Layla

My impression is that you deceive yourself on a number of levels. All of us fat people do it. The most basic truth I ever told myself was "There is no way I will lose 100 pounds and keep it off without this surgery." I have lost 85 since July 2011. Your anecdotal comments about people in your family who are fat but still alive are a rationalization for not taking the step you know you need to take. And if you think you are "in the driver's seat" with your eating being your master, you need to think again. I know this sounds harsh, for which I apologize, but it is no service or help to you to encourage you to continue in self decpetion. You cannot lose the weight as much and as permanently as you should, or you would have done so. And as we ALL know, health is only a portion of our pain. Do you really like being treated by society like a person a little lower than a criminal? If you can honestly tell yourself that none of the fat hatred you are surrounded with every day hurts you, then by all means, yo-yo for the rest of your life. As for myself, I am overjoyed to have been sleeved, and HATED being fat every second (though really like myself in general) And I do NOT believe for a minute you'd be happy at 175 for the rest of your life. There are NO guarantees in this life, but the previous commenter, talking about this surgery having been done for decades for other medical reasons, is absolutely correct. The first few weeks post surg are not particularly easy, but I urge you to go with the sleeve if you can do it. And at the very LEAST, take a long cold look at what you are telling yourself about your problem with food. All the best...

Some restaurants will let you order from the kids menu. Other times, I eat a small portion of whatever my husband ordered. The portions are always WAY too big even for him. Or you can order a high protein appetizer , which works fine, and I STILL end up bringing somew of it home. So bring your leftovers home. If you don't eat it, someone else will.

Dear Lola, Here's an idea that has really saved me (and I was sleeved almost 6 MONTHS ago and STILL have a little nausea after eating once in a while.) My doc gave me a tablet that dissolves on the tongue called Phenergan. It clears up nausea almost instantly. BUT, sounds like you are having other issues as well, besides physical ones. If you have real depression, seek help for that forthwith, as well. Nothing in life that is worth having is easy to get. Don't mean to sound preachy, but it's true. Note that most people on this site are very happy post-op. We are USED to having our most important relationship in our lives with FOOD! This is suddenly and completely taken away, and THAT may be causing your depression. It's a shock, I can tell you that from my own experience. Now food is something I have to eat to keep alive, but other things can easily take it's place as your healthier obsessions. Distract yourself! Start a new book, or a craft project, or get active in politics, or volunteer work, or all of the above. If not, meds for depression may be in order. They work!