Chancie

ouroborous- Hi! I just got done reading your post. Sometimes I just don't come across "clearly" on here. I agree. it isn't the '50's anymore!! Here is something that happened to me.. that goes to approaching a man.. and meeting a "heavier" man... I belong to a singles site that I'm not a paying member of, but can send a "flirt" etc. So in my profile... I stated that and what chat room I would be in and if you see me and want to talk.. say "hello" Well. i got a few "flirts" and one from a guy who yes, was a big man... 6'7" and I can't tell weight, but was "bigger" I finnaly seen him in the chat room and he never said anything.. so I did. Added him to my yahoo and we talked a few times. I even gave him my phone # Then he came to see me where I work. Nice guy. I don't want to be "shallow" I Know what thats like when it has happened to me. I want to KNOW somebody for who they are. NOT just their looks or weight. And. to top it all off. he's younger than me....... would I do this before?? NO. My weight loss has made me more confidant, but it has also given me a new perspective on what I want out of life. I want a friend and companion.. someone I can talk to thru good times and bad. I have sharred my weight loss with a few, and some I will when the time is right. I have had people at work tell me how skinny I am, and I have those on line tell me I look good.. but is that what I want to hear? Sure........... it's a GREAT ego BOOST...... but...... I want them to know me for ME. The same as when I was "heavy" So it really is a "double edge sword" the weight loss......... and I can see where people would and could lose who they really are. I don't want to lose my princibles, my morals or myself in all of this... but I can see it happening to some. I kinda rambeled on...... hope I made some sence....

It's a complete lifestyle change. and yep. that means EATING tooo. 14 months out...... and I got sick again the other day. I was actually kinda glad. tells me my sleev is WORKING!! LOL I can eat "junk" better than anything. so I stay away from it... Have a VERY hard time with red meat.I just get tooo full and uncomfortable.. even with just a few bites.. I feel it is too heavy for my stomach. You're doing great Diane... keep up the good work, and yes you will have disapointments, and frustrqations, but in the end, it is WORTH IT!!

Yes. this is WAY too soon to be eating such things...... First off.. and I'm not trying to "ugly" here..... but why did you have this surgery?? I believe most of had it to "lose weight" to get "healthy" to learn how to eat "better".... to CHANGE our lives. If these were any of your reasons, pizza is not a good choice to eat. I've had one slice of pizza since my surgery ( 14 months ago) and that didn't sit well with me. You eed to start "thinking" healthy as well..... and eating Healthy... that doesn't mean that down the road you can't have this, but this is way too soon. I am glad that you haven't suffered from vomiting... I was in the hospital for the first 5 days because of it..... but now as a hindsiet.. I'm glad I did have the reaction from food like I did... it helped to get on the right path. And beside not being a good "choice"... your stomach has just gone thru MAJOR surgery, treat it a bit delicate for the first month or so. They give us a diet for a reason, not to make us suffer, but to help with the healing as well. This wasn't meant to be harse or judgemental... just voicing my concerns and my feelings.... G'luck to you

I'm 14 months out- and am just a sleeve gal..... but casn tell you from my experience.... I still do not have "hunger" Work is the worst..... everyone always has something to "snack" on.. and thats my down fall..... I do snack at times. but try hard not to. It's a "head thing" When I get that way.. I try to go eat something healthy where I am full, and makes it difficult to "snack" My sleeve still works really well...... the other day I was just wanting to eat... and I had a biscuit with bacon...... and ate half.. and I don't know if I ate too fast or I knew I shouldn't have eaten it.. and up it came!! Was kind of a nice reminder as to why I had this done in the first place:thumbup1:

Great NSV'S!!! I was called "tiny" the other day by a girl I work with!! TINY??? I am far from "Tiny" but it was still an ego boost!! I guess from 354 pounds to 173 it is smaller!! LOL

Congratulations to EVERYONE!! Good Job!! Am still 173.......... but m ok with it..... am taking it one day at a time..... and Lovin' My Sleeve!!

I'm 14 months out and have not made "goal".. Goal is 160- I've been over two hundred for the last 20 years.. so I am not fretting this... I am also older than most in here. and yes.. the weight loss has slowed down.. and I have not exercised like I should.... But I have lost 181 pounds...... and am VERY happy with that. This has changed my life...... in more ways than one. And I will continue to follow the rules and make it even further... but will not let it determine who I am... I will do that. at 173 pounds or less!!! Been years since I could even say what I weighed......... but is a feather in my cap now!!!!

My NSV... I'm on a few dating sites, and just met a guy last week... he said.. how old is the pictures you posted? and I told him they are from Feb. ( were my one year pics) he said.. why did you put down a few extra pounds??? You're slim! SHOCK!! LOL

173 this morning!!

I have been having so much fun lately... I even got on the back of a motorcycle again!! It was soooooo much fun!! I was a bit nervous at first thinking of the "old fat" me.... can he handle me on the back of this thing?? But after a minute I was fine!! And, you gotta admit... after being overweght... the attention is flattering! I havn't decided what I'm gonna do with the fellow that travels... but am not closing any doors if you know what I mean?:wink0: Part of me wants to just let it go... and I want to tell him I am looking... am a member of several dating sites... and have a few that want to meet me... isn't that crazy?? Before I would never think of meeting anyone like that... but I am so much more confidant now. life is tooo short.. and yes.. I too wish I had done this years ago... but like you said.. it is never too late!!

I lost 100 pounds by 4 months....I'd have to check my journal to see what my 6 month mark was... I know when I hit 9 months it when it reallly slowed down for me. My highest weight was 373... day of surgery was 354.. I now weigh 173....13 pounds from goal weight of 160!!! I am 14 months out...I should have made goal in a year.. but I did not exercise! But I'm ok with it.. and my personal goal is 150 I think 150 pounds by 6 months might be a bit much.. but it can happen. probably more like 130. But I never dream I would have lost 100 pounds by 4 months!!!!:thumbup: Good luck to you!!!!:biggrin0: .

LOL Daisy......... when he told me he was going to Hawaii.. I was joking and said you need to just marry me so we can do this together....... And he came back with the statement..." you are the type of woman I could mary and have thoughts of it" 'Then said he had not thought of getting married again at all until he met me. TOTALLY SURPRISED ME!! ( I was just making a joke.. and he came back with that answer!!) But his job is very different... since I met him in December... he was in afganistan.... Texas.......Washington State...Germany and now.... Hawaii. I think I need to ride this one out.... and just see what happpens.. but I truely like him!!!!! He is so sweet and romantic... writes me poems.... and shares alot with me. Just wish me luck..... and if it does not work... It won't be because I didn't try.

WOOOOOO HOOOOO Daisy!! Isn't it fantastic????? A size 6!! AMAZING!! I'll never see a 6... but my size 12's are getting big!! WTG Daisy!! proud of you girl!!

Gotta tell ya... I'm a "straight up kinda gal"... and I make it known from the beginning....I just actually started really "dating" the last 4 months or so....but am very surprised at how supportive the ones I have told are. Or, have told me they had another g/f that had it done... etc. The last guy I was dating had a motorcycle... and I was more embarresed about my knee surgery ( had a total knee replacement ) 'cause I had a hard time getting on his bike. But he was really sweet about all of it!!

Daisy.. We talk all the time, both on the computer and the phone ( not so much the phone) Reason being he has a demanding job and travels ALOT. He just got back from Germany and had to go to TX to see his son.. and he just left for Hawaii this morning. I think that is the main issue... his traveling. I truely like him and we both can't seem to stay away from each other on here.... but we don't have the time because of his job to "really be together" I'm just taking it one day at a time.. but he does keep my attention .... and he and I do communicate and share our feelings well....its just the "distant thing" and whats so strange about it all......... his "home" is just barely an hour away from me...... go figure!!! ( but thats my kinda luck!!! )

I know its not Monday................ but gotta post. am back down to 177!!! woooo hooooooooooo!!!! Wonder if I can lose 2 pounds for the "real" Monday weigh in??? Would be toooooooo cool!!!

Sighhhhhhhhhhhhhh......... anyone ever hear the song by J.Geils...... "Love Stinks?" LMAO....... that's how I feel about all this crap lately. I just don't know what I am doing wrong.... I feel like men think of me as "unapprachable" Losing the weight does not make life easier... it makes me WANT it more... a man in my life, someone to share things with... have coffee and chat in the morning.. cook dinner together...... etc.... The first man I was talking with... ( Jerry ) we had our differences again.... and I deleted him from my contacts.... he never called me again... but now... we have started talking again. We BOTH can't seem to let the other out of our lives........ but we are struggling to "get together"..... does that make any sence to anyone??? And if so....................... please explain it to me!!!!! I do like him.. he is very inteligent, and can carry on a good conversation... but I think he is afraid of the "real life thing" Just venting... but if anyone has any suggestions... I am all ears!!!!

I'm really sorry- I know I got a message from Carolyn- but I can't fine the thread - if anyone else needs 16-18-22-24 pants and large tops- please message me. I don't have many in each size- but want to get them out to who ever needs them! I just washed them all- and plan to send after Thanksgiving... so IM me!!!

I gave up red meat... a good rib eye use to be my fav, but is tooo heavy now. I don't eat bread.. it feels like it continues to grow in my stomach for hours!! I'm a big Soup person now.... ya'll gotta try Bear Creek soup mix... 8 cups of Water and thats it!! I love the brocolli and cheese.. I add a bag of frozen broccolli to it- YUmmmmmmmmmmmY!! Solid meat is still heavy in my stomach... and I'm glad!! I never use to know when I was full.. I sure do now!!!

WOOOO HOOO!!!! Rock on Girl /friend!!! Good job!!!!!! I LOVEEEEEE hearing success stories!!!!:thumbup1:

I gotta chime in here...... I met a guy on line back in December.... we chat everyday.. he calls me... and we have met. Had some differences.. but then we connected again.. in the mean time.. I met another man thru my g/f.. was nice for a bit.. but he is a bit of a "loser".. and I am done with that... he's a great guy.. nice, polite, but not wanting to work and I am NOT having a man that won;t work. Then....... I belong to a few singles sites... met a guy last week.. who lives right here by me... and it was so fast and spontanious... we met the next day... he has a motorcycle and he broght an extra helmet and we rode for a few hours.... Saw him the next day... and we are supppose to meet today at 4pm. I really like him.. and he does know alot of the same people I do... and not sure if thats a good thing or not. I have not been around alot of people because of my weight... and now that i'm thin. am sowing my "oats" so to speak... but I do like him.. but he is a "bad boy" if ya know what I mean.... I seem to attract them:scared0: I'm kinda upset with the first guy... seems he's afraid of a "personal" committment... likes the "on line" thing.. and I want more. We've all been where you are CityGal.... it suxs... relationships are hard. and being 50 ( me included) doesn't make it easier. I work in retail... and I notice men smiling more at me.. but why won;t they approach me??? I can't figure what I am doing wrong... I feel like I intimidate alot of men... even when I was "big" I always held my head high....... and I do now too.. Any suggestions?? Is it my body language?? I don't know..... I am confident.... I have to be. But tired of being alone. But I am gonna have fun... it's time for me......... I have cared for everyone else but myself for the last 15 years! Good luck to you!!

My Weekly measurements From my first Doctors appointment to now. Neck 19.5- Now 14 Loss -5.5 Wrist 9 Now 6.5 Loss - 2.5 Forearm 12.5 Now 8.5 Loss - 4 Upper Arm 16.5 Now 11 Loss -5.5 Bust 55 Now 39 Loss -16 Waist 59 Now 36 Loss -23 Hips 64 Now 42 Loss - 22 Thighs 52 Now 36 Loss -16 Top Thigh 30 Now 20 Loss -10 Calf 19.5 Now 13 loss -6.5 Ankle 10.75 Now 9 Loss -1.75 Ribcage 50 Now 36 Loss --14 TOTAL LOSS - 126.75 Highest Weight- 373 Surgery 354 Current 180 Nothing Lost this weeek.. but a few more inches gone :biggrin2:)

I meassured from my first Doctors visit... and have lost over 100 inches...... gotta find my records... will post them when I do. I know I was like a 54 in the bust... now a 38 58 waist... now 30 I measured EVERYTHING... from my wrist to my ankles!!!