Julie76

I will. Thank you for your concern. I have been in that situation before and got out. Some people are just crazy. I will be as careful as possible.

I have never measured. Wish I had. I just use sizes to measure. I have gone from and 18/20 pants to 10 or 11 pants now. XXL shirts to L. My boobs are rather large so I'm not sure I will ever get below a Med. But will shall see! Congratulation on all of your successes!!! Proud to be on such a wonderful site with a great group of amazing people!

That is so wonderful! You look fabulous! Keep up the good work!

Your right. But I think he is trying to control not so much me but the world outside of me.... everyone around me .... More than me. Like making sure no one touches me or gets too close to me. I just don't get it. I'm no super model... just a real live country girl. I love peace and happiness..... and this isn't peaceful at all. He has gotten better after our talk the other day. Maybe.... just maybe, he sees what it's doing to me. Fingers crossed.

Congratulations!!! That is awesome! Keep up the good work! You'll be there before you know it.

With all honesty I do love him. However, I have been through man hell in this life time and will not tolerate it again. I am a very happy person and he has started to bring me down. I am already in counseling for me and asked him if he wanted to go with me. I was thinking that maybe it was me getting the feeling of fleeing a relationship again (which I am notorious for). He had a fit saying that he didn't need help and neither did I for that matter. So counseling is out for him and I have just been trying to get my therapist to help me with these issues. We have been dating for 10 months now. Maybe this is just the real him??? If that's the case I will just have to cut him loose and move on because I will not live the rest of my life this way. I almost did it yesterday but decided to talk to him one more time. Things seem to be better but I haven't been back to work yet since Saturday when he demanded me quit that job. FYI... I have two jobs. A very respectable full time job and the bar tending helps me afford things for my girls that I otherwise wouldn't be able to afford. He thinks I don't need them both but he's not the one that pays my bills. Sorry if this sounds a little bitchy. I don't mean it to be but I am tiring of his bs real fast. Thank you all for the great advice. Please keep it coming.

You are so right. I was totally insecure being heavier because I felt like it just wasn't me. That being said.... He was the macho man with the some what arrogant personality that I was attracted to. Now he acts like a whipped pup when it comes to being scared I will leave him for something better. As far as him loving me when I was heavier and still loving me.... He told me the other day that he likes me way better now and told me I had better not gain it back. So yeah.... There's that arrogance I like but not when it comes to my weight. Something he would have never done before. I know I have to pick my battles and I hope this will all calm down soon but I hope the more I lose, he won't become more of a jackass.

I'm trying to be as understanding as possible. I'm trying to let him adjust. I love him and I'm sure this too shall pass. At least I pray it does.

You look amazing! Congratulations!

Thanks for making me smile. I don't understand how people can change so easy. I haven't changed. Maybe I smile a little more because I'm happy.. Wear different (cuter) clothes (because I needed some that fit)... And yes, men are paying more attention.... But I'm a bartender...and have been since he met me. I always like the fact that he trusted me.. didn't question me about all the guys hitting on me. Even when I was 232lbs drunks still hit on me. He didn't question it then, why now? Don't get me wrong... a little jealousy is a good thing, but now he wants me to quit my job!???? He hasn't even asked me to marry him. I am so ready to say "SHUT UP and get over it already". Sorry just venting. :banghead:

This morning I stepped on the scale and it said 174. I haven't been under 175 in years. I almost started to cry but was happy at the same time and told my daughter and we jumped around and had some fun with it. On my way to work I was rolling it around in my head and thought "I wonder if I'm still considered obese at 174????" I pulled up the BMI scale and there it was..... Overweight!!! There the tears came and I couldn't stop them this time. I have been working really hard on my muscle tone because I was feeling squishy and I had gained some weight. I always had in the back of my mind that "muscle weighs more than fat" but it still messes with you when you have lost so much in such a short time. Well, tonight will be the true test. I'm dressing up for our Halloween party at the bar I manage. I'm going to be Pocohotti.lol The costume is a large and it's still fit. So very excited about that too! HAPPY HALLOWEEN EVERYONE!!!!

The chart is kinda crazy. But just a guide. You just have to get where you feel the best at. I just never liked being put in a category like the chart does, so it's kinda like me saying "Take that you stupid chart!"lol Congrats to everyone moving on down in the weight department and moving on up in the getting healthier department!!!

So.... things are getting worse! I thought telling him how I was feeling would make things better but NOOO! Now he comes to my work just to see if people are hitting on me. Just don't know if I can handle this.