BZButterfly79

Look at the one lady who has a full body shot she is post RNY and she decided to have breast and tummy done...she has like 6 drains out of her private area but then they start taking them out she starts looking better.

Do you need someone to pinch you!!! Congratulations!!! You've earn it!!!

I already have laparoscopic scars from my gall bladder surgery I've seen a few pics and they look very similar so LUCKY ME!!!!! I get to have them twice more-lol But I figured that even "if" I became so incredibly hot afterwards that Playboy magazine would want me to pose(which I would have to refuse for moral ethical reasons) they airbrush everybody and why not my little scars? Have a great day, and just so you know the loose skin and scars kept me from doing this procedure for three years...yes I know I how sad I wonder how much fun I would be having right now.

Why is it always some super skinny person living off of rabbit food telling the overweight what to do? It's people like that who push young girls into eating disorders!

So I had my Psych evaluation this morning, I would love to hear how you felt about yours, mine had the "tests" pencil and paper but also a 45 min conversation that felt like 2 hrs. She asked where I was raised then went on to how many times I cry then on to something else then something else then she asked me if I knew what it would take for me to live after surgery and keep the weight off why I felt I could not do this without the surgery...WELL...how do you answer that without giving TMI!!! Lady I need a freaking stop button! The she blurts out of nowhere: "You are too hard on yourself aren't you?" I don't even know what to tell this lady at that point but thank God it ended. I really find therapy interesting but is it normal for them to pick and poke like that, I think I would rather journal or talk to a close friend. Here is my favorite question: "Do you think you overeat to fill an emotional need?" I consider myself deep but seriously I didn't know what to say I don't know what my emotional pit is this was way too deep girls that's all I can say. This Psych eval was exhausting... can't wait to see the surgeon on the 23 of November. Hope everyone is having a great week!

Hi, you definitely should not undergo any surgical life altering procedure without being sure that it is what you want, for me resolution of cold feet came easy, I said:"If I don't have this procedure what is my alternative?" I had the last seven years of hell run through my mind and the dieting and unhealthy self-medicating relationship with food, shortening my life, heading towards diabetes and a hundred other things, it became clear to me then, but hang out here often I am here looking for support and I sure want to be here to support other like myself. I've got the same fears as you frequently I think of bone problems there is always something you know. Good luck keep us posted. My dancing man up there is happy for you that you have a "date" I am still waiting to see the doc. Oh and sleep...you don't just need it you DESERVE it.

******I heard this in the car and it brought me to tears, so I am dedicating this to anyone who like me is getting ready for the change that's gonna come! ******

Lucky lady!!! I have asked Santa to bring me my sleeve before x-mas but that's now all up to him and the surgeon, it would be great to start the new year feeling like a new hot mamma. Good luck on everything!

Hi, I am in a MTF in FL and having the surgery at the base hospital. This is what they asked of me: BMI>42 Co-Morbidity-for me PCOS but even if I did not have the PCOS they still use BMI Attend a Seminar Attend a nutrition class(mine talked a LOT about gastric bypass...almost nothing on sleeve) Schedule a Psych consult Schedule app with the surgeon(this is my next appointment so I will tell you once that happens what will need to happen) Hope this relieves some of the anxiety.(I am jumping through all the hoops) As far as advice so far is to spend as much time here reading, watch youtube videos of people who have had the procedure, read about it I honestly felt the nutrition class was too fast and did not go into the sleeve if I had to rely on that I would be freaking out.

First and foremost, congratulations for being on a journey back to yourself, a journey to find love for yourself and take control over your life, I am pre-op as well and on that journey. What have some of us done our entire lives that may have led us into the fat suit we wear today? For me it has been putting **everyone** in my life before me and...being co-dependent(well if you are gonna be mad then I won't do this I'll just stay miserable or...I don't want you to be insecure I wanna fix you then me...) this may not at all be you but it was me. Let me ask you this...what is the worse thing that can happen in your marriage? If that happens then will your life still go on? My husband has been the greatest jerk about my weight and at the same time my biggest fan which I consider deadly combinations. I will give you an example: "I bought you a treadmill, when are you gonna start running?" Well...you don't want to know my answer but I will say that coming from a man who despises obese people and at times makes mean comments about them(this is called ignorance) he has grown from telling me all I had to do was close my mouth and run 6 miles a day to asking me how many days he will have to take off to help me out. The more I show him videos of before and afters, the more stern I am that this is the way I am taking the more he is acting like a friend. I am sure he has insecurities but I always assure him that the way he treats me is wayyyy more important than what I weigh because the weight can come off. His insecurity is really his problem, and if you are like me at this point in this journey I just say: "You can go to therapy to work out your insecurities I can't help you there for I am on a journey to save my life!" I have heard at one of the support groups I attended as part of my research into this women saying that once the weight leaves, the self esteem and attention from strangers starts to kick in that they have felt deprived of that and enjoy it a lot which is a problem also that some just realize that their husbands were tools and they deserved better. It can go a lot of ways but let it be your way.

Tiffykins, you had a great experience, they didn't give me anything and I left there feeling like I don't have a personality but they said that stuff goes to the bariatric clinic. Yes the questions were funny at times: Do you think you are good at anything you do? (Yes I am super confident that's why I ended up overweight!) Do you like being bossed around? (I thought...no...do you? but there was only *true or *false) Are you lying on this questionnaire?(If you can't trust me then...)

I am in the process of getting ready to go through with the vertical sleeve, I would like to ask the veterans about their experience with hair loss, when does it happen, can it be avoided, can it be lessened and...finally does the hair return? In some of the pictures that I see I see women with a full head of hair so I am confused.

I would love to have everyone share their top ten reasons why they want the surgery or the top ten thing they love about having the surgery(for the ones already there). I think this would be fun, we all have our motivations. My To Ten Reasons for Having Surgery: 1)So I can control my PCOS 2)Not feel like an elephant on a treadmill 3)Not feel like an elephant on a broomstick when on a bike(It's true I refuse!!) 4)Be able to try sex positions I haven't in years! 5)Walk into Forever 21 with a hand full of bags and a new attitude!! 6)Be able to wear my wedding ring(instead of the fake one I had to buy because I gained weight!) 7)Keep up with my three boys and run around like a light feather playing soccer with them. 8)Visit my family in South america whom I keep telling that I don't have money to buy tickets and posting head shots online so they don't realize how fat I got!! 9)I have to be honest...I want to walk down the mall(purposely) and see how many people agree that I got it goin' on!! 10)The Husband...I want to see which way the cookie is going to crumble but I must admit I love him, I miss those times he used to want me anywhere those were fun hopefully he can have fun with the new me too.

I would like to ask any of you willing to be honest with me if like me you envision the moment. What moment? The moment when the anesthesia begins to kick in and there is no turning back, you are not afraid of the surgery anymore you are now fully aware that the person you used to be for the most part will never be again. How do you feel about that, is that or was that a sad moment for you? When you woke up post op did you see the world differently and did your loved ones treat you differently? I think for me there will be a sadness because I have hidden so many emotions under these layers, so many wishes unfulfilled, and I think you grow accustomed to that self in a strange way. Share your thoughts it's nice for me to get out of my bubble and hear how others think. I am on my way to surgery hopefully not too long from now.

Yes biotin and omega 3 sound good but if we become low on iron then that can cause hair loss. I have had a little bit of a problem because of my PCOS so sometimes my hair does fall which really irritates me but I will do whatever I can, I think going from all the food we normally eat to maintain our bodies and what it is used to then to life after the sleeve it must be a shock on the body I think from what I hear I will be eating as much as my four year old does now. something like a tube of toothpaste that is what I heard we will be able to hold...oh boy......I guess you can't have it all the fat or the hair?LOL Obviously I would rather have my health.

I will be praying for you the healthcare system in this country is completely messed up reason why we are the most expensive in the world and...rank #49 in quality of life!

I have been researching and trying to find inspiration, this guy has been very important in that he has had an amazing journey. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did, he is now doing everything....that life has to offer.

I am new here, as of 15 minutes ago. I went to my primary who informed me that due to my PCOS and my BMI of 42% he wouldn't mind sending me to the Bariatric specialist. So yesterday I went to my first appointment, I believe there will be Nutrition, Psych, and then the Doc sees me. During the class I was like: "OMG I can't believe I got here!" meaning...to this point! But I felt like it was the right step I NEED help, I have been living miserably for the last 10 years because of this weight. Now on to the situation: My husband of 13 years who married me when I was not fat and who has been bitching about my weight for all these years and truthfully terrorizing me about it because he is so "fit" tells me yesterday when I got home to talk to him about the surgery that the surgery is a cop-out and that if I cannot control what goes in my mouth now why would I control it after surgery. Then I asked hi if he was not supportive he said: "That's not what I am saying, what I am saying is that you have a weakness and you will go back to the same weight if you don't address that." Okay...I see he does have a point but otherwise he is being a jerk. I also showed him the 10% divorce rate post-surgery and that he would need to be supportive and he stated: "I don't see why people divorce because they got skinny-don't put the carriage in front of the horse." So I showed him a video on Youtube of a beautiful obese woman before surgery and then once she was at her goal, he mentioned she had flabby arms!!! OMG this is driving me nuts, I want to do this for me and he has assured me that the weight is the only problem in our marriage so I am thinking that will be solved but I definitely don't want someone reminding me of flabby this and that after surgery. Have any of you experienced this situation or care to type a few lines to encourage me or discourage me(at this point anything is appreciated). One thing I know for sure, if I continue to be this weight and unhappy due to it, my marriage will end. What I don't know is if it will get better or if it will get worse once I have the surgery. If there a possibility that the surgery will cause jealousy and insecurity on his part? What have you experienced? Thank you for reading.

DJackson you made me smile, there is no reason now!! LOL He is a great guy I am telling you my perception this morning he might tell you he is worried, who knows I remind him all the time he is not Tom Cruise and he needs to settle down. I remember before I gained all the weight he had other issues, jealousy. I miss those days

Thank you thickinphilly, I browsed this site for months until I got the courage to register and I look forward to growing as a person from the experiences I learn about here, we are all so different and yet so much alike. I appreciate your input.

a. walker thank you for your reply, my husband is Brazilian, in Brazil fat people are invisible well mostly because they don't exist, I have not visited my family in 10 years because I am ashamed of what I have become, people there have these weight loss surgeries when they are 50lbs overweight and sometimes less, lots and lots of pressure. My husband told me that if weight was all he cared about he would not have been with me all these years and three kids later but how I feel is most important as you mentioned. I don't feel good I don't feel alive and I miss that and I am tired of the Atkins diet and phentermine and not wanting to look in the mirror. Someone said to me: "would you rather have your husband tell you he is crazy about your body and be screwing every other girl out there or tell you how he really feels" well I don't like either option but there are some woman like yourself who have a hubby who says hey you can look like blue man and I will still want you and to that have a toast it is hard to find not impossible but hard. God Bless