doc requires a 2 week pre op of clear liquids and a 2 week post op of clear liquids. They suggested Boost Breeze to me because I just can't handle slim fast and those kinds of suppliments. They also suggested Bene protein because it has no flavor. I have made some jello and added the beneprotein to it and it really doesn't taste so that is what I will be using. The boost breeze are not bad at all. They come in 3 different flavors (mixed berry, orange and I can't remember the other) They are really convenient too because they come in fruit juice boxes (like a kids juice box) and they each have 9 grams of protein. I only have to drink 3 of these a day and eat 1 cup of jello with beneprotein and I have the 30 grams of protein daily. It still has a little bit of after taste but not bad and nothing like those other shakes I tried. Good luck to you.

Everyone will need additional surgeries? I know that there are complications but I have never read that there is always additional surgeries. Please tell me more about this. Thanks

CONGRATS TO YOU ON LOSING ALMOST 200 LBS!!!! Hearing stories like this reiterates how well the band DOES work. I am scheduled for surgery on July 23 and can not wait. I want/need to lose 130 lbs and can't wait to start this journey!!

I don't know for sure just repeated what my psych said. I know that like I said myself, my mom and my cousin were all on it so I don't believe that it is rarely prescribed either. We all seen different docs and had it prescribed so you are right about being prescribed alot. I honestly am not sure how long it has been around. Like I said just repeating what I had been told.

Good luck lynnette. We will all be thinking of you. Hope to hear from you VERY soon!!! We want details!!! Take care and good idea to have everything done before going. I am the same way. I am a list person and I like everything totally tidy at all times and if I am gong away I will clean thoroughly before leaving so when I come home it is all done and I can be relaxed. Otherwise I would constantly be thinking of what needs to be done.

Thanks Karen for sharing your story. So sorry for your troubles with Nutcracker esophagus and losing the band. I will be banded on July 23rd and I can't wait. I am getting soooo nervous and even asking myself if I REALLY want to do this. I keep coming up with the same answer........YES. That is not to say that I am not scared of the complications that can arise but I keep telling myself they are rare and the band can be a wonderful tool. Good luck to you on your rouxenY surgery. I hope recovery goes very well for you. You are definately a fighter. I have thought many times what will I do if this doesn't work and I keep telling myself...this has to work this is the end of the line for me and I WILL make this work. Since being approved by insurance on the 20th of June I have lost 7 lbs. :whoo: Not sure if it is just because it is summer and I am more active or if I am subconsciously getting myself into the mode. I prefer to believe the latter.

Can I ask why you went from lapband to rny?

I agree!!! I was on seroquel and a few others about 4 years ago and I gained 100 lbs during that time. Can not for the life of me take it off. My mom, and cousin were/are on seroquel and they gained massive amounts also. I seen my cousin about 2 months ago and he had really lost weight. I asked him how he had lost so much and he said 'I quit taking me meds'. The pysch that I see now asked who prescribed seroquel for me because that is such an OLD med that is rarely used anymore. I told him who it was and he was surprised. Alot of the psychotropics and antidepressants have the side effect of weight gain. I used to work in a residential facility woth people with depression or other mental illnesses and I have seen the results several times. Good luck!

I have a CPAP and I do feel better in the morning. I notice I am getting up earlier in the morning and am not as tired during the day. I am not yawning ALL the time anymore.

I would call your surgeon and ask him as all doctors are different. I can not have anything other than Clear Liquids during my 14 days of pre op. Just give your doctor a call and see what he recommends.

Congratulations to you for taking control while you are so young. If you do not mind me asking where are you having it done and is insurnace paying for it? I am just interested because my daighter is 16 and we are wanting to get her banded but we were told our insurance won't pay until she is 18. Again congrats to you!!!

congrats congrats congrats to you!!!!!!!!!!:whoo::whoo:

Dini I am so sorry your experience has been terrible so far. Sounds like you need lots hugs compassion and it doesn't sound like your nurses were doing that well in that department. Take care girl!!!! We are thinking of you. :eek:

I just ordered a bracelet at creativemedicalid.com They had quite a few to pick from and were not bad in price. I was able to have my first name on the front and 4 lines with 19 charactors on each line on the back. I put line 1 adjust gastric band line 2 no blind NG tube line 3 Surgeon Glasscock line 4 my surgeons phone number and hospital # I am getting banded on July 23 so I will have it before surgery.

Welcome Roniker. Hello everyone else. Our days are coming soon. Can't wait/ 12 more days til I have to start liquids. Going on vacation July 5-8 and then have to start liquid diet on the 9th. Worked out pretty good for me. I have already done my shopping for the beneprotein and liquid meds and a few other things. Even bought myself a magic bullet mixer. I figure that will come in VERY handy through the mushy/puree period. Besides the family will love to make fruit smoothies and stuff as well. Everyone take care and I am thinking of you all. Can't wait to hear from you dini and hope you are comfortable during recovery

Thanks for that post alexandra. Makes me even more confirdent of my decision to be banded.

I got my approval over the phone of Friday that I was approved for rouxenY and told them that is not the surgery that I was applying for. My surgeons office had marked the wrong thing on my paperwork so so had to resubmit again. They were pretty sure I would be approved for lap band but couldn't give me the definate on riday because the review bourd had to relook at things for lap band. Today I got a phone call this morning that I am approved for Lap band. Took me 3 whole days from faxing info in the first time to getting approval for both surgeries. WOO HOO Surgery is scheduled for July 23. I already went out and bought some of the things on the list of things to have at home waiting for me when Icome home. Gas X, liquid tylenol, liquid Centrum Vitamins, flintstone vitamins, beneprotien, SF pop sickes, have a heating pad, small cans of orange juice and tomato juice (dr wants me to drin 1 per day) bought some new comfy clothes for the hospital, a bullet mixer to mix things up after surgery,Water, crystal lite. Anything else anyone else can think of? I would love you hear your input. I want to be well prepared for the comming home part. WOOOOOOHOOOOOOO I can't wait to begin my journey with you other bandsters!!!!!!!!:clap2::heh: