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There are actually a lot of guys on here. There is a thread called Just for us guys...look for that...Deanna

I was not trying to insinuate that at the first sign of trouble leave your partner!!! I have been married 14 years and I think I know a little about ups and downs of marriage. Also about giving AND taking. What I was referring to was nume130 and she knows I was talking with her. I have pmed her and she knows what is behind my response to her. I am sorry if anyone else thought I was talking to them and telling them to leave their spouse. Nume has a very different situation than the rest of you have with your marriages. Marriage is a life long commitment UNLESS it happens that someone is cheating and no intentions of quitting or doing things that can not be tolerated for a life time and are unwilling to change. Life is too short to be without intimacy with the one person the God gave to you to be with in that way. Making love opens all sorts of other doors into your lives that to say that part can be left out and be ok is insane. That is the one way to share the very most being of ourselves with the one person that we love the most. I think that you are all strong ladies and I feel for your loss of intimacy. No hard feelings I hope what I have said. Deanna

This really has got to be the hardest of hardest. I mean going on vacation we all USED to dream of ALL the food we would eat and all the drinks we would drink.....now its like a squash on the dream. BUT..I like the post that said coming back from vacation and having LOST weight instead of GAINED....I mean THAT is what it is all about NOW!! I love all the people who chime in with their opinions about this. Everyone takes a little bit different angle on it and when you put it all together you get some AWESOME EXCELLENT advice!!!! Deanna

I also do not watch my carb intake AT ALL!! I eat healthy carbs(brown rice, whole wheat tortillas, cous cous) I limit very strictly my high sugar carbs just because I am doing so much for myself health wise I do not want to screw it up by adding unnutritional food to my eating. I eat a variety of things and my favorite things to eat are avocados and plain whole almonds. These fill me up fast and stick with me a long time. Good luck on deciding on what to do. Deanna

I want to run also, but am not able to do it now. I am gonna wait until I am 200 then start. I will already be "heart healthy" and ready to go, it will just be the new exercise method that I will have to endure. I am sure it will not take long to master it though. I always envy people when I see them running. They are always the ones I wish I could be like. Deanna

Yeah, I am really not sure how I have done it. I exercise a lot!! I started walking right out of surgery, like an hour later and slowly worked my way up to two miles about two weeks out. Then I got a bike and started doing that. I now ride 50-70 miles a week. I had a weight set, and started doing basic weight training and then bought a bowflex and started using that. I feel like a skinny person now. Its weird, when I look at pictures of myself I am like...is that all I have lost...I feel way skinnier than I am, LOL. I am at 49 pounds down as of last week so on Thursday I will see if I have hit the 50 pound mark. I only weigh once a week. Good job on your weight loss and keep up the good work. I also think that I have some restriction without a fill because I can be eating and then all of a sudden I have a really weird feeling..can't even explain it, like a tightening in my chest and then I burp. Thats when I stop eating. There have been a few times I have NOT stopped eating when I get that burp, and I am sorry. Not because I PB or slime, just feels miserable and STUFFED!!! Deanna

Weird that you say it does not hurt, I have heard some say that is DOES hurt. If it is like a shot then it will be no big deal, but I would rather know it is gonna hurt than think it is not going to hurt and then it does hurt. LOL...did anyone understand that? Deanna

My fill RN told me that there was no way she would unfill me if I just wanted to go on vacay to eat to my hearts content. I don't think I would WANT to gain 28 pounds back!!! That would suck, plus clothes would be tight again!!! I have not had a fill as of now though, and can eat anything I want, so ask me in a year or two and the answer might be different. Deanna

Trvlgrl, THAT is even funnier...maybe when you marry into a family the rest of the family get inherited diseases and such...LMAO!!! Marimaru, the thing of it is, she HAS NO DESIRE TO EXERCISE and she knows this and I know this. Many, many, many times I have tried this with her and she always ends up bugging out on me at the last minute. It gets tiring thinking that you are going to have someone to walk with and then at the last minute they call and say, "oh, I have to go here and here, so I can't make it today." It is SOOOOO much work trying to get her to go. I get in my car, drive over there, go in the house, she is sitting in her pjs, "oh I guess I will go get dressed now." WTF? Get dressed BEFORE I come over!!! God, it pisses me off. I have just started not answering him. OMG, when we first got our bikes we rode them to her house and took her with us. She couldnt even make it a mile before we had to stop. I told hubby, I know she is your mom, but honey, I can not exercise with someone who is going to slow down MY progress. He agrees!! If she gave it some effort and rode a bit every night to get into shape then it would be one thing, but she just wants to go once in awhile whenever FIL gets after her for not exercising and that is doing NO GOOD!!! Oh, if only we could change the in laws!!!! LOL...I am going to have a DIL pretty soon and she will probably think the same thing about me!!! LOL...I don't know...guess its just life...Deanna

LeeAnn, I whole heartedly agree with you!! I know if I was put in that same situation I would say the same thing. God, life is sooooo short. WHY live if miserable? If the person you are with is not making you complete then they are not doing their job. If they are unwilling to change, then time for a change of scenery!!! I always hate the excuse of "but the kids!!!" My parents divorced when I was 7 and I am GLAD they did!!! Seeing how my dad treated my "soon after the divorce with my mom" stepmom, I am GLAD that they were not together while I was growing up. I used to feel sorry for myself that my parents were divorced when I was growing up but now that I understand it all, I am glad they did not stay together for us kids. Take control of your life and find some true happiness in your life. Deanna

LOL...sorry, I had to laugh!!! Why can't people just keep their mouths SHUT?? Guess it is what they do best!! Deanna

Well, Edie, I am glad that I am not the only one who would love to shove a big sock in someone's mouth!!!

Well, I bought a bike tonight. It is a Raleigh. Yes, it is another hybrid but I just love my Schwinn, it just didn't have enough gears. So, I will quite moaning about a new bike now. Deanna

I weighed 305.5 when I went for my pre surgery consult with doc. I could not exercis because it HURT like hell. My knees hurt, my back hurt. Everything hurt. The only thing that did not hurt is sitting and eating!!!! I am almost down 50 pounds and feel great!!! I exercise ALL the time. I love it. At first I had to force myself. For like two weeks I did it because I knew I had to....my knee pain went away. Back pain went away. I now LOVE to exercise and when I am not doing it I am thinking about it. It is like my crack now. Food was my crack, now exercise is. I really think that is a good trade off. Deanna Good Luck! You can do it!

I am not a swallower so I am not sure about the pb of sperm. Well, now, that would be quite embarassing if you were pbing sperm with the in laws around. LOL...just kidding. I really don't know, but can't imagine it would be any different than having a sip of something kinda thick and mucuosy (sp?)...lol..now that sounds gross....I am gonna shut up now...LOL...Deanna

I think if men have time to watch t.v. or go out with their friends fishing or whatever then they HAVE TIME TO HOLD THEIR WIVES!!!! That is ridiculous the amount of people who have no one to hold them or be tender or affectionate to them. We as humans need to be touched. This is a serious issue that a person should NOT have to live with!! Why be miserable for YEARS!!! I feel so deeply sad for all of you without an affectionate person to hold you or touch you. I wish you all the best in figuring out what you are going to do in your situations. Deanna

From reading the original posters thread before this one, I think the OP is talking about swallowing sperm. The amount of sperm that is released in an ejaculation is not going to affect the stomach pouch.

I have, I have gone to the three in town that I live in. I just don't want to get a bike that I am not going to be happy with. Just like my Searcher, I just bought it but already need to upgrade because of the amount of miles I am putting on it and the 7 gear problem. God I wish someone would bring a bike to my front door and say "here, I know you need one of these and this is exactyl what you are looking for!!" LOL...I wish..Deanna

This is the problem Juli, I want to do both on road and off road riding. So, now I just don't know what to do. SHIT!! I want a comfortable ride but something that will do lots of miles and off road. Got any suggestions?

Juli, So it has 8 gears? I am really looking into getting another bike and just don't know what to get. I live in a mountainous area and plan to bike the mountain roads next summer. I want comfort, but yet enough gears to get me up hills. With the bike I have now, it is comfortable to ride, but I want something with more gears, maybe more sleak design, but don't know if my stomach will get in the way or my back will start hurting if I get a mountain bike style. Just wondering why you went with this bike. I don't think a recumbent bike is for me. I ride my Schwinn Searcher 50 plus miles a week now, but it only has 7 gears and some of the hills are a bitch to get up. Deanna

You know what...I have not tried it, I will though and post about it. I just thought someone might like the recipe if they couldn't eat hamburger. Deanna

nume, GOOD FOR YOU!! You ARE worth it!!!!!! You are a special person and I hope you find happiness in this lifetime. You know, a person is only here once, this is no dress rehearsal, so enjoy your life NOW...Deanna

OH Juli, What did you end up getting? I hope you have a great time on it. I love my bike!! Deanna

According to my exercise physiologist, muscle does NOT weigh more than fat! For example, one pound of fat and one pound of muscle weigh??????? THE EXACT SAME...one pound. Muscle makes you smaller because as some on the boards say, fat is fluffy. Fat puffs you out, muscle makes you lean. Deanna

I am finding this thread more and more sad as the days go on. My husband worships the ground I walk on in EVERY way. Sure, we have had our ups and downs, all relationships do. There have been times of non intimacy in our marriage, but eventually, these work themselves out and we are back to being one again. I think that I would really feel so very badly if my husband did not touch me. He is VERY touchy feely guy. ALL THE TIME!! There have been times that it is stimulation overload!!!!! But now I am wondering if I should be so ever thankful for this because I would not know how to live without the touching and kissing that he gives freely. I was about 170 when we married and on April 5th of the is year was 305.5. He has NEVER changed not one bit about the way he touches me or kissed me all the time from my small weight to the highest. He tells me daily, probably more like twice daily, how beautiful I am...and you know what...after ALL these years...I am FINALLY starting to believe it. You ladies are such wonderful, beautiful people. You must have so much love in your hearts for your men that you are willing to sacrifice the very thing that most people can never get enough of when first being with partner. Sex is so very important in a relationship. If you had really good sex all the time, but hubby NEVER talked to you other than when having sex, you would not think that was healthy. I know this is a thread to let our your frustrations and feelings and I am so glad that you all have a place to do that. It must be so very hard for you each and every day. I am thinking about you ladies daily and I hope that your relationship will change so you will have some happiness in this area of your life. Deanna