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Jennifur, You said the exact reason that I didnt tell any of my friends...I didnt want them to think of me as different. This mothers day we went to BBQ at inlaws and I sat at the kids table to keep everyone from noticing what I was eating...all of the sister in laws are over weight and we have all been on diets together..and it never works...its like a sabotage thing going on...someone did mention me losing weight...I just said, yeah I have a little...and changed the subject....I am no longer gonna be the biggest fattest sister in law...and I KNOW that noone is gonna like it...thats why I am keeping it to myself....I dont want people to treat me different...Yeah, maybe you are acting different, but so what, you just went through a major surgery, lost your BEST friend(food) and they want you to be happy and upbeat all the time...well, its NOT gonna happen...you are on a new journey to a new life...not that you cant keep your same friends, but they need to not be selfish and to learn to love the new you...Just me 2 cents....seems like I am ALWAYS giving it too...LOL...Deanna.. p.s. Good luck and keep your chin up...looks like we are the same age...

I was not prescribed anything to prevent stones or prevent from having it removed. I DO NOT want to go into surgery again....I cant..I just can't....I am toooo scared...my recovery room nurse left ME!!!!! I couldnt talk or move I just knew I was gonna lay there and die and no one would ever know it...she left me to attend to a crying child who just got out of surgery...she never once checked on me, looked at me, didnt tell anyone she was leaving me...she just left...I watched her walk away and into a little glass room where the child was...she sat in a rocking chair facing away from me and never once looked at me...my machine was going off....FINALLY someone came over and told me I had to breath...I was sooo scared...then he kinda watched me for a while....and then went and talked to the "original, ABANDONER" nurse and came back and said I could go to my room if I wanted to...I shook my head yes and then a bit later they took me to my room...I cant go through that again this soon....still havent done my walking or bike riding today....hoping the pain is going to go away any MINUTE NOW!!! Deanna

mdrai....put this picture of yourself in your mind.....YOU IN A STRING BIKINI..ON THE BEACH....YOU CAN DO IT...you are gonna look so H-A-W-T!!!!!! Keep up the good work...you are going great...if you can get through one day of this diet you can get through them all...its just your mind playing tricks on you.....you cant do THIS!!!!! You really can...yes..go exercise...go do something else...just go, go , go...dont let yourself have time to stop and feel sorry for yourself...you will be eating in no time flat...and then you will look back and say to yourself...wow...now THAT was easy weight loss....you go girl....Deanna

mdrai....put this picture of yourself in your mind.....YOU IN A STRING BIKINI..ON THE BEACH....YOU CAN DO IT...

I got some at GNC...chewable calcium and chewable adult multivitamins...My nutritionist told me to take the calcium...Deanna..

I am glad the pain went away....the radiating down your arm was what scared me...I had gas pains so bad up under my left breast I thought I had a blood clot...it hurt to breathe....I went to ER and had CTscan and the doc saw a huge line of gas up under my rib cage pushing on my diaphram....wow..what a relief....it was the most intense pain that got worse and worse as the day went on....I am glad that you are feeling better though...Deanna

LMAO Bubblebutt.....I am glad that is was nothing serious and all is okay...You will be able to help someone in the future that is having the same problem....Deanna

I dont think it is "cocky" to be glad that you dont have the problems that others speak about...I think YOU were glad as is everyone that doesnt have terrrible complications...I think that is a really good point to look at too...Dont ever think that anything like this wont happen to you...it can and it might....just be ready to get to doctor right away and keep fighting for your rights as a patient....you shouldnt have to wait when you are is sooo much pain..Good luck to you...Deanna

YIPPEEEEEEEE!!!!! Way to go!!!! That is probably A LOT of stress off your shoulders today!!!!! Deanna

awe....I am sorry he said that to you!!! My hubby has NEVER EVER said anything mean or derogatory about my weight and he has been with me for 14 years...NEVER ONCE!!! I dont think I would of been able to handle it!!! It is so hard to be fat and not be able to do things that are fun. The last time we went to an amusement park, I was the coat hanger....Everyone used me to hold everything....I couldnt go on any rides...and I CRIED!!!!! I know that next year....I am taking the kids and we are going again and I am going to have a freakin blast!!!! I cant wait!!! I did get to go on one ride...the haunted house...and I almost got stuck...the little teenage boy that was helping people out of the rides just sat and watched me struggle to get out...I COULDNT..my daughter helped me finally...talk about feeling like a LOSER!!!I was thinking, just wait little skinny boy, you will get yours one day...but I dont feel like that now...I wouldnt wish fat on anyone...Its just too bad that people say things like that to someone who already knows all the limitations....maybe he was really frustrated and just needed to vent....good luck to you...Deanna

I havent done a dang thing today and I have ATE Between meals....I have NEVER done that since I have started...I am bothered by this..but yet am trying to stay inactive today to see if I can get this pain in my side to leave....It is fine when I dont move but starts acting up when I move...I havent had my walk today and I doubt I will go for a bike ride...that is why I feel depressed and weird...no exercise today..I might just have to do it and be in pain...I dont know cant decide if I have pulled muscles or it really is my gallbladder...I am trying to decide what to do...I am suppose to go for a fill on the 21st so I am trying to wait until then to talk to the nurse so I dont have to go pay to talk to the doctor....Hope everyone has a great night and TOMORROW IS HUMP DAY.....The weekend is coming back around....YIPPEEE!!! Deanna

Sorry about that...I dont know what I was thinking...I meant your left arm....LOL...oh boy..long day I think...Deanna

Tazza, Here is my advice...if it is your right arm that is hurting...GO TO ER...If the pain in radiating down your arm it could be a heart attack. At least call the doctor and talk with them and see what they say....It probably is just gas, but with that kind of pain...you need to be careful....What does everyone else think???? Call the doctor at least!!!!! Deanna

Aweeee...what a nice hubby...sounds like mine...ANYTHING for me...we refinanced our house for this surgery...course he got a boat and trailer too!!! So, it wasnt like he didnt get anything..LOL...It is soooooo good to have support in your life...it is hard enough with all the other things to deal with, the one person who means the most to you is willing to put it all down and out for you to get healthy is soo awesome....I dont know about the work part as I am currently a full time student and did not have to go back to class after my surgery because of a VERY awesome teacher.... Deanna

Mark, that was a GREAT observation...LOL..I needed a smile right about then when I read that, and you did it for me...thanks...Deanna Regarding the OP...talk to your doctor and see what he/she thinks...If all the co morbidities run in your family then it might be a serious consideration for you...

I have been having trouble getting in to lapband since last night....REALLY weird error messages....I dont know what I would do if it lasted over an hour...I even google it and try to get in that way and NO LUCK!!! Then this morning it did it again...I dont know what is going on but is there an alternative place to meet if something happens and no one can get in? I think I would DIE if I couldnt get on lapbandtalk....Deanna

You LOOK AWESOME Tracy...what a difference....I am getting ready to take my one month post op pics and I can wait to see if I can see a difference...Your face is SOOOOOO much thinner....Also, about my last post and the gall bladder...I am really thinking it is not my gallbladder...It hurt all night when ever I moved a certain way..I am going to take it easy today and see if I can get the pain to go away...DRINK DRINK DRINK...and exercise....thats the way to do it....Deanna

Violets, A quick question to all of you...has anyone had high upper right back and in front pain? It started last week and I thought I might have pulled a muscle but it wont go away, sometimes it goes down lower like where the appendix is..(my appendix is out) but most of the time it is up high..hurts when I move and I cant say that is hurts more or less when I eat. I am scared that the port has come loose from the tubing and the tubing is flailing around inside me...I just dont know....I was self pay so another surgery is completely out of the question... I was wondering if it was my gallbladder, but it hurts pretty much all the time now and I thought the gallbladder was just after you ate something....As of today I have lost 35 pounds since April 5th, so could it be the gallbladder??? Thanks Violets.. Deanna

GOod for you Evilah...I had NO luck looking for how to adjust my pressure..Mine is suppose to be a SMART CPAP system..yeah right...So, I did find the directions of how to change pressure on my machine...on EBAY...paid 6.95...better that paying 60 or 70 to go to doc for 5 minutes and him to say ok...lets reset your pressure...I am not against going to the doctor..just would rather not go if I dont need to...

Thanks for the info..I will look at cpap forum...I have actually looked before but not for awhile now...Julz, did you know you need a new mask every 3 to 6 months...preferably 3 months..the oils on your face make the mask weak and not hold the air properly..I think that is a lot of peoples problems with the cpap..no one tells them they need to get new mask new parts for their mask...Didnt know if you knew that or not..Deanna I am going to go searching for way to adjust mine thanks Mark..

Oh boy I have had sooo many masks..and had to pay for them all myself because once I used it the medical place would not take them back and then the insurance would not cover anymore for 3 to 6 months...I have had everyone but the FULL face mask...covering the whole face and dont think I could handle that...nose pillows, outside the nose resting up against the nose..nose and mouth, just over the nose...I am not sure which one I have right now..but I like it...It is not gel I know that...it has been the best one so far and I have gotten three of them in a row. I tried using the ramp button last night since I cant get into doc until the 22nd, and that was awesome...my pressure is set at 14 and the ramp starts out at 4...when it hit around 8 it was perfect!!!! I slept like crap last night the pressure kept blowing my mouth open...I sure wish there was a way to adjust this machine ourselves...I think we know if we need more or less...Deanna

Well, I can see why...DARK chocolate....YICK!! but now the girl scout cookies...well, now...heres my address....LOL..

Puddin, I want to share my feelings of sorrow for what you are going through. I can honestly say that if I were not married and I lost all my weight that I would not be doing the same exact thing. I think a lot of that has to do with being fat and being ignored by men...I know I have lost 32 pounds since the 5th of April and though fat still I dont feel fat.. I feel kinda skinny now...it feels good to feel good about yourself....I know all everyone is telling you that these guys are using you, and you know it. You are using them too. I think when you find the right one you will know it...and I dont know what to tell you about the guilt...sex if great...really really great...and when you find the right guy, you are going to say to yourself..."WOW...and I thought the sex was good with the other ones..."..Love yourself enough to know that you are a special special person who has been through a lot. You seem to have such an awesome personality and beautiful smile and now you have a beautiful body, but it is your body. Not every guy that wants it..it is YOURS!! So, if you choose to keep doing what you are doing...make wise choices...I think you know what I mean(protection) from EVERYTHING...VD and pregg...you dont want a disease to stop you from being able to enjoy your sex life when you DO find the right one...Deanna

Well, I had a respone written and you know how it goes when it DISAPPEARS!!! I know that mormon church teaches eternally replenishing the planet that you and your husband will be the gods over...it might not say it in those exact words....BUT YOU know it does...secret name to be called out of the grave by your husband..... Its all so common knowledge I dont know why the mormons try to cover it up...there are so many talking mormons...ex mormons or church going, tithing mormons...they talk....My whole husbands family is mormon...I should know...I get treated like one when they tell me stuff that I really DONT want to know....On the other hand I attribute my husbands kind heartedness and the way he worships the ground that I walk on to the way his father respected his mother.....being in a "religion" that is so focused on family could be any religion..not just mormons...so I attribute the way my husband treats me to the way he treats his mom..with the utmost respect, which has NOTHING to do with being mormon...at all....everyone wishes that they had MY husband, he is the nicest, family oriented man and not because he is mormon...he is a nice human being...nothing to do with what religion he is...he is what he is...a good man....I would hate to have someone define me a good person because of what Religion I was...I am glad that you have a man that respects you and loves you, every woman deserves that...we are special... In fact when I was leaving the hospital the day after surgery...the nurse pulled me aside and and said, "I am so impressed with your husband, he is sooo supportive and kind." Boy did I have a grin from ear to ear.....and I am going to agree to disagree I have been doing it my whole life....I grew up in a town of 3,000 with one catholic church, one baptist church and MANY mormon churches... I remember the first time someone asked me to go to something at the "Stake" house...I thought they meant "Steak" house....I freaked out...I thought they were talking about the place where the butchered animals...LOL...

I dream I can confidently sing the song..."Dontcha wish your girlfriend was hot like me...dontcha wish your girlfriend was a freak like me.." Thats what I dream...one day...one day...