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I hope by now you are feeling better, please let us know.

Thank you Penni that truely means a lot. You have been a great help to me in the past, and I am sure you will be of great value to me in the future. I also want to say I am sorry to anyone's feelings I have hurt. I am looking forward to getting back to the basics and helping people, and receiving help on this board. Let us now put the past behind us and look to the future. We all have a lot of great things to look forward to!

It truely saddens me that we have lost some members from this board. I would like to say how very sorry I am that I had a part in this. Please accept my appology. I would also would like to ask that you try to give this board another chance because each and everyone of you are an important part of this board. If you can't forgive and forget, then please know you will be greatly missed.

Good for you Alex, like it has been said before we aren't in any race to win this weight loss. I hope you feel much better after a little unfill.

Frank I am so sorry about your loss. Stress can do so much to our bodies. Please go on liquids and stay on them for a few days. If you are still having problems, then please think about getting a slight unfill. Good luck and keep us posted on how you are doing.

That is so funny, you must have been thinking about that before going to sleep, or read something on it.

Hang in there, you will be banded before you know it!

Maybe this isn't exactly the right time to post this, I am extremely upset right now. I think this whole day has been nothing but finger pointing and arguments all day. Take a look at the board today, most of the time these boards are full of people laughing, asking questions, and seeking support. They are almost empty today, and that is a shame. This board is for the support/questions and friendship. I for one think we have had enough of the finger pointing and arguments. I think we need to put an end to this right now. I certainly don't want to come here any more if all I am going to read is negative things. Everyone has had their say, now let's get back to the regular business at hand. If you want to be mad at somebody, then be it, but keep it to yourself! Sorry, I just couldn't take anymore of this.

Kathy - I am happy for you that such a sad day can turn into something so positve with all the good memories.

Your weight can change hourly, that is why it is so important not to become so dependant on your scale. We have a thread going for weighing each monday. The majority of us weigh once a week and see better results. You can drive yourself crazy weighing so many times a day. And, yes it does make a difference with clothes and without. Give it a try to weigh once a week and see how you do. How long you stay full depends on if you have had a fill or not. If you haven't had a fill, liquids go right through, once you start eating protein, you should stay full for about 3-4 hours or longer.

Hi Mandy - I can't add much to what everyone else has said, I just want to wish you luck! Please post and let us know!

Sharon - Just give it a try, several people on here had to lose weight first and didn't think they could do it, but they did. Losing the weight first will only help you during your surgery. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you! Good Luck!

Nykee - The pool is the perfect place for you to start, no pressure on any of the joints. Try signing up for some arobics, easy on the joints. You might not be able to do much at first, but each day you will get stronger and better. Good Luck!

Tracy - I am glad you are doing good with the new fill. It sure sounds like it is working just right for you.

My Doctor started me on the treadmill two days after surgery. I started at 15 minutes and he has been adding more everytime I go in to see him.

Welcome to bandland! I am glad everything went well for you!

Awwwww! I am so sorry that happened to you! But don't get discouraged, a while back I ruptured a disc in my back and couldn't walk for 7 months, (I went to a quack doctor that said it was a pinched nerve) anyway, I went on a diet and still lost 120 pounds. Opps, I probably lost about 85, then the rest when I started walking. Just watch what you eat and you will be fine. Keep coming here and posting and it will help too! Sending you a great "big" hug, because you certainly need one.

Penni - I'm going to ask you one more time nicely to please leave me alone!

It has been brought to my attention that I put pressure on eveyone for wanting to reach the 4000 pound mark. If I indeed put pressure on anyone to do this, then please accept my appology, I thought this was a fun game, I sure didn't have any intention of causing any problems.

Lisa - I lost 120 pounds in 7 months, but I put it all back on again. I can lose the weight, but I can't keep it off. And, each time I gain it back, I gain back a little more than I lost. When you live a lifetime of eating wrong, and not exercising then it is a hard habit to break. I don't want to lose 120 pounds just to gain it all back again. The band is a tool to help me keep the weight off, just like it will for you. If you take your band out now, you will most likely gain your weight back again. Everyone has different reasons for why they got the band. I got the band to help me lose the weight, but also keep the weight off. I also got the band to better my health, which is my number 1 priority. Evey year I get older, the harder it is to lose. Let's face it, the older we get our metabolism changes! I certainly don't want to have to depend on someone getting me up and down out of a chair because I am not able to do it myself. You could ask everyone on this board and probably come up with a different answer. Everybody has different reasons why they gained weight. Everyone's story is not the same, if it was, then they certainly would have found a pill to pop and be done with it by now. Some people can take a diet pill and lose all their weight, and the next person doesn't lose a pound. My niece was just telling me about a month ago that all the doctors in her state had a big meeting on weight loss. The conclusion to this meeting was that very few people can loose weight and keep it off. The majority of people will only lose 20 pounds no matter what they do. I know how hard it is to lose weight, and I know for some people it is impossible. Some people will have RYN and gain everything back. Some people will lose all their weight and never have another problem. Like I said, everyone is different. What works for one person, won't work for another.

This was on a post on smartbansters and was said by Jessie: The reason your hair is falling out is because you are losing weight. It's very common with any form of weight loss. It is not a shortage of Protein, Biotin, estrogen or anything else. It's just a side effect of weight loss. It will last a month or two and all your hair will grow back. Nobody has ended up bald yet --except for the guys who started out bald. Take a multi-vitamin every day, eat your protein first, use gentle hair care products and be patient. Sometimes people have hair loss from any anesthesia, any trama, child birth, and occasionally people even have another disease or scalp condition. If your hair loss is severe and doesn't resolve in 6-8 weeks consult with a doctor or dermatologist. Usually by the time you notice it the hair is growing back. If you look right at the hair line you can see a little fuzz coming in. Hair loss related to losing weight is temporary, self-limiting and completely reversible. It really will be OK but it's perfectly normal to freak out about it.

Pam I got 3991.40 so we are still shy a few pounds. Did someone add their weight and not sign up their name maybe? That happened a couple of times.

Great job Lyle! I wish I could attend and meet y'all!

Greg suggested we do this every month, so I'll start a new one next month and see how we can improve it. I bet we can!

I agree, we are all different, and we all gain or lose weight different. I don't have the chatter in my head, I don't wake up in the middle of the night to get something to eat. And I don't agree that I am sick because of my weight. When I was five years old, we were on our way to a Sunday outing, my Dad, Mom, and my three brothers. A car crossed the line and came over and hit us head on. My father broke one leg into 50 pieces. He was in a cast from his chest to his toes for over a year. My mother broke her kneecap and hit her mouth and lost all her teeth. One of my brothers hit his mouth, knocked out his teeth, and two of his teeth went down in his lungs. He also hurt his knee and broke his jaw, and had pins in it. One of the other brothers lost his front teeth, and my other brother and I was just bruised up. We had no money coming in our house at all for a very long time. My Mother was a great cook, but everything she cooks was southern and very fattening. We lived on pots of Beans, stews, and every Sunday we had fried chicken. Most of all, almost every meal we had was based around what kind of potatoes we were having. Potatoes was the base of all our meals, and most were fried or mashed with gravy. food was hard to come by since money was so scarce, so we had to finish our plates of food, and couldn't waste any. I learned to cook exactly like my Mother, and once I got married and had children, I started gaining weight. I didn't lose the weight between my children, which started me off on a huge weight gain. I didn't exercise like I should have, or eat the right foods. The only way I knew to cook was how my Mother taught me. Just like the old saying "You can't teach old dogs new tricks" I just didn't realize the way I was cooking was causing me to gain so much weight. Losing weight has been extremely hard for me because of the way I cook, and because of lack of exercise. I am learning I can fix meals without the potatoes or the other starches. I am learning just because I fix my DH those things, that I don't have to eat them. I am learning I can fix some veggies and fill up just as good on them as the starches. I am learning I have to exercise to get this weight off. I am learning that no one except me can do this, and I am also learning that I have to want it bad enough to do all of that. Do I think I am sick because I have gained this weight and have problems getting it off? NO! I just think I have to learn the right foods to eat and the right way to cook without all the grease/oils. My dear Mother, bless her heart, didn't even realize that cooking with lard was bad for her. She cooked with it right up until a couple of years before she died at the age of 83, and she was in such bad health I finally told her it would be best if she didn't use it anymore. She grew up eating lard sandwiches because of the depression, so using lard to cook with was a natural thing for her. I followed her footsteps using lard and cooking just like she had, so now I have habits to break too. I think almost everyone on these boards has a reason why they gained weight if they go back and really think about it. And yes, I do believe it can be a sickness for some people, but not everyone. It took me a long time to realize it's my problem, and I am the one that has to work at getting the weight off. If I sit on my lazy butt and don't do anything about it, then it's my fault. I have chosen to get this band to use as a tool, to move my butt and to eat the right foods, and guess what? It's working, and I feel great! I am lovin life again for the first time in a long time.