I actually posted this on another forum but this is something seem to be experiencing.
After receiving a lap-band a little more than 2 years ago, I have lost about 120 lbs. but, unfortunately, the weight loss is starting to put a strain on my relationship. Specifically, my husband of more almost 11 years thinks I am too skinny (going from 357 - 240 lbs. at 6’ 2”). When we met, I was 300 lbs. I ballooned up to 357, of course had health issues due to weight, got the lap-band, and successfully lost weight and am now down to a healthy weight.
However, my husband no longer finds me physically attractive though he still loves me. I certainly still love him and we continue to enjoy each other’s company but we rarely have sex (maybe once a quarter if I'm lucky). He wants me to gain back up to 300 lbs.
I try to put myself in his shoes and think would I act the same way if he gained 120 lbs. (going tom 170 - 290 lbs.). I think I would still find him hot but it’s a hypothetical situation.
Has anyone else been in this situation before and, if so, what did you do? How did you work out your problems and come to a solution that worked for both of you.