JulyBride

Does anyone know a few good websites to find hard statistical data about complications? As far as there is a 1% chance of this or a 5% chance of that? I am not very internet savvy so any assistance would be appreciated! :thumbup:

Thanks! It will be a great day but the planning is stressful at times. My surgeon is at the University of Michigan hospital. I met some great people through the Munson program in TC but I have a shunt that has been treated at the U of M for the past 15 years. That sounds really bad but I haven't had any issues since 2001 so really it has been a while. Myself and my family would feel more comfortable with having surgery at U of M just in case something happens.

Well, the big decision is made. We rescheduled for 7/28 which will be 4 days after the wedding. We are going to take our honeymoon in the winter when I am happy in a bathing suit! Can't wait to get in the losers bench!

Congrats on your date! I really don't have any advice because I am relatively new myself and have a date of 6/30 but from my experience everyone here is very supportive and knowledgeable. Good luck and can't wait to hear of your success! :biggrin0:

Thank you for the links. I am more than willing to risk the complications for the benefits of the surgery. My concern is that right now my surgery is scheduled 24 days prior to my wedding. So I am trying to decide if the risks are worth taking before the wedding. Having the surgery scheduled when it is works best for work and making the life changes I am trying to make for us as a couple to make this successful. That is if everything goes well. If I get a complication and have to be in the hospital for several weeks that would obviously not be good for the wedding situation. When I had my beginning appointments it was very positive regarding the timing and that they didn't think it would be a big deal to have it when it is scheduled. Today I got a call saying that the team had their mandatory meeting to discuss the case and now they wanted me to rethink the timing "just in case." So it made start to question my decision.

I wish I had some advice. All I can say is that I understand how miserable you are. I haven't had apnea since they removed my tonsils as a teenager but the short time I had to use the c-pap was miserable. Sorry I couldn't be more help but I wanted to let you know that I feel your pain! Good luck!

Now that I have a date I have to tell my father that I am planning on having this surgery and I am extremely nervous. I have already told my mom and that went like I had thought it would. She cried and is very worried about complications which I understand but has since calmed down. She understands I am almost 30 and it is my decision and she will do whatever she can to help. But she definitely has made it clear she is not necessarily happy. My father is very black and white in his thinking. He believes that if I had enough discipline and will power I would be able to lose the weight on my own. I am not looking forward to the speech I am going to receive about risking my life when I could exercise and eat right and do it the "right" way. I feel like I am a teenager that has to confess I got arrested! I guess I am just throwing this out there because I don't know who else to throw it out to!

Just a quick update. Everything went better than I had thought. My mom actually broke the news earlier today and flat out told him I was scared to tell him. When he asked why she said because you get in people's faces and act stupid. I love my mom. I wouldn't say he's supportive but he's not not supportive so I'll take it for now!

I am in the process of being officially "approved" by the team for my surgery. I am also getting married at the end of July. I am not entirely sure when my surgery date could be but could possibly be as early as the end of June. Part of me would like to have the surgery and use the down time between then and the wedding to adjust physically and mentally to how we will have to be as a married couple. The other part of me really wants to make sure I can dance and have a good time at the wedding and do not want to be sick or too tired. Does anyone have any thoughts? How long does it typically take for you to recover? I know the doctors say 2-4 weeks but what is realistic? Any insight would be helpful. :thumbup:

Thank you everyone for the support! I am so glad I found this site. It has been very helpful to read the stories of success and struggles to know everything I am thinking and feeling is not as wacky as I thought. Pretty sure I am going to go have the talk with my dad tomorrow after work. The sooner the better so I can stop worrying about it. If he is on board or not I know this is the best decision for me. And once he sees how well I am doing after he will get over it. I talked to my mom and we believe we are going to wait until a couple of weeks before the surgery to tell the rest of my family.

Thanks for all the wedding congrats! 60 days and counting today! I am a little concerned about altering the dress. But I have lost 50 lbs in 8 weeks before on a medical weight loss diet (that I ultimately put back on) and lost 4 sizes in my pants and barely went down 1 size in my top. I carry the majority of my weight in my stomach and chest. I have a history of the 50 lbs yo-yo and this has always been the pattern with my clothes sizes. So going on that I am hoping the dress (mainly the killer undergarments) will just be more comfortable.

Thank you everyone for the well wishes and advice! I talked to my doctor about everything including the difficulties with work and the timing of the wedding. I have a surgery date of 6/30/2010. Very excited but very nervous too.