Valentina

yeah, what he said. ^ This could be a real possibility. Please reach out to a friend, clergy, a confidant . It will help. I promise.

yeah, what he said. ^

I absolutely love your story!!!!!!!! ---and the suit.!!!!!!!!!! I am a huge Marilyn Monroe fan. (too bad the Kennedys had her murdered-----OMG!---MY OPINION) Thank you for this post. I, for one needed it today. Prayers going up for your continued happiness.

I will pray for you.

@ Womanvsmirror: Now aren't you glad you posted your harmless and interesting comment about scales????? Prayers going up for us all.

The irony of the misspelling. Bless your heart. Another hurtful ridicule. Feel better now?. Point proven. Prayers going up for you.

How's it going, Friend? Yes, I'm nosy. Yes, I really care. Prayers still going up...

I drink my coffee every day--with the approval of my bariatric team. However, for every cup of coffee I drink, I have to drink an equal amount of Water. Call your "team". Working with them will lead you to the right answers for your program. Best of luck!

I don't know how you knew. Through my tears, I thank you for you words from within my very soul. I don't know how you knew... I needed your words today I am truly humbled.

And there's your sign.

@ Kindle: Yeah, what you said, my friend.

And she stands out to me as someone who will speak her opinion openly, honestly, and graciously. Not every person is going to like the communication style of everyone else and that's OK. But trust me when I tell you, you will NOT be coddled by @@Babbs . She will give you solid advice every time from the viewpoint of someone who has been there, done that and is successful. I'd much rather hear it from her than someone who has no clue what they are talking about and coddles you along the way. Well then, hear from me. I am 5yrs out (almost longer than both Babbs and Lipsticklady combined), and reading some of these responses---on a "support site" from so called "vets" reminds me of freak'n high school. We have the "freshmen" who are just beginning their journey--unsure, a wee be frightened--looking for any kind of advice or jester to help them feel like they "belong" and welcomed. Then we have the "BULLIES" who seem to take some kind of perverted pleasure in "one upping" every freshman, just to inflate their own egos. Just be humane. Corrective criticism can be given without "wounding". Every question, no matter how many times it has been asked in the past, is a realistic concern to someone just starting their journey. It is not--or should not be our goal to ridicule just for bragging rights for "smoking that one out". None of us are here for another's private amusement or to be the butt end of an ongoing private joke. It hurts, and that is NOT what we are supposed to be doing here. I think some have forgotten that this site is NOT for their own shock entertainment If you can't offer some kind of affirmative advice or just a kind word, then just keep your snarkiness to yourself. The "freshmen" don't need your "private little jabs", and I for one who has "been there, done that, and buried the horse I rode in on" in terms of sleeve surgery am just plain ass tired of it. If you can't improve upon the silence---then don't. Prayers going up---for all of us.

Call the police, make an appointment with them, then you (along with a policeman) go and get your belongings. The police will make an attempt to have "him" be home, but if that can't be arranged, they will go with you alone. Just do it. No drama. No confrontation. Get it done, and move on.

Thank him for his compliment and move along. He's "not ready".

I believe you should start going to as many support groups as you can. Such meetings are invaluable for information gathering. Take time to get to know the other pre-ops. Talk to the post-ops about their journeys. Don't just ask about the weight loss and the how great it is to go shopping. Take enough interest to ask them to share the "rough times". Those experiences are the ones that you NEED to hear about. Hearing about the "bumps" in the road will keep you from being caught off guard. You will learn what to expect and can be "armed" and ready to face it if it happens to you. Often times, at support group meetings there will be a guest speaker such as a plastic surgeon, an exercise coach, a bariatric cook book author, etc. Also, many times Protein shake samples/drinks--other bariatric supplies are given out. Other groups offer clothing exchanges which you will learn to appreciate as you rapidly go from size to size--never staying a one size long enough to wear anything out. I hope I have offered enough examples of the good stuff that going to support group meetings can bring your way. Besides, most programs mandate going to at least two support group meetings before surgery. I am 5 years out and I still go to one monthly. Go . You just may enjoy it.

Soon, Daveo. Just keep your eyes and heart open.

Daveo, Daveo, Dear Daveo, "She" is just waiting for you to come for her. She's only a whisper away. You'll find her. I know it. I promise.

Support groups are great! One can get questions answered, talk to post ops, pre-ops, exchange recipes, clothes, exercise suggestions, pick up an exercise/walking buddy, and so much more. I have found that one gets as much out of a support group as much as one is willing to put into it. Active participation is priceless. There usually is a handout of information, or samples. Go forth and----partake!

Still needed: the selfie with the "panty liner" wrapped under your chin and attached to your ears----oh! don't forget the roid cream. --could be the next record setting selfie. The roid cream will work wonders for you "waddle". Sure will...

I'm still chuckling over the fact that you had to google "Kotex Pad". Oh! Wait!-- I bet you're a virgin---right? I knew it. Cool!!

I'm SURE you have sleep apnea, don't you???????? Perhaps severe pain in your knees , back or hips?????????? Pre diabetes? high blood pressure? Job difficulties due to high weight? THINK...

I was well on my way into the process before my PCP noticed that I needed a surgical clearance. Whoops! I felt kinda bad--that doesn't happen often. Your PCP should be kept up to date with what's going on with you and your health. Otherwise he/she could feel "slighted" and end up getting his/her panties in a twist---not a good thing if you ever need a signature on a form in the future. Write down the items you want to discuss with your PCP during your visit. Do not leave the office until you have had the opportunity to go over every last item. It's YOUR visit. Do not be just another "fifteen minutes". You deserve all the time you need. You go, Girl! Be assertive---not aggressive. --big difference. Prayers going up for you.

Yea, that's what I was after. ..................