mumof2boys
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New pics and the 3-Day Breast Cancer Walk
mumof2boys added images to a gallery album in Member Photo Gallery
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From the album: New pics and the 3-Day Breast Cancer Walk
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:laugh::thumbup::ohmy::thumbup::wink2::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::thumbup: I'm just on a high today and I am feeling like I will never come down!!!! I'm loving it...I can't explain what has come over me but I figure...I can't change the past and I really can't change the future...he's gonna do what he's gonna do, therefore...I gotta take care of me and that's exactly what I'm gonna do (and my kids). You guys rock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:w00t:
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I just wanted to say..."I LOVE 2009"...I feel like a different person and I'm diggin it!!! Whatever happens, happens!
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self-pay plastic surgery anyone???
mumof2boys replied to BellaPerdente's topic in Plastic & Reconstructive Surgery
Well, I went yesterday for my second consultation...I added some things that I want done. I initially wanted a tummy tuck and inner thigh tuck. I'm going to have a lower body lift and breast lift with augmentation. I'm scheduled for April 14. The total for everything, including hospital stay, fees, implants, everything is just about $19,000. I will be paying for everything myself but I know it's so worth it. It also includes all follow-up visits forever!!! Good luck (and wish me luck). -
Thank you...thank you...thank you....I have such a different outlook for 2009...I'M A NEW AND IMPROVED TINA!!!
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Well hello everyone and Happy New Year. 2009 is going to be 1,000% better than 2008...that's my promise to myself. I have told myself to accept the things that I cannot change. If my husband cannot change, I'm moving on with my life. I feel so good about myself right now I just can't explain it. I have so much confidence that I now hold my head up high. I love who I am and just because he saw fault in me, that's not going to stop me from being me. So...here's the latest news in my world. I have scheduled a surgery date for my plastic surgery. I am so excited I could just scream. Guess when I'm having it done???? April 14, 2009...that is my one year anniversary of finding out about his affair. I figured...make a horrible memory (the day of finding out) into a good one (changing my appearance forever)...plus, being out for about 7 hours and on some serious pain meds will be great too. Anyway...I'm having a lower body lift and breast lift with implants. Can you say "hello dump truck just hit me". I'm going to be hurting big time but it can't be any worse than April 14, 2008, right? I'm going to start the paperwork today for my loan and I'm going to use our tax refund money. Oh my goodness...I can't believe that I'm actually going to get this nasty skin cut off. So...what do you guys think? Have I made strides? Don't get me wrong...I still have my moments but the thing that has made me feel better about myself...I get so many compliments from people (men) now that I'm not afraid of being alone...I'm not afraid of living life for me and my kids...if things cannot be made right in my marriage...I know that I can make it. :thumbs_up: Thanks so much guys. You guys rock. Make sure that you check out the plastics thread to keep track of my progress and wish me luck!!!! Woo Hoo 2009!!!!!
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Thanks for everyones support. It is an especially difficult time right now. I truly love the holidays but this year it's totally different. I'm really not myself. I want to be, but I just can't be. I don't know if it's because I know deep down that I will NEVER get over this and my marriage is over or because I'm just not ready to move on. The hurt is just too much for me to handle right now. He is doing everything and I mean everything right but I can't get the images out of my head of him and her (and she's one ugly dog too). I am feeling so much better about myself and I don't think that I'm scared to be alone anymore but I also don't want to give up on my marriage. I just hope that after the holidays I can refocus and start moving forward. I'm so sorry to hear that many of you have been through the same thing. It's not right, it's not fair and it's not what marriage is all about. Maybe one day this world will understand the true meaning of being faithful. Until then, many of us suffer.
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It is very hard and I have always been that person that said that cheating was a "deal breaker" and then I'm faced with it and I looked into my innocent kids eyes and I couldn't give up without trying. I have learned things about my husband that I had no idea about. He has issues to work through and so do we as a couple. Believe me...It was not an esay decision to make.
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Thank you for your prayers and thoughts. You are right, it is the most difficult thing that someone can go through. I don't wish it upon anyone (except the other woman). I really don't think that spouses understand the true pain behind it all. They say that they do after the fact but in reality, there is no way that they can understand it to the fullest. I am sorry to hear that you have had to deal with a similiar situation. I hope that you got through everything alright.
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The rabbit? LOVE IT. However, my favorite is the Decedent Indulgence. It is my new best friend and I recommend it to anyone and everyone. When you're in a hurry and don't have much time, all you need is about three minutes and you are good to go. I love it!!!!
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I am so sorry for not responding earlier. I never look at my profile page and I often miss messages from people. Yes...my hair did grow back. It started falling out at about six months and then again at about one year. It is a horrible feeling to have handfulls of hair come out when you are in the shower. My bathroom floor was covered. You will get through it. Have you talked to your doctor about it? My doctor told me to up my intake of protein.
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Sorry I never responded to your comment. I always forget to look at my profile page. Thanks for the compliment...it's very nice when people say things about the difference in my appearance. Thanks again!!!!
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Thanks everyone. I just can't wait for the day that I can go through an entire day without thinking about it. It truly does consume me. I'm no longer obsessed with what she looks like since I have finally seen her picture...I'm just obessed with thinking..."This time last year he was..." Plus...with the holidays coming I can't help but think that the last couple of years have been a lie and it's killing me.
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Hello everyone. I know it's been a very long time. I have been trying to get my life back together and I haven't been on the site much lately. My weight is the same...I have about 7 more pounds to go until I will be absolutely beside myself. Right now I'm fitting into a size 8/10 and loving every single minute of it. Anyway...back to the topic at hand. Let me tell you all about the last month. My husband has been the most wonderful person on this planet. I have no idea who he is. He has completely changed and of course I'm scared to death that it won't last. We have been going out on dates and we have been getting along very well and communicating regularly. We still go to counseling and have a lot to work out. The bad thing...I cannot get the past out of my mind for one second of a day. I have seen a picture of the other woman and let me just tell you...YUCK!!! Looking at that picture, I realize that it would have been ANYBODY. She is not cute at all and I'm not just saying that. Believe me when I say that I have NEVER said anything like this before, but...I am sooooo much hotter than her. lol So...not only is she a low-life, no good for nothing home wrecking whore, she's ugly on top of that. Don't get my wrong...my husband is a home wrecker too. I just get to remind him everyday of it and I don't get to remind her so I just get to say it to make myself feel better. I hope that everyone is doing well and surviving through the holidays. I'm not ready for Christmas at all this year. Usually I am completely done shopping and wrapping by now. I'm very far behind...I guess you could say that 2008 wasn't the best year for me. Well...thanks for all of the well wishes. I will continue to keep you guys informed as this soap opera unfolds. Take care everyone!!!
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Hey there guys...I know that this is your room but I thought that you might be able to help me. I was banded on April 30, 2007 and I'm down 125 pounds. I have gone from a size 22/24 to a size 10. Not bad, huh? I feel great, look great and finally have confidence. Here's the thing. Approximately six months ago I discovered that my husband of 10 years had been having an affair for the past year and a half. He told this girl (no one like her deserves to be called a woman) everything about me. She knew when I was having surgery...she knew when I had reached "45" pounds down, she knew about my childhood. So...what the hell is all that about? I know that cheating isn't just a mans thing but I'm wondering if any of you have done it and if so, did you share such personal things with your significant other. Also...from your view...do you think that someone can change? I'm still so up in the air about all of this. I'm in so much pain and hurt every single day that I don't know if I can cope and then again I have no guarantee that someone else won't do this to me. It seems to be accepted in today's society. So...anything that you guys can give me would be much appreciated. Thanks for letting me into your room and thanks in advance for any information that you want to share. If you don't want to share personal information but do want to give me a little insight but not on this thread, feel free to PM me. Thanks, guys!!!
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Thanks guys. I appreciate everything that everyone has said. I have been really struggling these past two weeks and I am actually worried about myself. I feel myself falling deeper into a depression and I'm getting scared. In discussions with my therapist and just "thinking" in general to myself, this is what I come up with as to why he "may" have been telling HER personal information about me. From what I understand, she was asking questions about me and he would answer. I truly think that she lives her life having affairs and she knows how to get out of them when she's done because she knows so much information about the wife. She knew where I worked and the particular office that I worked in, which gave her the power to contact my immediate supervisor at work after I called and cussed her out. (I work for the federal government...a law enforcement agency). Also, I think that when she was done with my husband she knew so much information about me that she could simply say, "If you don't leave me alone, I'm going to call your wife". Now...I could be WAY off with that, so...here's my other thought....I think that my husband was telling her these things to give himself permission in his mind to have the affair. I think that he was making himself believe that it was alright because by saying these things out loud to another person about me made it justifiable for him. In his mind, he was justifying the affair..."I got fat...I was mean to him...I didn't trust him..." Cheating has ALWAYS been a deal breaker for me, that's what makes this even harder. I am struggling so much. I can say, however, that the person that my husband is right now is the husband that I have always wanted. He is so attentive to my needs, surprises me with things (he just got tickets to Cirque du Soele and reservations for dinner...he WOULD never go there before). He calls me all day from work and he waits on me hand and foot. He is also much more patient with the kids and is just a totally different person. I really and truly feel that he is completely embarassed, ashamed and remorseful. I understand that nobody can make this choice for me but I truly thank you guys for letting me vent in "your room" and for your suggestions/comments, etc. Please continue to share anything that you would like with me. Also...thanks for saying that I look good now...I'm not used to that AT ALL!!! It's a real ego booster and right now is the best time to boost my ego. Thanks.
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Hi everyone...just thought that I would give a quick update as to where I'm at these days. I'm still on this roller coaster called "crazy". One minute I'm great and the next I'm crying. My doctor has upped my dose of anti-depressants in hopes of helping me to stop crying so much. My husband and I went to his 20th high school reunion this past weekend and I must admit...we had a fabulous time. I was feeling hot in the dress that I was wearing and I was just beaming with confidence. I didn't think about my "reality" at all. We didn't get home until 7:30 am Sunday morning. So...needless to say, I partied like a rock star (and gained 7 pounds from the White Russians). So...that's where I'm at right now. Still going up and down. I'm slowly still learning information about his affair and whenever I learn something new, it sets me back and I feel the hurt and pain all over again. I'm trying to cope and I'm trying to stay strong and I have to admit that he is certainly doing everything in his power to make it better for me. Unfortunately we cannot erase what he has done so I have to do my best to deal with it, get past it and/or move on. Thanks to everyone for all the PMs, prayers, suggestions and for letting my vents. You guys rock.
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Thanks so much for looking at my pictures and posting a message. I see that you're a neighbor (kind of). You will do well with the band. You just have to remember that it's a tool and you'll be good to go. I have to say that it has changed my life for the best. Take care and keep in touch.
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Thanks for the comments on my pictures. It is so amazing to look at new pictures and old pictures. I never pictured myself the way that I used to look. I guess you don't face reality until it slaps you in the face. Good luck to you!
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Hi Melisa. Thanks for looking at my pictures. I started out at 275 pounds. I was wearing a 2X or a 22/24 (and it was tight). I'm now in a medium or a size 10. I am 5'5" and currently weight between 150-157 (I keep going up and down). Good luck to you. If I can do it, you can too. Keep in touch. I would love to hear how things work out for you. Tina
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Hi Sweetmama...Thanks for the compliments. For the past two months I have pretty much been maintaining. At my one year mark I was down about 107 pounds. I'm currently wearing a size 10 and/or mediums. I started out in a very, very tight 22/24 and/or 2X. I never thought that I would be where I am today but I decided that if I was going this route and having surgery, I was going to make it work for me. I began exercising and eating right and the weight started falling off. I just recently completed the Breast Cancer 3-Day, walking a total of 60 miles over 3 days. I never thought that I would be able to do that but I did it and felt wonderful about it.
Good luck to you. You can do it. Think of how wonderful you will feel and how much energy you will have. I love going out to play with my kids now and before I just wanted to sit on the sofa. My life has definately made a dramatic change, a change for the better. Take care of yourself and keep in touch.
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From the album: WHAT A DIFFERENCE!!! I DIDN'T REALIZE.
