SG-Hubby

Making this again tonight by request:) I just hope Sleevegirl-TX gets some, the kids love it too!

Hiya Dawnie, My wife had VSG surgery right after your boyfriend. (Shout out the sleevegirl-tx!) While my experience is pretty short with this, I like to think I've been supportive our whole relationship. While you and I can probably never understand the whole thought and decision making process, we can do our best. Then we are supportive and understanding. Did he share links with information with you about the surgery? If so, did you read up on it? When sleevegirl-tx first told me what she wanted to do, I was hesitant just like you. But then I thought of all the diets and exercise she'd tried over the years, and I realized that this wasn't an "easy way out", this was a serious, life changing tool of "last resort". While the ultimate decision was up to her, I like to think that by reading up on the technique and understanding the process that I was an overall part of that decision. When we found out our insurance wouldn't cover the procedure, I didn't think twice about saying yes to taking out a loan so we could get the procedure done. After her surgery I took ownership of most of the "after surgery" documents (she was too up on her meds to make heads or tails of them) and I helped make sure she got what she needed, when she needed it. (I also cleared up some misunderstandings for her that could have been trouble if someone with a clear head hadn't read them.) So I guess the biggest thing is that even though I can never really understand what she is going through, I understand the process. Not only do I support her decision, but I also support her in the daily details of that decision. Of course, some days are better than others. I feel guilty when the kids and I eat pizza and she has Soup. However this is something we talked about before the surgery. Changes in diet aren't only occuring for her, but for the family as well, but the rest of us are easing into (in hindsight, we should have started long ago, but post surgery the whole family kinda went restaurant crazy). The truth of the matter is, I've already noticed changes in my eating habits that have been inspired completely by sleevegirl-tx. All-in-all, the decision to get the vsg could not have been an easy one for your boyfriend. Just like entering into a committed relationship is never easy for anyone. I think that he is looking for understanding and acceptance along with the support. Without those, he may continue to feel that just your support isn't enough. I wish I had some links to share with you about vsg, unfortunately I lost all my links right before sleevegirl-tx's surgery. But there are a ton of informational links on this site and, as always, there is the all knowing Google. Good luck to you and your boyfriend! SG-Hubby