Steph is right, photo help, I read a great book by Ann Lamott, she reminds us that we have two type of voices in our head, one that tell us how successful, wonderful , beautiful, and committed we are.. The other voice, well it is the voice that put us down, reminds us of our failures and want to shame us... Well Lamott just has a trick, identify the particular thought , says, remember last time, u were at this weight, u fail... Pretend it is a little mouse that say it, pick it up by the tail in your mind and put it in a Manson jar, and you keep doing that till those negative voices are. All put away in a sealed Manson jar... It works, i did it , I keep doing it, and soon u start to recognize that negative voice or thought and u can laugh it away....