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@elektrik- thank you for the long post. I appreciated knowing I can come here to talk or vent. I am just so worried nothing will change. I have list weight many times without the tool but when I get stressed I EAT my weight back up. I want to address it now before I sabotage myself. My husband is selfish. He doesn't say anything negative per say about the surgery except that he would never do it. He is about 80-90 lbs overweight. He doesn't support me either though. He just says whatever you want to do. Work is a bunch of drama and I couldn't even tell them what surgery I was having because my boss would have treated me differently. When I told him I have an ulcer he even said "I just wanted to be sure it wasn't voluntary surgery". I work for a large corporation and technically he wasn't even supposed to be asking me anything but he did. Most of the time he is a pretty good boss though. I work with too many other women and women can be so mean and troublemakerish. My kids are awesome but they need me and I worry about them. I grew up with a mother that was 300+ lbs and my dad always had a big issue with her weight. I think that's why I feel so low about myself when I'm heavy like no one would ever want someone as fat as me. I just want to deal with all this.

Forest park where? There are several hospitals named Forest Park in the US

I am confused too. On another thread in May you said you just had surgery. Then in Nov you had a post looking for a decent doctor in Mexico. I think everyone assumes you were inquiring about docs so you could choose one to perform your surgery but based on the May post you were already operated on so were you just curious about the decent docs in Mexico? I am confused

Oh my goodness. Yes people are going freaking nuts. I don't get it. I'm glad you didn't get jumped but I would have the same worries as you. Just be careful and watch and look around at all times. You did the right thing to report him.

Great job Patrick!!!

I know it's early but I'm scheduled for Jan 10th. Please pray for me. I am praying for everyone going through this. I read a thread today and the op was very anti God. I prayed for her because I can't imagine going through this without my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I love God and know He will never forsake me but still the sinner in me worries. Pray for me and I will continue to pray for all of us.

I'm jan 10. Unless I chicken out before then

I'm jan 10. Nervous and scared

Ok I'm posting this in the post surgery so I can get answers from ones who've had experience. Is the sleeve not the right choice for people with bad GERD? I never knew that but I read it in another post on here. Now I'm wondering if I need to switch.

I'm sure that your parents just worry about you. My mom had gastric bypass six years ago she had so many complications and now she is fine and does well and is still thin and kept all her weight off. However my dad does not want me to get the sleep. He is worried for my children that they will not have a mother and her father does not. Come around. So my point is they're just worried about you and that is how they deal with it. I know it is hard to understand but I guess I try to. Maybe just tell them I'm doing this I want your support but other than that I don't want any advice for me I love you I appreciate it thank you. Case closed

Thanks Gregory.

Alright I'm going to post this but no judgement please. I started this process three months ago. I finally got approved and I'm scheduled for Jan 10. Now here's the problem I work in an office. I'm an accountant. I work with mostly women but my boss is male. I have not told ANYONE at work what I'm doing. I haven't worried about them finding out when I lose because I've lost and gained 70-100 lbs about 3x since I've been there they'll just think it's another one of my crazy diets. My boss's wife also works there and I'm afraid he'll tell her and it will be all over the company. There is a LOT of judgement and gossiping at my work and I just don't want to be the center of it. I decided that today I would just tell my boss I'm having surgery and if he asked details I'd say it's personal. I totally mis prophesied how that would go!!! When I said I was having surgery of course he asked what for so I said it's personal and he said like what a hysterectomy? I was like no and then he was like is it major surgery? And I said yes and then he was like well what then? I said I don't want to get into all that and he was like ok if you don't want me to know (he was taking it really personal) I said its not that I just don't want EVERYONE to know. He said well I wasn't going to say anything. I told him I have just been stressed and having health problems because of it. Well anyway I ended up spouting out a bed of lies of how I have ulcers from stress, gallstones from bad gallbladder and a hernia that needs repair. I know I know that was so stupid and now typing it I feel even more ignorant and shallow and stupid. I just got super nervous and I let him get me all upset. He said is the surgery voluntary? (I got the idea he was referring to lipo or a tummy tuck) I said well it's voluntary enough that I could go on hurting and being unhealthy but it's not liposuction or a nose job if that's what you mean. My husband said I shouldn't have let the conversation go beyond I am not ready to talk about it but I didn't and I'm a retard!!! I know that HIPPA laws protect my privacy and I didn't even have to tell him anything but we are all close and I am usually an open book. My boss just recently had surgery on his leg. It was shattered and he had to have multiple surgeries. Anyway he has been very open with all that so I guess I was just expected to be open like my usual self. Anyway, I dug a super big hole and I feel guilty for lying and now I don't know what to do.

And that's not the only drama they cause. That is just one example. It happens constantly and they are always trying to keep things stirred up.

We have had issues in our office of people gossiping about stupid things and getting mad over ignorant things. For instance for Christmas some of us wanted to donate money to a charity for Christmas instead of giving gifts to one another and as a group we made that decision but About three other girls got upset and have been causing problems. There is just already too much drama up there and I want to stay out of any drama

I know what you mean. I had the same problem with my husband. I made the mistake of saying how soon I was going to have to start doing better and he said well pretty soon you'll have to you're taking care of that. I tried to explain to him that the surgery Is only a tool to help with it after I get on real food if I want to eat chips and candy and things like that I could put the weight back on it's also in my head and I have to be willing to make the changes in my life. He just thinks oh she's having surgery that's the only way and it has nothing to do with my head

Today was great. Nothing was even said about it between he and I and we were together alone working on budgets and the opportunity was there for him to ask more questions and he never said anything. I really feel he is DONE discussing it and totally got the point. Now I just need to take my LOA up with HR and decide how to deal with everyone else. Ugh.... I don't want to start more lies and dig myself into a deeper hole so I'm choosing to not saying anything at all. There is only one girl I worry about because she will have to cover my job while I'm out.

Everyone on here is awesome and I so appreciate the support. I'm so happy I found this site because throughout this journey each problem I encounter someone on here has been through it and I hope by posting my experience someone else will be helped.

I'm glad for you Sarah. I still haven't decided what ill tell everyone else but I've told my boss and ill cross that bridge when it gets here.

All I can say is I'm sorry. The Lord was watching over you.

Ok so I sent my boss an email and this is what I got back. I'm happy with that. "I wasn't trying to dig. I was just inquiring. I’m glad you are getting this resolved since it really sounds like a potential issue. I don’t discuss anything personal from work ever with anyone even My wife Believe it or not. So anything you tell me is totally confidential. But I hope this resolves your issues and we can work through it. Honestly I just wanted to make sure we documented it properly just in case you needed more time, etc. We can work it out, so don’t worry about that. It’s a necessity and that is fine. These type of things happen to everyone it seems at some point. Thanks for the info."

OMG that's too cool we r so close!!!

I'm scheduled for Jan 10!!!

Very strange. I'm glad you are ok. I wish you the best in your recovery