LilMissDiva Irene

@@K33 beautiful confidence

It's true we all change over the years, just by life experiences. Weight loss surgery is a huge life changer and the further out you are the more you can change. You learn so many things, especially if you are deep into the WLS support community. What is it about your inner self that you are proud to share that you have changed since surgery for the better? Or, if you are pre-op or newly WLS what changes do you hope for in the future? I have definitely learned a sincere compassion for others feelings, good or bad. Support is extremely important in my opinion in the WLS community. No one will ever understand us, like us. Some other things I enjoy about the "new" me is that I have come to accept who I am, my past, my present and feeling excited about my future. I have gained a confidence about myself and now I realize that I really CAN do ANYTHING that I put my mind to. I am studying Business Management and minoring in Nutrition... I never dreamed I'd ever have come this far! I still fight for my health and my life every day, but I also have the confidence within me that I will succeed at that too. No one is perfect, and least of all me - but I am glad I can say that I will fight daily to be the best me I can be. Enjoy your journey! Every day, every pound we get rid of and every bad or demeaning thought we ever had about ourselves.

I can't speak for anyone else but myself, and yes I do. I opened a savings account over the weekend to have reconstructive surgery in a few years.

@@Time1989 - I workout at least an hour a day 5-6 days per week. I add in toning which I'm sure is the most major reason I got so small, besides the fact that I'm much smaller framed than I originally thought. Even being in such small sizes I am still "thick" so I have no worries that I'll ever get too skinny. @@TheCurvyJones - Good point. As someone who is going on my 4th year post op I have been through a whole lot more than anyone who is newly sleeved. So much changes happen year after year and the 3 year post op gain is a reality. Not only that in time our faces fill out where once they might have looked extra thin. Our fat cells seem to redistribute to areas of our body once were off balance from other parts of our body. Good luck!

@@cutiepieinchi If you dream it, and reach for it you will achieve it. I know many post op WLSers that have run 5k's all the way up to marathons and beyond! I've run a few 5ks myself. Though I cannot anymore by the advice of my orthopedic surgeon, I will always have that memory of doing them. Go for it!

Guess the occupation of the person above you based on their avatar. Please keep it clean and courteous!

And I'm not sure why but a bunch of bald headed men sitting in front of you is what lead me in that direction.

Oh yay! I was very close I should just retire for the state and start a seer business.

That's a very high divorce rate. Fortunately my husband and I have been through 2 surgeries and are about to embark on our third. As time goes on we just get stronger! Like mentioned above, as long as we communicate our feeling in a respectful manner we can get through any negative situation and compromise.

Find a new PCP! You need a regular Dr. who is on board with what you are doing and is supportive. This person is going to be helping your surgeon meet your medical health goals. Get your records copied and take them to your new PCP. Time to do some homework!

Oh no... I fixed it for you.

Yes! Absolutely. Everything from my knees to just the way I fit into a chair. I can walk miles and miles and not need a break. I look in the mirror and I feel accomplished and don't want to look away too quickly. I feel more confident meeting new people and not wonder if they think bad things about me. I feel confident enough to give advice to other people about what to eat, how to workout and safe means to weight loss. I just love the confidence in myself, it's hard to explain. This person has always been in here, but she's been living in a cocoon. Maybe your time hasn't happened yet when you really realize that you do feel better, but I believe it will happen eventually. Stay stronger!

@@Sparklingbeauty53 I love your user name. We all have a little sparkle inside of us, and if someone doesn't they should go to Michaels and buy some.

Well said! Go get your life!

I can't add anything more than what has already been mentioned, run away and run away fast. Stop reading her blogs, it's only hurting you and right now your main focus is your surgery and healing and weight loss. She sounds like a psychopath wrapped in a bow. She's a really good writer and tries to sound convincing, but yet she spews venom. Good you blocked her on Facebook! You can make new and better, more supportive friends there now, like me!

@@Terribj you iron weeks worth of clothes at one time? Wow! You deserve "The Most Proactive On Earth" Award for that one!

@@jjinWA financial executive

@@Sparklingbeauty53 wonderful representation of how you're feeling right now! If I may make one suggestion though, keep ONE set of your biggest clothing. There will come that day when you can fit both legs in one pant leg of your largest. It is a very special moment and you won't want to miss out because you threw them away. That said, throw everything else away or donate them! ASAP.

@@1Day1Life4Now I work for the State of CA as a contracts and federal grant analyst! We have something in common.

Loving all the adorable furbabies! They truly are our best friends

@@SandyM - Yes, toning will make you smaller. Gaining muscle makes you burn fat a lot easier and I believe that is the major reason I got so small. @RJ'S/beginning - ABSOLUTELY! There's nothing wrong with working to become the best you can but it's equally important not to make an mentally unhealthy obsession about it. Work toward health and be the best you can! A lot of times though as super obese people we have an unhealthy mental image and thought about health and fitness too, which isn't good either. We think that it's impossible to dream to be that person. The more we work toward health and fitness we start to realize we really did have what it took to be that person. I suppose since I've gotten mental help for such issues I don't even think about taking it too far, but I cannot let my life experiences lead the way to others who haven't.

@@Mrs.RRn yes I had to fix the question because many were reading it literally which, why wouldn't they? Lol I had to think of a way to put it that it was playing in my mind. I meant no harm at all in what I was asking! I'm sorry it came out that way.

@@beeteroo yes that is exactly my point... I never thought I could get as small as I did. I was extremely healthy and even more happy. I was athletic, I ate really good healthy food (no I never ever starved myself), stayed well hydrated... it just came off. That is the size I'm supposed to be. Some think it's way too small of a size, but hey... it's my size. That said, my usual size I could get either a 2 or a 4 at other places. Sizes vary - but like I said the premise of this thread is to say don't count yourself out when you really aren't finished. I could lose another 10 Lbs and still be considered a healthy weight and body fat. It's in the cards too. It's not easy to imagine being a "skinny girl", but the fact is at our all true healthy weights we really are. And it's okay to want that for ourselves.

Let me clarify: when I said "skinny" I didn't mean boney, gaunt looking - I simply meant smaller than your goal. No, there's really nothing wrong with striving for more of a goal than just being healthy, in my opinion. We've all had some kind of obesity related issue, so it's okay to want to look in the mirror and say "Wow! I look great!" Stay true, always.