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love the list, @@chellede! my update is that i have been submitted for insurance approval, and my surgeon's office confirmed that i will be sleeved in october. this is my birthday present to myself as well, my bday is 10/10. my surgeon only does surgery on tuesday, so it will be either 10/21 or 10/28, because i am unavailable before then with family stuff. i may be one of the last of us to get sleeved this month, so i'm grateful for all the sharing you do after you get sleeved. my surgeon only requires 4 days of liquid only pre-op, so i'll start it on a friday (i'm off), deal with it thru the weekend at home, and probably work at home or take off that monday before surgery. i'm afraid of doing weird diet things and going out of the house, as i'm a type 1 diabetic. i'm going to take the first week off, and work at home for 3 weeks after surgery, so i'll get used to my food and insulin changes before returning to the office. it's getting REALLLLLLLLLLLLLL!

if he posted it on facebook, there's no reason you can't talk to him about it. just make it sound like sharing information, and not offering advice, which makes some people get a bit testy.

that's awesome that it was so quick, @@brown eyed gal! i was just submitted this week and am waiting to hear. getting really REAL!

I have been doing ok on my 3 month supervised diet... not great, not too sucky. The first month I lost 5.6 lbs, everyone was happy happy joy joy. The second month I stayed exactly the same, and the surgeon's team gave me really bad guilt and made me feel like I was not doing a great job and was in danger of not being approved. I'm an emotional eater, and I haven't quite broken that habit yet, although I've been working on it very hard. My boyfriend is very helpful, and listens while I fight myself almost daily not to eat crap. I win a huge majority of the time. However, the guilt they laid on me (and I accepted, I admit) really caused my eating to get out of control again. I wrote about that and got the great reply to call my insurance company to find out my actual requirements. So, I called my insurance company and found out that as far as they're concerned, I only need to show no gain in three months. That made me feel much much better, and I got back on track, and in the last month I lost another 5 lbs. Tomorrow is my last weigh in. But. My boyfriend went away for the weekend, and I binged. I actually put back on the 5 lbs I lost. I'm so ANGRY at myself. I'm projecting the reaction from the team when I go to the office tomorrow to weigh in. And now I'm playing all kind of games, the kind that I hate, to try to lose the weight again by tomorrow. I'm drinking coffee, which I usually don't, cause it makes me poop. I brought two apples with me to the office and am planning on eating nothing else during the day. I've got my Water pitcher filled up on my desk, and will flush myself out as best as I can. I was in such a good place on Friday, and now I'm a friggin mess. I don't want to hear anybody tell me that I may have trouble after the surgery since I can't stop self-sabotaging now, please. It was very hard for me to lay this out there in public, so please think twice before you reply with any negative thoughts. I just want to be as honest as possible here on the boards because I believe that every post has the potential to help someone. God, I can't wait for this fakokte journey to be over.

what a jerk he sounds like now! it is so friggin hard to find a suitably aged man (i'm 56) who is emotionally available and physically attractive and financially secure and not an axe murderer. i've been divorced for 10 yrs now, and dating has been like a second job since then, seriously. i found that the more i did it, the better i became at weeding out the ones that didn't work for me... i used to tease first dates about my "patented process". i've had several relationships since my divorce, all of them good but none of them great. eventually there would come a time when i realized that and i had to move on. i mean, even my ex-husband was "right" for me at one time... i've changed since i first got married, and i continue to do so, and therefore so do the qualifications for the right partner. luckily for me, i found him. he's adorable, intelligent, sexy and treats me like a goddess, but hasn't got a penny. i got over that and we have been living together happily ever after for the last year and a half. i feel incredibly lucky! i'm glad i didn't give up dating because i never would have found him. i tell myself that all the others between him and my ex husband were who i needed at the time, and that i wouldn't have been ready for him before i found him. what i mean is, the most important thing to look for in a relationship is that it satisfies you, whatever it is that you want, be it sex, affection, a travel companion, someone to hike with... and doesn't DISsatisfy you in a way that you choose not to accept. you did good. on to the next fool! they're all fools until you find the right one.

wow, 10% is harsh! my surgeon just says 5%. i mean, i understand them wanting to see us really try, but i can't understand withholding surgery from someone because they can't do what they've been trying to do their whole life! i actually ambushed the surgeon's practice manager after she did one of the monthly support group meetings and told her how discouraged i was after my second weigh in, and she comforted me and told me not to worry, that as long as it is obvious that i've made an attempt (like losing half), they'll accept it. maybe your surgeon does the same thing? i'm glad you emailed them, it's good to know the "real" rules. let us know what they say!

oh boy, do i. according to my scale, i was down 10 lbs at my second weigh in, but according to theirs i hadn't lost an ounce since my first weigh in (when i lost 5.6). they were not very supportive and i felt kind of almost threatened that i wouldn't have the surgery. my final weigh in is TODAY and i'm so unsure about what they will find. i'm wearing my lightest outfit, and i've hardly eaten in two days lol. however. i called my insurance carrier and asked them for their requirements, and it turns out that as far as they're concerned, i only have to show no gain during my three month period. so i'm kind of not so worried as i was. i would suggest you do the same, and make sure you understand what are the requirements for your insurer, and what are your surgeon's personal requirements. it may make a difference to the way you feel too.

Thanks for sharing. You both must be very disappointed. Your turn will come... it was so considerate of you to give your guy your appointment! Soon enough, you'll both be here telling us how your surgery went and how you're healing.

ok, i'm glad you feel it's just a pulled muscle. your yr old will just have to deal with being inside, because taking care of you is the best way to make sure you can take care of her AND that 3 month old! feel better soon.

woohoo!!! safe surgery and speedy recovery, and don't forget to let us know when you're on the other side.

where in nj are you? isn't there anyone who can help you get to the surgeon's office? you should not be driving in that much pain. i'm almost tempted to come and drive you to the doctor (lol -- i'm in MD now but i'm an ex-jersey girl).

oh honey that sucks! i think you have been around the forums enough to be able to judge what is a normal amount of pain post op and what is not... of course everyone's different, but have you had anyone tell you that they've been doubled over in pain also at this point post-op? please use your best judgement and if you need help being tough, remember we're here for you. maybe you can go to a walk in clinic locally?

@@HalloweenBaby24, i don't think i'd let anyone tell me to suck it up if the pain is as bad as you say. if you called your pcp, call your surgeon now. they may have a different reaction. or just tell that nurse practitioner that you want an appointment to come in. don't let them stress you out, ok?

@@Ken S. on the android app i now can't see that menu line that used to appear on the bottom of the screen that allowed me to see all the items that appear on the web version, ie, notifications, messages, etc. is this the intention? all i can see now is the actual forums.

woohoo!!! good luck, let us know how it goes. wishing you a speedy recovery!

best of luck to you! isn't it awesome that with technology today we can keep in touch with our support groups even while we're in a hospital bed??? speedy recovery!

what's your height? any comorbidities? what does your doctor say? how long have you been trying to lose weight in more "conventional" methods? only you can know if the decision is right for you... and your doctor has a lot of say in it too.

hey, @@nervous46! there are at least two threads i've been posting on that are filled with people who are having surgery in October: http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/317812-october-2014/page-10#entry3609591 http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/315503-any-october-dates/page-7?hl=%2Boctober#entry3609556 join in those and you'll find a lot of people who are in the same place as you are! i'm hoping to be October also, and i'm happy to be a buddy, feel free to message me if you want. try to keep positive!!! think about changing your screen name, it may be a self-fulfilling prophecy xoxoxo, jess

best wishes for a safe and speedy recovery!

well la-di-da! i did it, i lost 4.5 of the lbs by quasi-fasting yesterday. going to keep my appointment today (3pm EST), and keep the intake low, and with the additional strength of all your words behind me, going to keep my chin up and give them hell if they give me any grief. i love these forums, and i love every one of you that replied to my post! thank you from the bottom of my heart for the nurturing, supporting, education, and tough love. i'll let you know how i did tomorrow. xoxoxo, jess

@VSGAnn2014... so... i continue the therapy i started just before i started this journey. i continue to practice the better behaviors as often as possible. i look forward to the time when i lose just enough weight to allow me to get back to being the gym rat i used to be before my body became too painful to move. what can i say? i believe i will be successful, because i don't know how to believe anything different. i have to believe that the honeymoon period i've been reading here about will give me the time to cement the successful behaviors. i refuse to believe that i don't stand a chance because i am still struggling pre-op to overcome my addiction. i can't give up, and this is my last resort. if i fail, i will not live as long as i want to. i don't expect the head hunger or cravings to go away, i really don't. i expect to experience anguish at facing the things that make me eat now, as i do most days when i am successful in my eating. i expect to mourn the almost immediate anaesthetic effect eating gives. and i expect i will survive and get through it... maybe with a little more trouble than most, maybe a little slower or less successful than others. but i'll get through it.

Think about pre-cooking some of the side dishes prior to surgery and freezing them? I feel your frustration. I've been counting on surgery in October also, and I won't get my date for another couple of weeks. I am planning a trip to Arizona for Thanksgiving, and would like to be able to be a willing participant at the gathering. Good luck!

i totally understand the way you feel... i believe that my mom doesn't always come clean on dishes she cooked when we used to both count WW points... and i believe that my boyfriend truly thinks he knows better than i what to eat because he lost over 100lbs without surgery... that being said, i also believe that trust in such an important relationship is vital. a relationship without that level of trust is not as healthy as it could be. therefore, i look at my lack of trust as a fault of mine and write it off as paranoia. because they LOVE me, so why would they do anything to sabotage me? do you think you could get to that point of view? because she LOVES you and wouldn't do anything to sabotage you.

I agree, @gowalking. i'd be lost without the people on the forums. you all rock!