Well I guess I will put in my 2 cents,this is a situation I have considered myself. So I have made the chioce to try and seek some type of counseling. My husband and I are best buds and he is the sweetest guy ever but he too is how should I say it ? Huh lazy yep that's the word. He works nights 4-12 so he has plenty of time to do the things that could lighten my load and unfortantly more than less I have to draw him a picture of what needs to be done around here. But this is the person that loves me, and I love warts and all. Big, small, pretty, or whatever. I am not saying that he loved ya big so how could you leave him now what I am saying is you have alot of time invested with your husband and you both deserve the chance to enjoy the new you. I do think a little vacation would be nice with or without him but maybe you can suggest some marriage counseling if you have a marriage worth saving you will know it. Also you aren't missing much but a bunch of lonely souls looking for someone or something to satisfy them. Start with the hand your holding before you fold. And give it to God. Thanks for letting me share. Ginny