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Hi Cyndra, I'm very sorry you had a rough in a chat room. I sincerely hope it was not this one. :tt2: I think some people take the constructive criticism to the extreme. Sometimes that type of approach is not the proper response. Not everyone will find that helpful, as I see it was in your case. I'm here to tell you, there is always another chance to do it right. Do NOT give up!! I don't think you came into this in the mindset that you intended to fail. In my personal opinion it sounds more like you were not provided the proper information to make your band work for you. First of all, I'm going to be honest here. IMO, if you cannot eat properly or healthy then I think you are too tight. You should still be able to eat healthy solid food always. My Surgeon always stressed that to me. He hated the fact that I became too tight myself because he tried to avoid that. But, truth be told I could never be tight enough. Well that caused some physical issues for me, most especially acid reflux. I would cough it up all night and I was just plain miserable. I lived like that for 8 months!! It became a vicious cycle because I started to gain my weight back, but I was fearful of getting some removed. One reason was because I was afraid I'd start eating too much, and secondly I was embarrassed and I didn't want my surgeon to know. I finally could not take it anymore so I had some removed. Long story short, I ended up gaining more back than I had ever dreamed or wanted. But you know what? I woke up one day and said, I needed to get my butt back into gear and that's exactly what I did! So, don't you dare give up!! You have already passed the point of no return. You had surgery to get that weight off, now... take it off! The band is only going to keep you from eating too much. You still have to eat the proper foods and you still have to get to burning some extra calories you wouldn't normally burn just living life. If you need someone to help you along the way I'm ALWAYS available. Take care and let us know how you are doing.

Well I've pretty much been married since I was 21 so I'm really no help. I just want to say that I think if you want to have a real relationship with someone you should just be open and honest. I seriously don't think telling him that would turn him off. If it does turn him off, well - as the old saying goes, then he just isn't the one. Whether he accepts it or not, you ARE banded and he should know the real reason why you don't eat very much. Just my opinion, I mean ultimately it's your decision and your life.

The first and most important thing you can do is to not start being negative toward yourself. The weight loss for Lap-Band surgery is between 1-2 Lbs per week (or a little bit more IF you're lucky). So... 9 months x 4 weeks = 36. You should have lost at least 36 Lbs. by now. Well guess what, you're right on target because you have lost 37. Failure is giving up. Are you going to give up? If not, then you have not failed. Instead, why don't you get more organized with your efforts. Create a workout routine and live breath and die by it. Log your food intake and be completely honest about what you are eating. I go the back way approach. I create an eating schedule. I stick to it as much as possible, and it helps to ensure I'm getting all my proper nutrients. This is going to take a great deal of patience and perseverence on your part. You have to supply to get it attitude, the workouts and the eating properly. The band will only supply you with eating less. That is all. Now get up on your feet and welcome a new challenge. All the best!

Brad what an awesome post!! You hit the nail on the head with that one. I hope everyone on this site has the chance to read this. This is the exact routine I am doing this time around. I have noticed my scale is going down ever so slowly but the inches are flying off. I'm looking more fit than ever and I'm only 3 weeks in. Blessings! PS, I'm going to sticky this thread. I think it has some wonderful information attached.

Closed per Original Poster request. Please see "Bedding Hotties" for reference. http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f110/bedding-hotties-118441/ Again, just keep it civil, thank you.

I have merged the two threads. One of these is more than enough. I only ask that all posting please keep it civil. Thank you.

... or sodium ... I can't believe that amount of sodium is put in that stuff.

I am glad it turned out well Your Aunt is absolutely right about studying up. Read anything and everything you can regarding the Lap-Band. You will find out many things you do not learn in Seminars or even your local group support meetings. All the best!

Ever sat and wondered for a minute how getting banded would affect your relationships? I'm talking all relationships too, from your marriage or significant other, your children and parents, close family or friends. Perhaps even just associates, co-workers, or strangers walking down the street as they pass you. All of this can and likely will change as time goes on as your weight goes down and your confidence goes up. I speak from experience in this; it will probably even change your relationships here on this very website. In my personal opinion I’ve noticed the relationship I have with myself is what ultimately affects the relationships I have with others. How am I feeling today? Do I feel good? Do I like myself today? Now, if I answer yes to this then I’m almost willing to bet the farm I’m going to have a good relationship day with those surrounding me. It will probably show on my face how I’m feeling. I’m probably smiling on the outside, giving better eye contact and “good vibes” so to speak. What if I reversed the roles and put myself in someone else’s shoes? Say, I’m walking down the hallway at work and there are two people coming down the hallway at me. The first one is looking downward, no facial expression or perhaps one that doesn’t look ultimately satisfied at the moment. They do not pretend to notice I’m there… what is my personal reaction to this? Of course, I just walk right on by thinking… wow, what’s eating them – or something potentially negative. The next person is walking by with nice posture, smiling and looking around taking in the scenery. What would I do then? My normal response to this as based on history, I tend to say “hello, nice outside isn’t it?” or whatever comes to mind (hopefully not too cheesy – LOL!!) This is true for me in my response to those around me. But perhaps I say this to Mr. Nothappy? What is the response from them back to me? That is what eludes me to this day. No matter what, there are always going to be those types of people who are so unhappy in their lives that they must find some kind of joy in bringing down those who truly are ecstatic and living life to the fullest. They tend to not want to say hello back, or feel like “well who does she *think* she is??... all happy and whatnot!! Wow she thinks she’s all that” and some miserable other types of feedback. You know what? As time goes on and the more confidence that builds in me every day I tend to start feeling like… so what? You’re not happy, well I really don’t care. I am and I will *not* let you take that away from me. So, go into your miserable little stupor and stew. Oh, and “Have a nice Day!” Ha-ha!! I live my life to help others, make the people around me happy and always working for positivity. However one thing I have learned lately is no matter what you do, there will always be people you can’t please. People who, for the sake of argument will be nasty to you no matter what. However I read somewhere a Wayne Dyer blurb. It goes something like this “How other people treat YOU is THEIR karma. How YOU react is YOURS.” I loved to read that because it reminds me that responding negatively in kind is not going to make the situation better. All I can do is continue to be me. Love me or hate me, I am still me. No one can change that unless I allow them. What I also know from this is that I will never treat anyone back unkindly. If someone is unhappy on the inside, then that is something THEY need to work on.

Isn't that interesting? Who'd have thought the port would also help with the eating right? I never did. This was a good question.

Sebastia40, I'm sorry to hear your having issues that will cause more surgery for you. Get well soon!

When you set yourself out to the world and tell them about this type of elective surgery, you will open yourself up to criticism and the all to familiar "friend of a friend" scenario. If you are 110% dedicated to this procedure then this sort of feedback should not be to deterring to your decision. If you are really intending to go forward, then do not let negative forces hold you back from your decision. In my opinion, if you do then you are not ready. If you do it, own it. I hope the best for you.

I'm about two and a half years out and yes, tight clothing touching my port site does still cause discomfort for me. Good luck!

I was banded about two and a half years ago. I have experienced more what I call a slight tenderness. The real pain lasted for about a month, but I was able to sleep on it after about 2 weeks post. I only really feel it now when I either eat a little too much or my pants are too tight. Other than that, for me it's really nothing to be to worried about. I even asked my Surgeon about it because it had been a few years and I told him I still feel some discomfort there. He said it's perfectly normal and a great deal many band patients do have this.

I liked this quote. Thanks for sharing. The Title is a little misleading, it's actually a very positive read.

Ah the dreaded water weight. Oh how I loathe thee! :smile: Really though, there are so many factors that go into not posting a great loss from week to week. That's why you just have to work it, don't lose hope, don't lose focus. Time passes, pounds drop and inches fade as long as I'm sticking to the new way of life.

Awesome! You always know exactly what to say! :smile: xoxo