Jewel-in-the-rough

I'm SO glad to have stumbled on this discussion my first day on this site. I have been struggling with who and what to tell. I, too, am very outgoing and tend to say what I'm thinking, but I also agree that there is a very real stigma with WLS. While there is a part of me that wishes and wants for this to be an "easy way out," I know from all the research I've done that it will be anything but. The problem is, most people in our lives don't have even a fraction of the knowledge and understanding we now have after having the decision, researched it, jumped through all the testing/assessment hoops, etc. Yes, it's a powerful tool, but you're so right that the tool won't work without the person behind it using it properly. After reading everyone's thoughts and decisions on this, I think for now I'm sticking with my plan to tell only a few close friends and family members -- those I know I can count on for positive support. This is my journey to a healthier, happier me, and to the extent that I am able I won't let the world (and people) around me minimize the work, strength, courage, and determination that I am putting behind not just this decision but also the post-op road ahead. Thanks everyone! REALLY glad to have found this site and forum!

Thank you for sharing this! I have been struggling with who to tell and what to tell. I know surrounding myself with positive, supportive people will be critical to my success. Your letter gives me inspiration and reminds me that this is about ME, MY life, MY future, etc. Folks that are "with me," well come along! And those that aren't on board can get on another train! : D