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Congrats Aussie Girl. Way to go. I saw family today that I have not seen in a couple of months and they were raving over my weight loss. Comments were that I looked so much younger and more like when I was a teenager. Funny! I was a little uncomfortable with all the attention but at the same time very proud of myself. I have lost 43 pounds since surgery and the last month has really slowed. I am hoping it's just a temporary stall and I will be out of it soon. Just taking it one day at a time and doing what I know I am supposed to. Having trouble getting all my liquids in some days so hoping maybe I am just retaining Water as a result. I am trying to up my fluids and get exercise in.

I had diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, high tryglycerides, rheumatoid arthritis. I was 40 years old and did not want to let another year go by without addressing my weight. I had tried Jenny Craig, Weight Watchers you name it over the years and they all worked but the weight never stayed off. And when it returned it always brought a few friends along for the ride. I had surgery on 9/6/11 and already I have lost 43 pounds along with all of my medications. My blood sugar and blood pressure are now completely normal and I feel better than I have in over 15 years. I can walk and my confidence is coming back more every day. People tell me I am more outgoing, look younger and even my arthritis has improved. I only have ONE regret about WLS and that is that I didn't do it sooner. Good luck. Know that it is a lifestyle adjustment, one that I am still learning even now. But, it is so worth it. You are worth it.

Sounds like he is wondering if he made the right decision. Perhaps from what he was saying prior he truly thought he would lose you after WLS so he decided to leave you before that could happen. Not rationalizing this but just trying to explain the male mind... Now, he is hearing how much you have lost and how great you feel and he is second-guessing his decision. Well, tough luck for him. You deserve someone that will stay by your side no matter what and not run at the first hint of change. Keep going to your gym, smile and be pleasant and definitely keep the ear buds in. Talk casually but definitely don't hang around long. He will eventually get the message that you are not interested and will get uncomfortable and stop coming to the gym.

Prayers for you and you will do fine. I had no complications whatsoever other than some pain from the largest incision. Once that stitch dissolved I was feeling no pain. Welcome to the loser's bench.

Okay so here goes. I am dealing with something that I thought I'd never have to face again. I weighed this morning and the scale is reading 5 POUNDS more than it did before. I did have my TOM last week and maybe that is contributing? Not sure, but very upset, depressed, anxious and just plain sick about this. I had lost 43 lbs to date and now I am going in the wrong direction. I have been getting my Protein and fluids in but haven't been walking as much. The cold weather tends to aggravate my rheumatoid arthritis. :boxing_smiley: I have also had a lot of problems with constipation. I bought some miralax and started taking it yesterday, so hopefully it will help. I eat a couple of sausage links for Breakfast, a Protein shake for snack, a chicken breast with veggies for lunch, Powerade zero and Water throughout the day and some kind of meat or Soup for dinner or Peanut Butter on toast. So, its not like I'm eating more than I should. But, maybe I grazed a bit more last week during TOM. Just trying to figure out where this gain came from. Anyone have any thoughts, ideas, words of encouragement. I am struggling today.

Thanks LMD.

Thanks DEEVAH...

Thank you so much for your posts.. I really appreciate it. Last week was difficult for me between dealing with the TOM and my lingering depression over the loss of my brother in October. I have always eaten to deal with my feelings and I may have grazed a bit last week in response. I am committed to getting back to my exercise this week. If my arthritis won't let me walk, I will do my stationary bike instead. Thanks again. I am back on track and looking to see that scale go back down.

A heating pad or ice pack help with the side pain. Sorry for all the extra posts, but it won't let me edit my previous ones

oops forgot to mention I added plain isopure protein powder to the soup for extra protein. It seems to mix better with warm liquids.

Personally I couldn't stand plain broth so I used Campbell's Old Fashioned chicken Noodle Soup, heated it as directed adding a can of Water and then strained it. This allowed me to only get the liquid portion of it but it tasted like heaven after so many days of plain liquids. I highly recommend it. Once you can get to full liquids, dannon makes a great drinkable yogurt that I lived on those first few weeks. Also, the side incision hurts for a while because it is the largest incision and where they took your stomach portion out. This incision has a very deep stitch and until that stitch dissolves you may have a burning pain when bending or turning. I did. Mine finally dissolved at almost 4 weeks out and after that I had no pain whatsoever. It was rough for awhile though, I thought something was seriously wrong for a while but spoke to my nurse who reassured me it was normal. Having the sleeve is the "best" thing I have ever done for myself. It is the first time in a long time that I put myself first. I don't regret it a bit.

congratulations you look fabulous.

I had surgery the same date as you and haven't experienced any "flow" problems. Maybe ask your Dr about it at your next follow up?

My list includes the following: * Attend my 25 year reunion in 2013 and feel good about myself. * Buy clothes in the regular section of the store. It is ridiculous how matronly and high priced plus sized clothing is. * Get extensions until my hair grows long and thick. I am already thinning some after just 2 months. * Go to the amusement park and ride every single ride. * Take my son to Disney World. * Take a cruise with my Hubby for our 20th next year. * I will coach a youth cheerleading team next year.

September 6, 2011 and 43 pounds gone forever. I am halfway to goal.

what an inspiration. I am only 2 months out but already seeing NSV's.

I am proud of you and cant wait til it Happens to me.

I know exactly how you feel. I felt the same way. I would see pictures of myself and think who is that? I still felt like the young, healthy self I was before. I am slowly losing toward my goal and having to adapt to a new body to go along with my new outlook on life. You can do it. Just remember you've always been beautiful inside now the outside will just match.

Coops. I know exactly how you feel. I am slowly running out of clothes to wear. But, I still hate to try clothes on. Probably a carryover from when I had trouble finding anything that fit right. Now it seems I am between sizes and that is frustrating also. I can wear 16's and 18's. Down from 22/24. This is fabulous but so hard to go to work each day wearing pants that fit and shirts that billow in the wind. I hit my local thrift shop last weekend and found a black skirt and some khaki slacks for around $7 total. That was nice. Unfortunately, you really have to dig through to find quality items and I wasn't able to find anything additional I could use. I am hoping to put off buying majorly until I am closer to my goal. I constantly stall for 2 weeks and then drop 5 lbs. So, overall I am close to 4.5 pounds a week loss and almost 1/2way to goal. So I am trying to stay focused.

Bottom line you are still the same person he fell in love with. Sure you get more attention now but he loved you before. Tell him that means more to you than anything that someone else could offer now. This is about his insecurities and only he can fix that. He should take the attitude of she's with me eat your heart out. Hang in there. Pray about this. He has to trust you or you have bigger issues.

Hope it gets better soon. You and little one are in my thoughts & prayers.