i am still in what i think of as beginning stages of my preop. I have no idea of when my surgery will be, but he did say "not this summer". I am required to lose 70 lbs first and control my diabetes. I don't know if you were in a similar situation or not.
I, too, don't have family that will be there for me either when the time comes. I highly doubt it, therefore I am preparing my mindset for going this alone. I am content with that idea. I do understand from your post that last minutes nerves will set in, fears, and doubts. I hope to be able to handle these by having it set in mind what will happen and how it will go post-op. Kind of a coping mechanism. Put in your mind too that you will look to this site and others like it for continuing support. I will.
As far as foods that we will be missing over our lifetime, i have two views on it.
1. in my required support group meeting, they said that once we are eating again after having lost our weight and are maintaining, that we will be able to eat some of the things we like in very small amounts. more like a "taste" from what i have been doing during my life. LOL.
2. i also know from previous diets i have been on that by that time I will be so used to avoiding such "bad" foods that I wont have a problem with turning down certain things. I think this is a matter of faith. they keep saying that this is a LIFE CHANGE and NOT a temporary measure. so avoiding bad foods and old habits is just something I (we) will have to do.
I wish you good luck and hope that my amatuerish support helps at least a little. I will watch for you here with eager anticipation for your follow-up posts. Hang in there and be strong for yourself. HUGS.
Jana Kay