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gowalking

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    Airport Security Curiosity

    I have metal hips and of course, I can't go through the regular scanner as I set it off every time. So I go through the body scanner and there are always areas that light up other than my hips so pat down, here we go again. I must say that as I know this will happen, I don't make it a big deal...and never have had an issue with a TSA agent. They pat me down...yes, some more thoroughly than others. They always ask if I want to do this in a private room...which I say no to...they run that paper up and down my hands...they're looking for residue related to bomb making. Who knew? I asked a TSA agent about it and she told me. Then I'm on my way. At this point having had the hips replaced three years ago, it is what it is. Too bad no one thought guns going through checked luggage might be a bad idea. Yup...I'm at the Hollywood/Fort Lauderdale airport several times a year and it was nothing more than timing that I wasn't there when he decided it was target practice time on innocent people.
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    My work here is done

    I miss her too Julie.
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    How do you view overweight people now that your thin?

    Over the years, I vacillated back and forth between sympathy and outright hatred. I know the hatred was as another poster noted, really self hatred for what I used to be. Now that I am four years post WLS, when I see a morbidly obese person, all I think is 'there but for the grace of God go I'
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    Bachelorhood

    East Stroudsburg. They had a summer place up there and liked it so much that they decided to make it their home full time. I hope they make it through the winter though...I don't know how much they realize they are in the Pocono Mountains...and how much that will impact the amount of snow they will be dealing with. Are you near them...or far far away? I recall so well how big the state of Pennsylvania is when we drove through it a few years ago and wound up at the end of it in Ohio. For a NY'er like me, Ohio might as well be a million miles away. LOL.
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    Bachelorhood

    Soo....the first serious discussion with the MOMD (man of my dreams) was that he had to stop sitting on my couch in the altogether. As I am a Brooklyn girl, I pulled no punches. I leaned in close and whispered in his ear...'I can't have my couch smelling like ass'. I'm still working on him using plates, eating with a little less 'gusto', and general neatness where none existed before. I love him to pieces so these things are not deal breakers...only little flys that I have to swat away from time to time. More important...is that he's all in with this relationship. Got a call this morning from my son who is moving the family from Jersey to PA this weekend. As I suspected, his friends are bailing right and left and he now needs mom to drive one of the cars to the new house. Probably. I won't know till 8:30 tomorrow morning when the friend who offered to drive either shows up or does not. Means that MOMD and I have to take the train from NYC to Jersey, head up to PA with the car, help move stuff when we get up there...or for me, help to watch my grandson, and then....take the bus back to NYC that evening because there is no furniture available for us to use to sleep over. What was MOMD's reaction to all this? Two words...'road trip!'. I think that trumps a little ass on my couch and crumbs on my floor now and then.
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    Looking for buddy?

    We're a tri-state support group...NY/NJ/CT but the most active group is the one from NYC and LI. It's currently where we meet most times though we do meet in the city sometimes as well. Here's the link to the thread so you can see posts and know when/where we are meeting. Liz http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/304888-ny-nyclong-island/?view=getnewpost
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    Looking for buddy?

    My office is right near MetroPark. I know Edison fairly well as my son and DIL lived there for many years before heading to PA.
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    NY - NYC/Long Island

    Hi all. Will try to make it. I'm on babysitting duty one of those weekends so I'm not sure yet of my availability. Will do my best to attend though as I'm looking forward to meeting you good folks....and seeing my pal Lisa if she indeed coming as well.
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    My horrible experience at a restaurant.

    Having had my own business for 20 years, I can tell you that the restaurant manager handled this incorrectly. A good owner/manager diffuses a situation. They do not ramp it up. Yes...I had customers who were looking for a fight and I couldn't do a thing about it. But my late husband was a pro at handling unhappy customers and 90% of the time, the end result was a resolution that satisfied both parties...and often led to a return customer...which obviously this restaurant is not so interested in. Your satisfaction might be when you pass by one day and they are out of business...
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    Eating healthy but worried about others

    LOL! I must admit, you said it better and offered more suggestions than I did but we both basically said the same thing...you cannot control what someone else eats...and how much of it.
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    Eating healthy but worried about others

    Interesting question @MindyMe. I must tell you that I had a boyfriend...not a fiance, but nevertheless, we were a couple and he gained weight because he was eating his portion, and what I left over. I know he felt like he was out of control and it was a facet of our eventual breakup. My current boyfriend also eats some of what I don't, but he's learning to let me bring home leftovers and not always eat them. I know he's gained some weight and I've also told him I want him healthy...which is true. I don't care that he's chubby...it's not what he looks like, but who he is that makes me love to be with him. Other than that, I leave him alone and say nothing. Now having said the above, the takeaway is that you are not the food police....and you cannot make him eat less, and stay away from your leftovers. You can try to do more sharing if that works because we know how much excess food there is when eating out, but otherwise, leave him be because you can't do anything about it anyway and all that would happen is he'd start to resent you being on his case.
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    I may have found the lid to my pot

    I've been doing the online dating thing since early 2014. I met a man last year and that relationship lasted nearly a year and while the breakup was so NOT fun, I enjoyed the time we spent together. So, I picked myself up and reluctantly went back online to see if lightening would strike a second time. I think it just might have. Corey and I started talking last month, have had a few dates, and last night, decided to become exclusive and see where this goes. Amazingly, his business is food based tours of NYC and the outer boroughs so he is a huge foodie as I am and has already introduced me to some of the most delicious food I've ever eaten. Now I've lived in NYC my whole life and I thought I knew the best food out there. He makes me look like an amateur. Thank goodness for my band..I am not worried that I'll lose control, I'm just enjoying the little bits of yummy goodness that I choose to eat and leave it at that. When I have leftovers...especially sweets related, I bring that stuff into the office and of course, my co-workers love me more than ever. He's also a season ticket holder at CitiField and a huge baseball fan. So am I. He is understanding that I not just love the Mets, but I love the game of baseball itself and when I told him I'd love to see some of the old ballparks like Wrigley and Fenway, he laughed and said he was falling in love with me with every word I said. This is the first time I've cuddled on the couch with a man and watched the ballgame. It was lovely. I'm so looking forward to spending time with this guy and seeing if we can make a go of it. Oh..and he's also widowed as I am so we have that in common as well. Not that I'm glad he lost his wife of course, but we have a commonality that someone who is divorced just doesn't have with me. I can talk about Alan, and he is comfortable talking about Barbara and we both know it's fine to talk about our spouses. The men who are divorced think they shouldn't discuss my first husband for a number of reasons and he and I both know that it's good to talk about them as we loved our spouses and they helped to make us who we are. Wish me luck, my BP friends. This man could truly be the one.
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    I may have found the lid to my pot

    Just sending an update. A picture is worth a thousand words...
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    Interesting NYT article on WLS

    As comprehensive as it was, it still only scratched the surface. Not that I'd expect anything more...it was just an article and not a book. But to give it it's due, the reporter actually touched on so many experiences we've faced such as not reaching goal, and interestingly, not seeing the changes we're going through to the point of not recognizing that we are not fat anymore. What differs for me is that these folks in the article said they didn't crave certain foods anymore. Well I can tell you, I know I have them...and have always had them. I had them within a few months of being banded and nearly four years later, I have them as much as I did before the band. The only difference now is that the band helps me to make better choices and eat less, but I've never stopped wanting the cake and carbs. I just know that they're not going to do anything but make me put weight back on.
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    Banders #7

    ...and this is what success looks like. Kudos to you Julie. You are my hero... Liz
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    It CAN be done.

    Firstly...I'm nearly four years post banded. Just a couple of weeks till my anniversary. I've been at goal for around three years give or take so I absolutely consider myself a vet though not necessarily one of long term duration. So...this week has been both a bit of a challenge and also a great joy. The joy part is that I'm with my friends, family, and loved ones and I'm doing a spectacular stay-cation home in NYC. A little background is that my boyfriend owns a food tour company and is obviously very knowledgeable about food and is a huge foodie as part of his job and interests. And that is often the challenge...especially this week. We decided to do a global food tour and in tandem, head out of Manhattan to explore the outer boroughs and eat foods from different ethnicities. So we went to Greenpoint Brooklyn which has a large Polish population and ate Polish food. We went to Staten Island and had Spanish food, we went to Arthur Avenue in The Bronx which is a well known Italian enclave. We've done Brazilian, Malaysian, Jewish delicatessen (along with movies on Christmas Day), and we're still heading to Astoria Queens for Greek food. I got on the scale this morning and am exactly the same weight I was a week ago when we started this foray. And what does this tell us? For me, it tells me that as long as I watch my volume, and make good choices, I can eat anything and live the life I want even when my interests still gravitate towards food. The difference now is that I don't need or want to eat to excess. A little bit goes a long way. Last night was my biggest challenge. My danger food is pasta. I ordered the house special...Nona's meatballs and spaghetti. Suffice to say the spaghetti was perfectly al dente. Chewy deliciousness. I had about three or four small forkfuls, and let the remaining three dinner companions go to town on the rest of it. This worked so well as I got in my chance to enjoy this food and still not give in to it. I know everyone has to approach living post WLS the best way they know how. For me, this works. My fervent hope is that I'm posting the same when I'm ten years post banded. Today I think I can make it. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year to all my friends on BP.
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    Deserted.

    Unfortunately you are experiencing what so many other WLS folks have gone through when a spouse is non supportive. I can't give you my take on it as I did not go through this but I've seen enough of what others have gone through to know that you need to reassure him that you love him. How was he when you lost the weight with the band? Other than you being 'a b**ch' which I will ignore for the moment. Did he support you at all or no? If no, I suspect he will not support you now either. You may need professional counselling and/or therapy with him so he understands you are doing this for your benefit and his. However, if the marriage is shaky, this might be the thing that breaks it. Again...I've seen it. Focus on your surgery for now but don't expect magically that he will come around. It will take some doing if it happens at all. Wishing you all the best.
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    Deserted.

    Wow...unsupportive a little? I'm really sorry to hear that. It must make this all the more stressful.
  19. Nothing personal...and I mean this in the best way possible so I hope I don't insult you but you are unrecognizable. I say that as someone who is also unrecognizable from how I looked pre surgery...and glad of it.
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    Deserted.

    why won't mom stay home and watch the kids so hubby is available to help you?
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    Banders #7

    it usually does not go beyond this thread...but if something comes up that we think should go out to a larger audience, we at times do post in a general forum so more folks can see and respond.
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    Banders #7

    Well great....'cause that's what we are on this thread. Friends. So you know....I've had zero issues with the band. I've gotten stuck a few times, had sliming/productive burping, all that fun stuff....but no GERD, slippage, erosion...all the stuff they talk about. I'm not saying it's because I follow the rules...but truth is...I follow the rules... I know folks on the boards, and in my real life who eat and drink around the band. Some of them have issues...and many of them gain the weight back. I'm almost four years out and I can tell you....just like any other weight loss plan we follow...maintenance is the hardest part. Every day, I have to make choices. The band does not stop me from eating poorly nor does is always stop me from overeating. I have to avoid temptation same as I always tried. Most of the time, I do fine. Sometimes..I do not. As long as I make the right choice most of the time, I'm good.
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    Banders #7

    Hi and welcome. Technically we are not a closed forum but those who follow this thread...and those who post, have been doing so for several years as this is the 7th thread we've started. You're welcome to chime in but know that most of us who are still here, just post personal things...and not necessarily weight loss/weight issues related. Did you have any particular issue or question to pose as a banded person? There are very few of us on here anymore and that does make it hard for folks with band-specific questions and issues. We'll be happy to help if we can. Liz
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    NY - NYC/Long Island

    Glad you had a nice get together. I'm so hoping to make it to the next one. I'm sitting here now, wearing the backbrace...hoping it might help. Doctor tomorrow...hoping that might help as well. Have a good Sunday everyone. Liz

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