mumof2boys

Hello everyone...some of you guys may remember me...I was banded in 2007, lost about 130 pounds, found out my husband cheated on me, had plastic surgery to removed excess skin, got divorced and now I have been diagnosed with breast cancer. Throughout my ordeal with my cheating husband, I found lots of support from many friends here on LBT. Well, I'm in need of support yet again. The day after Thanksgiving I felt a lump in my breast. The following Monday I contacted my doctor and they got me in the office the following morning. The doctor confirmed that there was indeed a lump and gave me a referral for a mammogram and an ultrasound (I don't get annual mammograms because I am only 37). The next day I had a mammogram and ultrasound and the lump appeared "suspicious" and they suggested a biopsy. The following day I underwent a biopsy and I was informed this past Tuesday that it was positive for breast cancer. I have since had a MRI and met with an Oncologist and tomorrow I meet with a Radiation Oncologist. I am scheduled for a lumpectomy on Friday, December 17, 2010. It really hasn't hit me yet but I am scared of all of this. The way that things look now, I will not need to undergo chemo but I will have to have 6 - 8 weeks of radiation, 5 days a week. Please keep me in your prayers during this difficult time...I really appreciate it.

Hello folks...some may remember me...I was banded in 2007, lost 130 pounds, had a lower body lift and breast lift with augmentation and was the healthiest I have ever been. Then, on December 7, 2010 I was diagnosed with breast cancer and that's when the weight began. Following surgery and treatment I had packed on 20 pounds. My outlook on life changed after hearing "cancer" and I wanted to enjoy every minute of life and wasn't paying attention to calories and didn't take time to work out. I had also gone through a divorce but was dating an amazing man. Six months after treatment ended I was pregnant. Fear went through my body for many reasons...pregnancy wasn't good for someone who just beat breast cancer (hormone positive) and I was terrified of the weight gain. Well, after a very stressful pregnancy I gave birth to a beautiful, healthy baby boy (I'm no longer mom of 2 boys). I gave birth in May 2012. My LapBand surgeon said I could begin to get my band filled again but first I needed an upper GI. I had the upper GI and was ready to get back on track but my surgeon had other plans...he said I had a small hiatal hernia and he had to remove my band. I was devastated and depression was setting in, until I went somewhere else for a second opinion...I started getting fills in November and after my third fill, in January, I finally have restriction. So here I am starting all over. I have 70 pounds to lose. I'm sad but I know I can do it because I did it before.

Thank you

I'm right there with you..LMN son was born in May. It took forever to get a fill because my surgeon wanted to remove my band. I had to search for another surgeon. After locating another surgeon I finally have restriction after the fill that I got on January 15. I now have 70 pounds to lose and I'm super depressed about it. We just have to stay positive and we will do it.

I had plastic surgery in 2009 (little did I know that I would have a baby in 2012)...anyway...I had mine done at George Washington Hospital in Washington, DC. Insurance did not pay for any of it. It costs me $19,600 for a lower body lift and breast lift with augmentation. I stayed in the hospital overnight and went home the next day. I love my surgeon and now that I'm back on the band wagon of losing baby weight I may have to go back to him. I'm scared of going outside of the US to have something like that done, but it's completely your choice. I borrowed the money from my retirement...it wasn't making any money in there anyway

I had plastic surgery after my weight loss and insurance didn't pay for any of it. It cost me $19,600 for a lower body lift and breast lift with augmentation...good luck.

This should be one of the happiest times of my life right now and I just want to cry and cry some more. I got the lapband in 2007...I was 275 pounds...I went down to 141 pounds, from a size 22/24 to a size 6/8...I was diagnosed with breast cancer in December 2010 and I kicked it's ass...I got pregnant in September 2011 and in May 2012 I delivered my 3rd son. He is a happy, healthy, perfect little fella...but I'm 220 pounds and hating life. I NEVER thought that I would be this weight again and I absolutely HATE myself. I want to cry every single minute of every single day. My surgeon wanted to remove my band because of a small hiatal hernia which made my band move. I went for a second opinion and my new doctor didn't agree and he actually gave me a very small fill. I have no motivation to work out and I often want to hide from the public because I hate the way that I look now. Not only am I fat again but now I suffer from back pain which they are telling me is arthritis and this extra weight isn't making things easy at all. I hate feeling like this :-(

I never had a problem with beer...except that I couldn't drink as much as I used to...just a couple and I was down for the count. I would drink them rather slow.

OK...here goes nothing. I haven't posted in quite a while because I have been dealing with some real shit at home. A month ago I found out that my husband of almost 10 years has been having an affair for the last year and a half. :mad:That's right...while I was losing weight and looking great, that pig went out seeking an affair and here I was scared of how I would act after I started to get attention from others when I started to look nice. I am hurt:crying:, angry:mad2:, sad :cry_smile:, devastated:cursing:, sick and every other emotion (other than happy). I'm now on Xanax for my anxiety and I am completely obsessed with this crap. How can someone go out seeking an affair when they have a wife and two beautiful children? Do people care anymore? Do vows mean anything? What the hell is wrong with people? Of course now all of a sudden he wants the marriage to work. Well damn...you should have thought about that before porking the skank!!!! I want to freaken scream. I want to hurt them both. How the hell do people get on after things like this happen to them? Is it possible? We are in counseling, but should I even bother? Will he do it again? What about my kids? Damn...I need some serious help. This really sucks. I'm tired of crying. I'm tired of the chest pains and the anxiety. I want a fairy tale ended but unfortunately my marriage will NEVER be the same. I can never look at him the same way again. Do I give up and start my life over with my boys? Can someone wake me up from this horribe nightmare????? Why me? In the last year I have gone from a size 22/24 to a size 10/12 and I have lost 106 pounds. I thought that my husband was proud of me and thought that I was looking good...guess not, huh? Joke's on me!!!

Hi there folks...just checking in to say hello. My baby turned 6 months old today...time is flying but the scales are staying the same and I'm very depressed about it. I know that I'm not doing what I should do and I just can't seem to get motivated. I'm so tired by the time that I finally get home from work, fix dinner, help the older kids with homework, feed the baby, give him a bath, and then put him to bed then it's time for me to go to bed. I know that I need to stop with excuses. I will be calling to make an appointment for another fill soon. I have no restriction and I think that if I just felt a little restriction that I would get motivated. Wish me luck folks..several of you guys have been with me through thick and thin (literally) times and I sure do need you guys now. I don't get on here much anymore...I'm addicted to FB but I will make it a point to get on here every day so that I can chat with you guys. I hope you all are doing well. Thanks for all of your support throughout the years :-)

Great post. My profile picture is me...I was banded in 2007...lost 130 pounds, had a lower body lift and breast lift with augmentation in 2009 and this pic was from vacation in 2010...first time wearing a bikini. Now...in December 2010 I was diagnosed with breast cancer...kicked it's ass and then got pregnant in September 2011...delivered my third son on May 15, 2012 and now I'm fighting the pregnancy weight gain. I have 60 pounds to lose but I keep my profile pic the same to remind me that I did it once so I can do it again all of you are beautiful...never be embarrassed of your pictures!

Thank you. Kime-lou...I recently got a fill. The surgeon that I went to for a second opinion didn't think that I had to have the hernia repaired because it was so small. I got a very small fill and will go back in a few weeks for some more. In the meantime I am just disgusted in myself and feel like I have failed myself. I don't want to be the "fat" mom to my children and I also know that I need to lose weight and eat healthy to fight against the cancer coming back. Not only did I get cancer at a young age but I am also a carrier of the BRCA II gene mutation so my risk of it coming back are very high. I NEED to lose this weight and exercise and eat right...I think that because I ate like a cow while I was pregnant I can't seem to get away from doing that. I feel like I'm climbing an uphill battle and I feel like I'm going to lose this fight.

Well...after a very long and successful life with my lap band I have to have it removed. I am completely devastated, scared and depressed. Many of you all on this site know my story (it's quite a long one)...in case you don't, here it is in a nut shell: 2007: 275 pounds...had lap band placed 2008: learned that my husband was cheating for years, completely devastated 2009: after attempting to save marriage, asked husband to leave 2009: 141 pounds...had lower body lift and breast lift with augmentation...never felt or looked better in my entire life... 2010: Divorce was final (May) 2010: Diagnosed with breast cancer (December)..had lumpectomy followed by 6 1/2 weeks of radiation therapy 2011: Learned that I was pregnant by my (now) fiance' 2012: Underwent numerous doctors appointments and biopsies because they thought the cancer returned...luckily it did not. 2012: May 15, 2012, my post cancer miracle baby boy was born and despite the horrible statistics that they gave me...he is PERFECT :-) Today: I went in to have a fill after having it drained during my pregnancy. About three weeks ago I had an upper GI to see the placement of the band. I was so excited to go get a fill only to be let down and told that I have a small hiatal hernia and I have to have the band removed...FOREVER. I am completely and utterly devastated. I gained a lot of weight with my pregnancy and I am so fearful of being fat and unhealthy again. I am sitting in my office at work crying over this...I feel like a part of me has died

Thank you...my weightloss is non existent...I'm not doing well at all. I completed my 4th Susan G. Komen 3 Day Walk a couple of weeks ago and it was extremely difficult this year with all of this weight on me. I never thought that I would see this weight again...I'm really, really depressed, which doesn't make losing weight easy. I look at my profile picture and just want to cry...I will NEVER look like that again, nor will I feel that great again. Sometimes I just want to say the hell with it...not having a good day, at all :-(

Had my appointment this morning...no surgery and even left with a small fill...I'm very very happy

Thank you so much. I'm getting nervous about the appointment tomorrow but trying to stay positive. Everyone please say a little prayer for me tonight for a successful appointment in the morning

Emily's Dad...reading your comment brought back many, many emotions...ones that I never want to feel again...I am so very sorry that you are going through what I once went through. Betrayal by your spouse is the worse feeling in the world. Like you, my husband and I did not get along...in fact there were several times that I asked him to leave. He was mean to me and constantly put me down. In fact, following the birth of our second child he told me, "You have gained weight and I find myself not attracted to you anymore"...let me say this to you...life does go on...you will get through this...you will have a rollarcoaster of emotions. One minute you are full of hate, the next you are loving and then you are angry...oh, I feel so terrible for you. I am now engaged to be remarried to an absolutely WONDERFUL man but I have to admit...I am scared to death to get married again. I know that I should not fault anyone for my ex husbands behavior but it is very hard. Losingit919...I thank you for your kind words...this post is from 2008 and since that time I have gotten divorced, engaged and just had a baby...so, acutally now I should be renamed to "mumof3boys"...it has been a very tough road but I have managed through all of the obstacles, including kicking breast cancers ass in 2010.

OK folks...update...I have found someone who will meet with me to discuss saving the band and fixing the hernia. I have an appointment on October 8 at 10:30 am. I have been trying desperately to meet with a surgeon at Johns Hopkins but it's like an act of God just to get someone on the telephone. I am meeting with Dr. Halmi at the Blue Point Surgical Group in Fairfax, Virginia. Please, please, please keep your fingers crossed that he will help me. I am so very uncomfortable in my own skin again and I hate it. I want to be ME again...the ME that I found after losing weight...I just want to cry... Someone asked what caused the hernia...most likely it was the pregnancy and there is NO possible way that I will ever get pregnant again so I say...fix my band!!! I am so desperate that I am considering gastric bypass if my band has to be removed...keep those fingers crossed, my friends...

I was diagnosed with breast cancer 3 months after my 37th birthday. I finished my radiation in March 2011 (luckily I did not have to go through chemo) and low and behold in September 2011 I got pregnant. Well...after my lumpectomy I had genetic testing and I have the BRCA II gene mutation which greatly increases my risk of reoccurrence of breast cancer, as well as ovarian cancer. So...when I had my baby in May 2012 I had my ovaries and tubes removed to help reduce my risk...with that came menopause...hot flashes SUCK and I can't take any medication because of my history with breast cancer. I feel for ya girl...I just turned 39 last week and I didn't think I would be going through this right now but it's better than the alternative :-)

Well...I have lost absolutely NO weight since having the baby...my goal today is to try to find a surgeon who will at least meet with me to discuss saving my band...I'm so depressed that I just want to eat more...I'm suppose to get married next year...I have to get this weight off of me :-(

Hi there everyone. I had quite a devastating week last week and I thought that I would tell you all about it. I posted all about it under the General forum but here goes... I returned to work last Monday after my maternity leave. Things were going well and I was very excited to head to the doctor on Thursday to start getting fills again. Well...got a blow to the gut...was told that they have to remove my band FOREVER because I have a hiatal hernia and my band is not in the correct place. I cried my eyes out because I am terrified. I am currently considering a second opinion... Then...on Saturday I received news that my Oncologist suddently died on Thursday. I am beside myself. This doctor was not just a doctor, he was my friend. I trusted him with my life (literally). He was amazing and helped me through the most difficult time in my life. I feel lost and I cannot believe that he is gone. I just saw him on July 31 and I am so very happy that he got to meet my baby. He was by far the best doctor that I have ever encountered in my life. His bedside manner was beyond words and the care that he gave his patients was amazing. I know that nobody will ever be able to fill his shoes. So...now, not only do I face looking for another lapband doctor but also another Oncologist...I wish I could turn back the hands of time...

Thanks everyone...I am starting out this second week back to work and trying to hold my head high. Sometimes it is so very difficult to stay positive. Not only did I get that devastating news about my band last week but this past weekend I was informed of horrible news. My Oncologist (whom I love dearly and trust more than anyone in this world) suddenly passed away on August 9. I, once again, am completely devastated. This man was more than "just a doctor" to me. He cared so deeply for his patients. He gave me his personal cell phone number and always answered if I ever called. He was so very personal and made you feel like you were his only patient. I will never find someone to fill his shoes. I just had an appointment with him on July 31 and I am so very happy that he got to meet my little miracle baby. He watched over me like a hawk during my entire pregnancy, sending me for breast ultrasounds every two months. I am beside myself with sorrow. This man saved and changed my life. I thank you all for your support and I look foward to your continued help with my weightloss that I so desperately need.

Wow!!! Thanks for all of your comments and support. I will most definitely look at getting another opinion. I love my doctor but if it is possible to keep the band and stay healthy I will most certainly do that. Not only is it extremely stressful for this entire situation but having another surgery adds to lots of other issues. During all of my tests after being diagnosed with cancer I found out that I have the BRCA II gene (the breast cancer and ovarian cancer gene) so during my c-section I had my ovaries removed...I am currently going through menopause (oh joy...at the age of 38)...I also learned that I have the Factor V gene (blood clots) so following my c-section I had to give myself shots in my stomach for 8 weeks and if I have another surgery I will have to do it again :-( Also...they told me that I will not be able to lift more than 20 pounds for 4-6 weeks following surgery...I have a newborn who I have to carry in his carrier...all of this is just a load of stress on my shoulders that I don't want nor need (oh boy...here comes a hot flash...) I'm not sure how much more bad news I can take...

Because of the hiatal hernia I am not a candidate for the sleeve but they said that bypass is an option but I do not want to do that. I still cannot believe this is happening...I was filled with information this morning but all I heard was jibber jabber after they told me that I need surgery...then I cannot lift my son for 4-6 weeks afterwards...I can hold him but not bend down in the crib and pick him up...all of this is like a big kick in the gut...I just wanna be like my profile picture again.