JerseyCityGal

I also go out to eat a lot. I love good food. I have no problem ordering something I can eat anywhere I go. I take the rest home and I get a few meals out of it AND my pets have a field day. I'm also 8 months post-op so I have post-surgery self-control. I did start eating out fairly soon after surgery though. I love going out to eat. If you can't handle it now, then offer a compromise to them. Like a place with grilled salmon and fresh veggies. Lean Protein and fresh fruits and veggies are your friends. You don't have to have things you can't eat on your plate. Ask the waiter NOT to bring the bread basket, no rice, no sauces, just lemon, etc. Order only side dishes if you have to (a couple of veggies). No one ever got fat from eating too much spinach. That's what I do.

What you will have on your hands is a relationship that is constantly being adjusted ... by how much depends on exactly how insecure he is and your own personal reaction to how you are changing. You can't always predict this dynamic in advance, but you can commit to working on it together. Some relationships do just fine, others don't. If he isn't obese, you could talk about how the two of you can begin to share a healthy lifestyle together now and put it into practice. If he is obese, he could get on board and make changes of his own so he won't feel left behind.

You will be so much happier after the surgery. It's short-term pain for long-term gain. It's like anything else that is worth it; not all kittens and rainbows 24/7, but for every little minus there are 1,000 plusses.

Since the scale is in the middle of my surgeon's office, no, I kept my clothes on, lol.

I'm so happy for you.

@@tpierce Amazon carries it: http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Gastric-Sleeve-Success-Practical-ebook/dp/B00DJ8GGYY/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1423405659&sr=8-2&keywords=duc+vuong

I had a 3 day stay (complications) and was begging to go home. I was in a private room but I literally could not get any sleep. The medical care at the hospital was exceptional, but it certainly wasn't a place where I was going to get any rest.

Are you talking about chinese food per se or americanized chinese style fried fast food? I've has seitan (japanese "wheat" meat for vegetarians) in various asian dishes - with loads of fresh veggies, hold the oil, no rice since I've been on solids without a problem.

I cannot recommend that book enough. They should hand a copy out to every single person who is sleeved. Dr. Vuong's nutritional and eating advice will take where you need to go and the ride will be a lot smoother than the majority of the crowd.

I felt very weak for about 10 days after surgery and then I felt pretty good. I was so excited and grateful about having had the surgery that everything else was inconsequential once the room stopped spinning, lol. I have been so damn happy since I was sleeved it isn't funny.

Are you doomed? Hardly. Try this list: http://www.dsfacts.com/qualifying-for-weight-loss-surgery.php

I hit my surgeon's goal for me at 6 months out and I plan on hitting my personal goal at 1 year out. I know me, and that means logging and measuring are things I will need to do every day for the rest of my life. I function better that way. Freestyle just does not work for me.

Unless you are eating super dry food all the time, it shouldn't be a problem. What are you eating that won't go down unless it's on a waterslide? There are mouthwashes and sprays for dry mouths. Have you spoken with your dentist? Dry mouth can be a serious dental problem.

You are doing the right thing. The first couple of months are the best. You melt like a snowman in July.

With any surgery comes risks. As far as your father's comments about you two having the same genes and having the same complications .... well, he is way off base. Your DNA can make you more predisposed to certain risks. For instance, if both you and your mother shared the version A or G of gene ANKK1 marker rs1800497 on chromosome 11, you would both be 1.67 times more likely to experience post-operative nausea and vomiting within 6 hours after surgery if it appears at both copies, i.e. AA or GG. While you would have inherited half your DNA from your mother, but the mix is random. Your siblings do not get the exact same 50% you did (except an identical twin). You also get half from your father. You would need to inherit both copies, one from each of your parents to get the small elevated risk of post-operative risk of vomiting I described above. And just because you vomited doesn't mean you have this. You could have just vomited. And you can have both copies and never, ever vomit after anesthesia. If genetics were the way your father described, we would all be exactly alike, inside and out. It's nothing like that. While it is true that certain conditions are inherited (as are traits such as eye color), and genetic disorders are a very real thing, there is simply no such thing as having complications because you are someone's daughter. He's not giving you misinformation because he doesn't love you. He's doing it because he is afraid and doesn't know any better. You live in your body; not your mother and not your father. Only you can know in your heart if you can pull off the lifestyle changes that are necessary. If you can, go for it.

For someone who thinks it is "creepy" and "shallow" and claims to "have no connection to people commenting about a persons physical self", you sure went out of your way to find a whole lot of photos of peoples bodies with labels on them.

Bring the instructions that detail exactly what points need to be made to his office. I think there were 5 points that my nutritionists letter had to cover, so I bulleted them to make sure they were made. Same thing with my psychiatric letter.

Hi, Maybe you don't realize this, but you posted the exact same thing 6 times. You can delete the others. Start by reading all posts in all the forums. People discuss what their challenges are on a daily basis. If you are determined and follow the plan you will succeed.

I keep my carbs at 50 or less on most days. You can eat a lot of fruit and veggies and still be low carb. You just have to make good choices. An entire eggplant (about 1 lb) has about 10 carbs and 110 calories.

I had horrible reflux also. I was on Omeprazole for the first two months and it gradually got better.

You know what - they are happy and excited for you. This leads to them sometimes being a little bit inappropriate. A couple of weeks ago I walked into a restaurant I hadn't been in since before being sleeved this summer. The owner greeted me with a really loud "OH MY GOD! WHERE'S THE REST OF YOU???" I swear half the place turned around. I started laughing and told him "She's in the car." "HOW MUCH WEIGHT HAVE YOU LOST????" "Close to 100 lbs." (ok, so it's 91 lbs but everyone was looking, lol) Then he did the whole "You look fantastic" etc thing. You would have thought he won something. A couple of people stopped by my table on their way out and did the who congrats thing and asked me how I did it. I was honest. I was very private about my surgery in general, but the way I look at it - I'm now an Ambassador for the Gastric Sleeve when it comes up. I gave them a quick synopsis of what the sleeve does and does not do for you, and how it has allowed me to get my eating under control. Maybe those people are going to tell a friend who needs the surgery how she met this lady who had the surgery or be supportive instead of negative when someone they know is considering the surgery. I didn't give a flying fig about anyone's approval or opinion before I got the surgery so I only told people on a need to know basis (closest relative, closest friend, next door neighbor in case of emergency, single most trusted co-worker in case something happened to me at work), but I'm not ashamed to let people know what it did for me in the hopes that it will allow them to be open to supporting someone in their life or to not be afraid to make this choice for their own life.

Not getting Protein in for two weeks won't kill you. I lived on strained Amy's no-chicken noodle soup, vegetarian vegetable broth with a dash of A-1 sauce for flavor and Water with cranberry juice added for the first week. The second week I added Amy's Tomato Bisque, hummus and guacamole - just a teaspoon here and there. By the third week I was eating really soft foods and even though it wasn't in my surgeon's official plan, he was ok with it. I got to skip pureed with his blessing. He made it really clear what I could and could not do, what was myth and what was fact as far as stretching and staples went, and I was fine.

8 months out. I like to order a drink when I go out, but I can only handle several sips. I wasn't a big drinker pre-surgery, but my alcohol tolerance has lessened post-surgery.

If you haven't tried every vegetable in the world you can't really say you don't like vegetables. I'm not overly fond of plain water either so I squeeze a meyer lemon in it or a bit of lime. There is a book you can buy on Amazon by Duc Vuong. He's one of the surgeons who tried to help the 900 lb man on the TLC channel. If you don't have a Kindle, you can download the kindle reading app for free on your pc, tablet or phone and read the book that way. It's $9.99 USD http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Gastric-Sleeve-Success-Practical-ebook/dp/B00DJ8GGYY/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1423405659&sr=8-2&keywords=duc+vuong He really teaches you how to eat post-surgery, even the supposed vegetable haters. I can't even begin to tell you how much that book got me on the right track and helps keep me on the right track every single day when it comes to what I put in my mouth. He's one of those people who is a gifted teacher and can get his point across and really make you understand. As far as eating goes, he is totally the man to listen to. If you read it and put his eating advice into practice, you will lose your weight. Don't short yourself after having the surgery. You can do it. You just need to make some changes.

Seriously, if you are that sensitive, you need to see a therapist asap. How do you handle leaving the house?