I am so happy to hear everyone's opinion ! I too have been almost ashamed by admitting I am going to have the surgery. I have told my husband, my mother, my son and 2 friends so far. But Denise I have to agree with you. Why keep it a secret ! I have struggled with every diet known to mankind, diet pills the whole shabang. Everybody I know has watched me struggle. I am doing this for me. I could stay weighing 320 lbs (being embarassed to even walk out my door) or I can do something and be proud of it. I don't think this is the easy road .. surgery never is. I am so looking forward to my new "lighter" life !