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Try not to take it personally if she doesn't respond. I can't tell you haw many really nice first dates I had and never had a second one. You can't control this so don't try to...and don't try to overthink it. If she texts back, great. If not, just go at it again with someone else.

If you want to do something fun on Halloween Laurie, go to Lincoln Center. I was there for a concert in the afternoon and the plaza was teeming with kids and babies in costume. Watching them running around the old folks with canes and walkers was a bit scary but they were still cute as all getout.

If you want to do something fun on Halloween Laurie, go to Lincoln Center. I was there for a concert in the afternoon and the plaza was teeming with kids and babies in costume. Watching them running around the old folks with canes and walkers was a bit scary but they were still cute as all getout.

It happens to us ladies plenty. There are lots and lots of size 10 and 12's. Even 8's. But smaller than that become difficult. I wear a 6 in jeans and can be as small as a 2 or 4 in some dresses. Very hard to find those sizes.

Hi @wagyu. Just wanted to let you know that I lost 150 lbs. without cooking my own meals. I live in NYC and have a very small kitchen. I live alone and cooking just seemed like a big old pain in the neck. I shopped at upscale markets for prepared meals and that's what I ate. Mostly fish and chicken along with veggies and even a bit of carbs such as a very small potato, or 1/4 cup pasta/rice. Stay away from fried foods, things you know will have alot of calories and sodium/fat. Other than that, you should be OK. Again...I get that cooking yourself gives you more control but I'm proof that you can do it without cooking your own food. Good luck!

Thanks for posting this Alex. I often feel like I have to defend my choice of WLS and the point is to do what is best for you, not necessarily what is the 'hot' procedure or to feel pressured into getting something you don't feel is right for you. Oh...and one more thing. I know that the band is often a good choice for lower BMI people but the band still can work for higher BMI folks as well and I'm proof of that.

Didn't dress up but I always Celebrate Halloween as the Greenwich Village Halloween Parade passes by my building and I get a bird's eye view. I attached a picture from my living room window. I also attached a picture of myself taken earlier that day with a statue of Dante behind me. I know it's a bit of a stretch, but Dante's Inferno is sort of Halloween-ish, right? Hope you all had a fun day 'trick or treating'.

Same here. Two people who are no longer on this site come to mind first and foremost. Carolina Girl and Missy (MIS73) They were my go to peeps as I could identify with both of them and their advice and support was priceless. I didn't know anyone who could give me the help and support I needed out in the 'real' world. But here in the virtual world, I found what and who I needed. It's why I am still here. I feel obligated to pay it forward.

I went through this as well. It will eventually stop. Folks will get used to your 'new look' and the interest, good or bad will start to fade. Just wait it out and understand that people are curious, some are jealous, and others are totally inappropriate. Smehow you need to figure out those who might be truly interested in changing their lives as well and are looking for information. Those are the ones you pay attention to.

I agree with Dub. I know this hurts and you have every right to feel bad and sad. While feeling this way though, focus on yourself. Not just related to the weight loss, but to improving other areas of your life. Do something you want to do and didn't because he didn't want to. Make some new friends. Go out for coffee after the gym with some of the girls you've said hi to. Meet new people, do new things. I'm telling you...take advantage of this opportunity. And yes...it's fine to think of it as an opportunity to be totally selfish and into yourself.

It's OK if you text her and just re-iterate that you had a nice time. Don't mention going out again. If she texts you back, then you can discuss making plans. I always followed up with a text if I had a nice time on a date. This way, he knew I was interested. If he called/texted me back, likely we went out again. If not...then I know he's not interested. It only looks desperate if you text and say, 'why didn't you text me like you said you would?'

Actually going today. I have no idea what I'm going to talk about it. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Actually...let her talk. This way you don't have to over think it, and most women enjoy talking about themselves anyway. Don't just sit there, but take your cues from her and what she talks about.

...and I am going to have the conversation with the NP next week to discuss having my first fill. I am struggling and have been for a while now. When I talked to my therapist last night, she helped me realize that I'm hungry. It's not stress eating...it's not head hunger...it's real hunger. I ate dinner last night and as often happens, was hungry soon after. I had a hard boiled egg instead of crap (as she suggested) and it filled me up without the guilt. All I know is that I'm not necessarily looking to get back down to 112 lbs. which was my lowest weight, but I'm finding myself in the 121-124 lb. range and that's just not acceptable. I guess this means I won't be a 'fill virgin' for much longer...

Had my port revision yesterday. Glad it's over is all I can say. But here's my takeaway story for the day. So I'm wearing the horrible hospital gown with the sock thingies on as well and waiting with the BF for my surgeon to come in to see me. Already got alot of comments from the nursing staff about the weight loss and was OK with it knowing it would stop once I went home. So as you likely know, the surgical floor is kept fairly cold and while waiting for the surgeon, I tucked my legs up under myself to keep warm. The surgeon walks in and first thing she says after good morning is 'well...look who's all curled up in the chair there.' Figures she would spot that right away knowing that was an impossible position for me at one time. A NSV is a NSV no matter where it happens...

If you think you are in the right frame of mind to take it off and keep it off, I say go for it. If you can't maintain the weight loss, that's when you reconsider surgery. You need to be sure you want to do this...or so desperate that you have no choice. I was the latter. I was likely only weeks or months from being wheelchair bound due to joint degeneration and at 267 lbs, not a good candidate for hip replacement surgery. If co-morbidities are not impacting you...or only minimally...again, you may be able to wait this out and see what happens. Good luck with whatever you choose.

My answers below: 1. What behaviors / skills did you develop to compensate for being fat? Was totally the funny fat girl. I made fun of myself and used the word 'fat' so that I knew I had said it first. I was loud and probably obnoxious at times. I still am funny and outgoing..and a bit outrageous at times, but have been able to tone alot of it down now. No need to deflect the painful words or the fact that I hated what I looked like the way I used to. 2. Do you think you'll change (and how) when you're thin? See above.

I had to have a revision because the port stuck out and was bothering me...and looked funny. The surgeon replaced it with a lower profile and tucked it behind the abdominal muscle to hide it better. I've always had good restriction even with no fills.

Ah...close but no cigar, Laurie. I go to the McBurney Y across town.

Not that I'm aware of.

OK...this is probably TMI, but since we're already TMI, you might find this amusing. My BF has his own term for 'going to lady town'. He calls it 'praying at the temple'. I'm sorry if some think this is sacrilegious, but I find that I like that he calls it that. It's just another way to reach euphoria in my opinion.

That was me! Yes, I try to understand.. my mom says the same thing.. 50+ age men have serious issues.. she also is very active and lost a lot of weight, and a lot of them men her age aren't interested in working out.. she doesn't want to be with someone who wants to only go out to eat all the time either, cause she doesn't want to gain weight back.. My Mom's problem (not really problem) is that she is looking for THE ONE, and gets SO emotionally invested when she finds a reasonably attractive guy who has a job, etc.. She also has some personality issues (that she is going to therapy for) but she isn't outgoing.. doesn't have a very positive attitude, etc.. She has no idea who to casually date around to find a guy worth it. But I get that its hard. I just feel so bad for her because it is depressing her. I'm 57 and spent the last 20 years focusing on myself, my family, and my friends. When I decided to jump back into the dating pool, I made sure I didn't look for the ONE, or look for someone to complete me. When you do that, if you don't find someone, yes...depression and feelings of unworthiness can set in. Your mom has to value herself more than anything or anyone else. Then, and only then, can she find someone who compliments her...and not 'completes' her...which is a dumb movie quote anyway...and not real life. PS: I am currently with someone I met five months ago who is fitting that bill just as I had hoped. I enjoy his company immensely but if things don't work between us, I'll cry (maybe) and get back up and go on because I still have a great and full life. That's what mom has to realize.

Hi my Florida Friends. I'll be down for Thanksgiving. If you plan on a meet up during the holiday period, I'll be in the area till December 2nd and would love to get together. Liz

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TLC is doing alot of stories on larger folk today and tonight. I watched the story about the guy who lost 400 lbs. 'the natural way' by dieting and exercising. He was training with the biggest loser guy..Chris something or other. Anyway, definitely a put down of those who have bariatric surgery so once I realized this was an old program, I Googled the guy, and what do you know?? He gained back 300 of the 400 lbs. he lost. Now I take no pleasure in his weight gain but it shows once again that losing it is the easy part. It's the maintenance that's hard. The 600 lb. people next week has the woman who in the promo says that she could easily be back at 600 lbs. again but that she chooses not to. That's the reality of our lives. Even with bariatric surgery, we can gain it back. I know...I see folks on this forum all the time struggling with regaining. I just wish, as many of you also do, that the general public stops seeing WLS as the easy way out...or even as cheating. Oh..and one more thing as long as I'm posting stuff about these types of shows. What's with the woman on My Big Fat Life? Is she supposed to make us think she's fat and happy? If so, she's not. She reminds me of myself...very self-depricating in order to shield herself from just how unhappy she truly is. Or she's just delusional. She's a very large woman and no one that big can be happy at that size. Not in this society anyway. Smaller is beautiful and anyone who says otherwise is rationalizing. Did you see the guy she met who was a chubby chaser? He didn't care about her...only about her body. That's probably what extraordinary beautiful women experience as well, but it's just an assumption on my part. Anyway, just some random thoughts while I sit here and watch our mayor again tell us that the city will shut down tonight while the blizzard is upon us.