jessiquoi

guys, i woke up today so anxious and scared, i was crying. i can't wait for this wait to be over, and i don't even know if i'm going to be 10/21 or 10/28 yet. i called the insurance company yesterday to see if i've been approved yet and it's still pending. my mom just gave me grief on the phone that i "stressed her out" yesterday and i can't/don't want to deal with that. my birthday is friday and i want to spend it with her, my daughter, my boyfriend and as many of my cousins that can make it (at her house, cause everyone lives near her in brooklyn ny except me and my boyfriend in maryland). she's upset that i don't know exactly who is coming yet. geez, we're just ordering in pizza!!! now i feel lousy about her being upset, and i feel even worse that i don't want to have to care about her feelings right now. i want this to be all about me! i'm babbling. i'm just having a bad day, and i want to go home and go back to bed until it's time for my surgery. good luck to all who are getting sleeved today!

i am feeling very fortunate right now, because my primary care doc wrote in his letter that i have had over a 5 year history of obesity. he hasn't even been my doctor for 2 yrs! good luck in this crazy balancing game!

@@VSGAnn2014, you are a riot! i love your 7 lbs of 1/2 pound weights!

Well. There is no law saying you can't call his office and tell them you have some questions you forgot to ask the doctor. Make sure you write them down first, so you won't blank out again, and then just read them off. The surgeon is getting compensated, and works for you! Also, there may be someone else in the office (a nurse practitioner, etc) who can answer the questions you have. Call.

Welcome, Mark.

I hear your frustration. I'm currently waiting to hear if I got my insurance approval too, and I can only imagine how I would feel if I got denied. And to get denied by mistake, as it sounds like you were, would make me pull out my hair! Hang in there, I've seen many cases of appeals being successful.

@@natalie_christin, i am so sorry you are in pain. That makes everything you try to do harder, doesn't it? I don't have any magic bullets for you, but here is my suggestion: pick ONE BEHAVIOR that you can change now that will put you back on your path. Maybe it will be tracking your food intake on something like My Fitness Pal, or maybe drinking more Water, or maybe getting a pedometer and counting the steps you take around the house and gradually adding like 10 or 50 more each day. Any of these things will make a difference. Maybe there's something else you can think of. And, congratulations on coming back to the forums and looking for help. Keep on reading and interacting, and you will get back on the ball as you realize we're all going through things... maybe not exactly the same combination of stressors that you have, but we all have things. It helps to know you're not alone, and it helps to hear other people's thoughts.

@@Peekboo, go get 'em! good luck and speedy recovery to all who are getting sleeved today.

@@Dana825, good luck! hope to hear from you later with good news.

@@BeagleLover, that's the first I've heard about asking the doctor to remove the gas! I'm so going to ask my surgeon to do that! Thanks for sharing. If they can do that, why in the world don't they automatically do that as part of the procedure, knowing how awful the gas pain is for most people afterwards? sheesh!

I'm wondering if these people know that you had surgery? If they don't, then they may be holding back because of past experiences... I know in my family, we rarely talk about weight loss because we've always put it back on and THAT'S depressing! Try not to let other people's opinions and feelings influence your own on this. You're doing FANTASTIC!!! And, just think about how shocked they will be when you continue to lose... sooner or later they will HAVE to notice and comment!

I suggest you connect with others who are also having surgery in October (like me!) on this forum posting: http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/317411-newbie-looking-for-oct-sleevers/page-45#entry3622248 you'll feel better sharing your experiences with people who are going through the same thing.

I understand that stress can definitely affect our eating, whether we eat more or, in your case, less. It doesn't make any sense to suggest you try to eat more; I'm sure you're doing the best you physically can. My suggestion is to try to practice some stress reduction techniques, such as meditation, walking or other exercise, or writing about it. I've found that writing about a problem reduces the stress it causes, for some reason... I guess it's because you're getting it out of your head and onto paper, so you don't have to think about it as much.

@@spelmanite10, feel better soon! keep us posted on your progress.

http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/317411-newbie-looking-for-oct-sleevers/ there are a lot of us getting sleeved this month. you will find people there with the same concerns, all in the same time frame. i've had anaesthesia several times, and it's really nothing. you will be asleep practically before you are aware of them administering anaesthesia (the anaesthesiologist will shoot it into the IV s/he will put in during pre-op). you may feel it burn a little bit, i usually do, and that burning tells you that you will be asleep in less than 15 seconds. it's normal to be nervous about surgery. remember why you're doing it, and do your best to stay positive. it helps!

http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/317411-newbie-looking-for-oct-sleevers/ there's a whole bunch of us in october! join us at the url above.

i hear you. there is a pleasure some of us (most of us?) get when eating a lot of food. i know i do, for sure. i am hoping to replace my eating with exercise... my guy is always up for a walk... and picking up my crafts again... going back to singing in a chorus once i can stand for 3 hrs on the risers... and anything else i can think of. but i know i'll be mourning, as well as facing anxiety and depression that i'm medicating with food. ah well. such is the price for gaining health. good luck in your journey!

i was at my mom's this weekend and a lot of my cousins were there. i shared the fact that i was having the surgery with them, and they were all very supportive. i love my family!!! and i figured, anyone who wasn't supportive, i could ignore because i don't really get to see them that often. luckily, i told them that i wasn't telling anyone else, because my mom didn't realize that. she thinks i put everything on facebook (she hates facebook, doesn't get the privacy things at all, and is always saying "don't put me on the facebook!" lol). although i am generally an in-your-face kind of sharing everything kinda girl, i think anything about my weight loss efforts or weight in general may be hurtful to me, so i'm being very selective about who i tell, at least until i start to show the results. after the fact, i may be more open and who-cares-what-you-think. i just don't want anyone to make me second guess or feel bad right now, i need all my positivity kept up!

sending you strength vibes ~~~~~~~~~ if the cake is chocolate, think of it as made of poop. can't think of anything equivalent for vanilla... i'm a chocolate girl. re: the in laws... maybe tell them you're going for blood work on monday and the doc told you to do the special diet for it? or tell them you ate before everyone came because you knew how busy you would be at the party?

congrats, @@BeagleLover, on your surgery! you sound like everything's going well.

i vote for halloween cause i LOVE halloween and i love the idea that you're doing a costume.

you are definitely not alone. i'm 57 (as of next week lol) and just finished my 3 month presurgery supervised weight loss, for a grand total of 10.5. i'm not sleeved yet, but i don't expect to have the same problem after surgery. that's why we're having it, right? good luck! and don't worry, keep reading the posts on the forum, they're very comforting when you think you're alone in an issue.

I've been offline for a week, and a lot happened. I had my final weighin with the nutritionist, and i lost another 5 lbs, bringing me to a total of 10.5 since my first visit. she praised me, and i asked if i would be submitted to insurance now. she started to blather on about maybes and perhapses (the team wanted me to lose 14 total). i was more prepared mentally than i was on my last visit, when she made me feel very bad and kind of like i was in danger of not being approved. (i called my insurance company and found out that they only require NO NET GAIN, so i wasn't taking that from her this time.) i firmly but calmly stated that I knew the insurance company did not require me to lose any more, and told her I expected to be submitted since I had met all the requirements. She said that was up to the nurse. I spoke to the nurse, and she told me (AAAGGGGHHHH!!!!!) that they did not receive four of my clearances. wtf? so i went right to my PCP's office and waited until they had the time to pull my file and refax everything to the surgeon. (they didn't need to send everything again, but the office manager was cranky about them saying they didn't receive something and wanted to make a statement... i didn't interfere lol.) and i called the psychiatrist and asked them to resend their letter. they don't fax, so it had to be mailed. sigh. i waited until the beginning of this week to follow up and make sure they received everything, and was told that they were missing one item (an item which was NOT on the list of four from last week -- seriously starting to doubt these women's filing capabilities). BUT BUT BUT they submitted me anyway. WOOOOOOHOOOOOO!!!! it's getting reallllllllllly REAL. i was having a lot of anxiety, and now that the paperwork has been submitted, i feel much lighter of spirit. i'm definitely on track for the third or fourth week of October. my journey's "take-off time" is getting closer!

@@happymama2014, in the long run a month is nothing. keep your chin up... that's really great news that it's not cancerous!

thanks, @@JamieLogical! i am feeling VERY positive today.