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Ha!! Too funny!!! My uncles just told me I looked fabulous!! ImageUploadedByBariatricPal1469384527.955418.jpg Beautiful!

He asked me tonight if I would be OK with going to the ballgame on Friday night and again on Sunday. I told him that was a silly question...and why weren't we going to the Saturday game as well. We're also going to go to Brooklyn and watch a Cyclones game as well. Doesn't always have to be the majors. I enjoy minor league as well. Plus we can walk the boardwalk and go to Nathan's in Coney Island.

I was wondering if anyone was going to post about this episode with the comic. I agree, the producers coached this whole thing, but those words out of the comic's mouth belonged to someone who knows Whitney very well. Everything was on target about how she's kidding herself that she's OK with her body and her life right now. She's not. I recognize also so much in her behaviors that mimicked my own. She needs to talk to someone who's been where she is and is now truly in a better place weight wise. She can't avoid us like she did the 'skinny b***h'. I too am appalled that I watch this show. It is the worst kind of dehumanizing show and here I am watching...

If you didn't track you food when you lost the weight before, do it now. I used myfitnesspal religiously and it made me aware of everything I ate. PS: I'm banded as well and while I understand how expensive it is to see the doctor without insurance, an adjustment will probably help you enormously as you well know the band doesn't help without correct restriction. Good luck hon!

You are not alone. Don't panic...dressing now that you are a smaller size takes time. I've been at goal for two years and have been comfortable trying on clothes for less than a year. It will take trial and error before you know what style works best. Some days, everything will look good on you, and others, nothing will. Hang in there...shopping will be fun. I promise. Right now, it's hard because it's new.

good luck!! I thought you and the band were done so this is nice to find out you still might be able to lose without having to get a revision.

Here's the thing.... When someone who is obese, starts to lose alot of weight fast, everyone knows that person likely had bariatric surgery. Believe me...you're not keeping anything secret. Especially with women. I work in an office that's pretty evenly split between males and females and there is a good sized number of both who's first language is not English. So I've gotten very personal questions from many of the women...they can zero in on it very quickly. The men...not so much, but especially the men who are not from here and are not aware that telling me I'm not so fat anymore is not acceptable. Yes...I've heard that statement more than once. I can laugh now, but at the time...nope. What I eventually did at work was tell the truth to those who I knew were in need of it. I'm talking about others struggling with their weight who I know really needed an honest answer. The others I told only what they needed to know, and no more. Now...as far as family goes...same thing. They'll know something is up when the weight starts to literally melt off. You can do the same as with co-workers and tell or not based on individual circumstances, or you can have a mother like I do who told everyone..and I mean everyone, about my being banded. Hell, even her neighbors know me as the 'banded one' when they see me and my sister. Even my financial planner knows because my mother has no filter. Really.

The most awkward part of WLS is knowing the only option I had left was surgery. I was so out of control that nothing short of medical intervention was needed. I'm still so ashamed of that. It's why I'm so happy that after more than two years at goal, no one makes comments about how great I look. I know that seems odd, but for every compliment I got, it was a reminder to me how large I had become. I know...I know. Believe me...there's a reason I'm in therapy....

I was banded 3 1/2 years ago and at goal for more than two years. My younger son, who I am very close with, mistakenly believed that I can't overeat. I found out yesterday because we were talking about my possibly getting fat again and he said, well, you can't overeat so why would you get fat again? I had to let him know that it's easy to gain it back. Yes...even with surgery we can all get fat again. What I have found in my experience, is that the band helps me to keep on track but that doesn't mean I haven't gone off track on occasion. Because I have. I'm not perfect...no one is. So the message here is not so much how non surgical folks don't get our experience...I'm realizing there will always likely be a basic misunderstanding of WLS. And that's coming from family all the way to strangers. It still bothers me when they say that someone lost weight the natural way, or old fashioned way. People still and likely always will misunderstand this. More importantly though...is my understanding that I will always till the day I die, have to make choices about what I put in my mouth. I think those of us with food issues don't always realize that most of the normal sized world makes these choices daily. For us though, it's not a normal way of looking at food...because we never saw or see food in a normal way. Especially if we are emotional eaters and the weight is a symptom of deeper issues. Sorry that I'm sorta all over the place on this post but I really think that when I experience something and think about how I react to it, or how it impacts me, I figure I'm not alone and I post it. There's always someone out there who says, 'oh...me too'.

Really? I feel your pain. I run several and it seems to be getting a little worse every day. I have yet to figure out why. One of these days these idiots will figure out that "this is anonymous" to a point. At some point, future employers, attorneys, and the NSA can all track it back to them. Well, F them if they can't take the joke. I keep a nice file of those I don't want to ever see in my profession. I will give grace if they are under 25, but if they are older, well dang, they really should have known better. you are so right on this. my ex-boyfriend was in HR and said that he always checked social media and there were plenty of potential interviews and even offers that were rescinded due to 'inappropriate' comments on sites most people have no idea potential employers are looking at.

Testing, testing, 123, 123. OK!! I'm in!

Oh Lisa my friend...what can I do to help and support you? I know dad hasn't been well for a while but I can't imagine readying yourself for his passing. Please let me know if there's anything I can do for you. You know you can call me anytime if you need to. Liz

Nice to see you back on the forum. I know you were gone for a while.

I watched two episodes on Wednesday and it reminded me why I don't usually watch this show. It's great to love yourself no matter what but when I saw Whitley on the ski slope starting to lose her balance and heading towards a face plant, I felt her pain...and embarrasment afterwards. That was the kind of thing I thought would finally be the straw that broke the camel's back and she would finally do something serious about her excess weight. Even fainting and going to the ER might not do it...but being so frightenend because she couldn't control herself falling was the kind of thing that would make me know that I had come to the end of my rope. But no...even though she cried when talking about the incident, she still managed to rationalize not doing anything to seriously change up her situation. I can only imagine how folks without weight issues would watch this and presume that all overweight people are living in the land of denial like Whitney is. I wish this show would go away or that she would admit that she needs to take herself in hand and not just say hollow words that you know she doesn't mean or believe in. Ok..small rant over. Got it off my chest and now I feel better.

When those who are supposed to love and support you, treat you so poorly, it makes the hurt a thousand times worse. I wouldn't presume to tell you to keep your distance from him but maybe that's what you need to do till you are stronger and can ignore his hurtful remarks. My father has always been critical of me in a snarky sort of way and it impacted my whole sense of self worth. He isn't even aware that he did this...but it's impacted me for almost all my life. That's one of the reasons why I dismissed him when he told me to talk to my sister about losing weight. I told him straight out that all that would do would make her avoid me. He didn't even realize that would be the result. He's a very smart man except when he's stupid.

...did you hear her talking about the boyfriend? It's all about her not being alone...and nothing about how crappy he treats her. I suspect this is very typical of relationships/marriages where someone is obese. That's probably the reason why so many marriages end after the obese partner looses weight and decides they need/deserve to be treated better.

I'm laughing up a storm right now. So Ann...tell us how you really feel...

yes, yes!! I was going to say that you should imagine that someone sneezed all over the food...or worse, licked it all. Really...it's a head game and anything goes. I swear...that's what I do when I walk into the kitchen and something yummy is sitting there.

Oh lord...I'm so so sorry. I have no words. I don't know how to cope with constant loss like this. I don't blame you for being angry. It's a very normal reaction in my opinion. I don't want to say to you to just do what you feel like doing food wise. We have to keep on top of how we eat and drink..especially when we are under great stress and I can't imagine anything more stressful than this. Just don't fill yourself with guilt. What's done is done. Follow your plan right now. Yes...keep exercising. It's good for you. If you need meds...take them for now. I wish I could give you more than a virtual hug right now. Post in this thread every day if you need to...multiple times if necessary. Alot of the original group are gone but there are still a few of us around and someone will be here for you. Liz.

Thanks for clarifying! That makes more sense for sure though my PA has never mentioned anything like this to me. Oh, and I've no idea why I've been so successful when others have not. I did nothing special...I just watched my intake and did some exercising...but not extreme. I'm just glad it worked...I was close to being totally immobile when I was banded.

I don't understand. Why would the PA suggest you do something that would make you slime? Am I misinterpreting what you wrote?

Stunning! Spectacular!

I have a lapband and I agree with @Inner Surfer Gal. Make sure you are eating correctly. Also...discuss another fill with the doctor. And lastly...don't live and die with the number on the scale. How clothing fits is a better indicator as you can already see.

OK...I'll post as well. Don't want Julie to feel like a thread killer.. I went with my friend to Dress Barn on Sunday. Haven't been there in years. I bought an adorable black and white skirt with a white top with lace cap sleeves and a lace blue and white skirt with a matching blue cami that I can wear with a white bolero type of coverup that I have at home. I look freakin' cute at work today in the flouncy black and white number. This is so much better than overeating.

Hi Sweetie. I absolutely remember your posts and struggles. I'm beyond happy to see your success. Congratulations on sticking with it and making it through.