Globetrotter

As for the family Flaca, remember this - if Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!! Meals they will like? They can learn to adapt, or go hungry! You got this way because you were always putting yourself last, if you want to change, you've gotta put yourself first, period. The only difference between the way you should be eating and they should be eating is portion - everybody should be eating good Protein, good Fiber, good carb - low crap carbs. I know how difficult it is to not serve bread or tortillas or something with meals, and there will be some whining but - see first sentence! =P broiled fish, steaks, chicken salad, stir-fry, albondigas, chile verde minus the Beans (for me anyway, it still hurts to eat them). Try the ricotta bake recipe, it's lasagne minus the noodles. Also go to a blog called The World According to Eggface, she's got tons of post surgery recipes that non-ops love. =)

I gotcha flaca - I am 20 months out and although I am not to goal yet, I have lost 125 lbs. 1. Protein first - this is the motto of vsg and it is important on so many levels, protein is so important, and if you are stuffed to the gills with protein first, you don't have the ability to eat crap. 2.water Water water - not just for hydration but because it gets the fat moving and aids in loss. change your fitness routine - you said you get 2-3 miles a day on treadmill? add an incline of 3 or more, run instead of walk, don't hold the hand rail, wear a backpack, etc. And finally, you said you didn't come here for advice on your marriage. Okay, understandable. However, and I speak from experience, our success in weight loss is intimately tied into our psychological health, which includes relationships with others and ourselves. Therapy is a vital component toward recovery. Hope some of this helps =)

I think that whey protein powder and whey shots are giving me pimples. I already can't eat cheese because of the horrible breakouts I get, and beef too, so this is having an impact on my protein intake. Has anyone else noticed this? Ideas, suggestions?

So, when are you grazing vs. eating several small meals? I have tea, then a half hour later I eat breakfast, then 2 hours later I drink half a protein shake, then a half hour later have more tea, then an hour later the rest of the shake, then more tea, then lunch about 3 hours after I had breakfast, a snack about 3 hours after lunch, then dinner approx. 4 hours after snack. Is that grazing? Sometimes there is a bedtime snack 2 hours after dinner that helps put me to sleep (sf chocolate pudding cup, the remaining bites of dinner).

Coops - Crossfit is this fitness craze here in the States that is super crazy difficult and exhausting, but the people who do it swear by it and it becomes almost a lifestyle. The people I've seen who do it religiously have noticeable results, they look very sculpted and muscley like bodybuilders which isn't what I want but I need a shake up of my workout routine since mine isn't yielding any results =/

Thanx Lisa, I actually found it myself online already and it's what I already do, I am so super frustrated to not be losing weight anymore when I am still chubby and soft yet I work out like a demon and get in no more than 900 cals =(

Hey y'all, you know what a crazed carb inhaler I am right prior to my cycle, well now having just finished, I'm suddenly devouring protein like it's my job which I guess, it is, lol! I'm eating ground beef, tuna, chicken, and not even dressing them up just eating them which is awesome. But also wierd? And this is off topic but has anybody done Crossfit to help them get to goal and has it worked?

I do TRX training, I run, I lift free weights, I do yoga, I dance, and I keep my workouts constantly changing so my muscles don't get used to a single routine. So, wtf! =(

Blackberry Juice - how the heck are you able to eat so much and maintain while I eat less than half of that and still am not at goal! =(

B - 2 small sausage patties S - Protein espresso shake with unsweetened almond milk, cocoa L - 3 oz chicken lunch meat, 3 oz plain tuna D - cheeseburger salad with 1.5 oz beef, spinach, tomato, pickle, onion, mayo, mustard. copious unsweetened herbal tea cals - 851 protein - 73.41 carbs - 35.06 sugar - 19.47

I am 20 months out, 125 lbs down with 40 to go and yesterday looked like this: Breakfast - Protein shake made with unsweetened almond milk and 2 kinds of protein, chocolate powder and mocha espresso powder. A protein shot. lunch - cheeseburger salad. 3 ounce beef patty that I made at home with a slice of cheddar, onion, romaine hearts, pickles, mayo, mustard. A burger without the buns basically. I managed about half of all that so, 1.5 oz ground beef. dinner - the rest of the cheeseburger salad plus a little bacon crumbled in. snack - half a small apple with a serving of Peanut Butter. The snack was an hour before my run. Exercise - 3.2 miles jogging and walking with a friend, done outdoors and talking while keeping up a pace so it was a comprehensive workout. We also stopped to do some chin ups and push ups. Didn't get in enough Water, probably about 32 oz or half of what it should be. I get most of my water in the form of hot non caffeinated herbal tea. There used to be a pinned thread in the food and nutrition section called "What I Ate - Monday" etc., there was one for every day of the week, I liked it because it was encouraging and gave you ideas of what to eat. =)

Ugh, my my Lake Lady, how lucky you are.

Helloooo, anybodeee....

This may not be the healthiest of advice but if you want to reset your brain but still receive the "pay off" of chemical floods to the brain that your addictions are giving you (dopamine, seratonin, etc.) then run like the dickens on a treadmill or lift something super heavy as fast as you can until you collapse. The chemicals that flood your brain after major workout exertion (like sex) will truly give you a euphoric high just like drugs. Now, addiciton to exercise is a real thing but right now it's the way lesser of several evils and will still provide you with your high so you can gradually ease off of your other substances.

Speaking to the topic - I am 20 months out and am still 40 lbs from goal. I am grieved to say that I feel physically as though I can eat anything and eat normal portions. Now, I know that I can eat a lot, but I must also realize that my idea of "a lot" is different than others because I eat out with my friend and he comments on my miniscule appetite. My head hunger is more intense than it has been since surgery, anxiety is up, and in the week prior to my cycle I lose the battle against carbs and binge like a damn junkie. You hear the old saw about, "they operated on our stomachs, not our brains" and that is so very true. I'm terrified of regaining weight, of not making it to goal, and yet I put that doughnut in my mouth, that tiramisu, that snickers. I don't feel supported in my daily life, and it has been so long since I've seen any enouragement from the scale that I've given up there. Last night for dinner I had cheeseburger salad, which is a cheeseburger minus the buns with extra greens. It took me two hours to eat the entire thing, 3.5 oz (after cooking) ground beef, 6 leaves romaine, 2 dill pickles chopped, purple onion, mustard mayo). I should have stopped after I felt the first fullness which would have been after the third bite when I'd only been eating for 15 minutes. But I didn't. They operated on our stomachs.

Blackberry - have you tried Click Mocha Protein powder? If you are craving lattes but feel guilty, this is the solution! Some Click, some chocolate Protein Powder, some torani syrup, some sf whip, put it in a fancy container and you would never know the difference between it and something from Starbucks. Plus, every serving of Click has the equivalent of 2 shots of espresso! buzzbuzzbuzz! =)

Hey, anyone ever try the "chicken cutlets"? I just bought some at Target and in a plunge bra gave me back firm plump cleavage like I haven't had since my early 20's! yay =)

It really is chemical, which just shows how amazingly ruled by our corporeal selves we are, not so free will, as it were. =)

I was this way too during the time that I was losing like a pound a day, if you go back in the threads for the ladies gone wild board you will see similar threads from over the years =)

Cherry you are singing my song! =) I have been b!tch!n' about this from the beginning. What somebody at the top of the thread said is true, plus size clothes will fit you for 20 pounds, regular sizes about 10. I was still wearing pre-op trousers well past the 50 lbs lost mark and I have a pre-op shirt that I wore to work last week, I've lost 128 pounds! I have a pair of bootcut cords from JCrew in a 12P that I have been wearing for THIRTY pounds now, wtf!=P I found them at a thrift shop for $4 (mega score since they go for $75 new). I had just crossed into one-derland and at 194 lbs I had also officially joined the century club (surgery day weight 294. So those pants mean a lot to me and even though they literally cut off circulation they were so tight lol, I was able to zip and button them and it felt amazing! Obviously they were too tight so, like someone said in this thread, it makes sense that I could lose weight and they would still fit. But it has been 30 pounds now and they are still a little snug IMO, I'm pretty sure that it will take another 20 pounds at least before they are visibly baggy and maybe 30 pounds before they are unwearable which will mean that I will have been wearing the same pair of trousers for SIXTY pounds, wahhh?!!!

The week before my cycle there aren't enough carbs in the universe and I want every last one of them, be they from doughnuts, snickers bars, chips n dip, I'm a complete crazed carb maniac. Once the dust settles though, lol, they aren't as desirable to me. That said, when I try to go very low carb <30 I am ... unpleasant to be around, to put it mildly. That coupled with very low calorie <800 and I feel like what I imagine withdrawals to be like, shaking, shivering, headache, lethargy, heart palpatations, nausea, all of it! Carbs have a very drug-like effect on my body and mind, more so than sugar, carbs can actually manipulate my mood, which is a little creepy...

I'm sure your surgeon is very good, but even among good WLS surgeons, not every one is a metabolic or bariatric scholar. Bubbly sodas? Seriously? Lifting weights 2 weeks out? SOLID FOODS?? I may get flamed for this but I'm going to flat out say no, those are not good ideas. I didn't eat solids till the end of my 2nd month and if I had it to do over again I would have waited till the end of 3 months, I didn't lift weights until one month out and I REALLY wish I had waited on that as well.

AAAAAAAAAAAARGGGGGHH, MAKE THESE LAST #$%(**&!! 40 LBS GO AWAY!!!!!! Sorry, just had to get that out. I fear that I am sabotaging myself, I have not lost any weight since New Year and I am backsliding into a world of bad foods, grazing, and night eating. I'm petrified to get on my scale and see the truth of real gain, my clothes are more snug than they were 2 months ago, I think. Yesterday I ate 3 (albeit very small) hot dog franks for dinner, 2 before the gym and one after. My total calorie count for the day was 1088, carbs 46, Protein 94. I already know from trial and error that I (unfortunately) only lose proper weight when I am severe low calorie <700 so why do I keep eating? Since I no longer get "hungry" I have started interpreting empty as hungry so I am now in a very bad routine of eating about every two hours, when my stomach is empty. I know exactly what I should be doing, like everyone here I have the mantra memorized; protein first, Water water, exercise, work your sleeve, blah blah blah, but I am just f***ing eating. I miss losing weight, I miss being on the losers bench, I miss how hopefull and fulfilling it felt to really KNOW it was all working. I haven't felt that way in a year.

The way I did it is I just sort of took the decision out of my hands, I made a date with a friend for running, the fitness phd friend by the way, and that kept me from backing out of it. She has damaged her own ankles a lot over the years so she is also cautious and since she has been a personal trainer, she let me go at my own pace but also nudged me along. I definitely could not have gone it alone for my first time! We now have a standing run date every Monday and Wednesday and because someone other than myself is involved, it makes it more difficult to bail. She of course can keep up a chatty conversation without breaking a sweat while running which I can't quite do yet but I manage to talk a little, which makes me put forth even more effort.

Oh Coops that is an awesome nsv, and sort of a fantasy of mine, to have a third party call out my thinness!! That friend of mine that I've talked about, the personal trainer who is lean and athletic and has her phd in nutrition and metabolism, is JUST like the one who gave you the trousers, constantly talking about her "tummy", look how much bigger I was in this photo ... about how fat she feels. I know it is all a desperate teenage girl (she's 31) method of gleaning compliments - how insecure is that?! I just go silent when she does it, I do not give her what she wants, I will not feed the beast.