DeLarla

And we have another Wonder Woman! Welcome to Beanland, Reneband!

It's about lifestyle changes. It's about eating reasonably and the band is there to HELP you. Not magically change quarter pounders, pizza, tacos and burritos into "health food." Well said!

That's it. You're grounded. I am the weakest link. Good bye.

"Once this becomes the norm for almost 2 1/2 decades.....then how do you put things in reverse without major resentment." Why should you care about their resentment towards you, when you've been swallowing resentment for 25 years? I feel for you, and I totally understand where you're coming from. I've spoiled my husband (though to a much lesser degree) and now he's a pain, so every so often I'm forced to "go on strike." I hate going on strike because my house gets really dirty, but it's the only way to take control of my household. Instead of washing piled up dishes, I'll go to a movie by myself as my husband looks at me as if I've lost my mind. Soon enough, he gets tired of the dirty house and cleans the entire thing. You're so concerned with upsetting your family, while they upset you every day. Stop laughing with them and show them that you are a strong, remarkable roll person, not a door mat. Like I said, start slow. Try one thing at a time. Maybe after dinner excuse yourself and get a pedicure. Tell your family how hard it is for you to be surrounded by all that food, and ask them to do the dinner dishes while you train yourself to stop grazing on leftovers. Tell them you want to change your habits, so while they do the dishes you can take a walk (to the pedicure shop, hey, it's a walk!)

Kare, I have feelings too. How many jokes does it take to get DeLarla to take an LBT vacation? Last time I stopped posting, I was innundated with e-mails and phone calls telling me to get my butt back. I will ground you from me, then you'll miss me. I'm like a drug - bad for you but you gotta have me.

I lost my band due to erosion. I'm losing weight very slowly, but I'm STARVING most of the time. The amount of food it takes for me to lose weight is very small. If I eat more than 1200 - 1500 calories, the weight doesn't come off. So I eat my tiny meals that don't last in my belly till the next meal. I'm always hungry, always cranky. When you have a band, the food stays in your pouch long enough that you don't have to suffer physical hunger. I was hardly ever hungry when I had the band, because my pouch stayed full for hours and hour and hours! Don't worry about what your friend says because she doesn't know what it's like to feel hungry all the time. Your belly feels satisfied with just a little food that lasts when you have a band. Being hungry all day is no picnic - literally.

"Hell, I leave mine up as reminder to everyone. Watch out for her.. she's Nuts!" Hey, I like this reasoning.

Awe, I'm sorry Diane. Vines is right, sometimes my brand of tough love comes off rather harsh, but desperate times call for desperate measures. For the records, somebody from this board actually contacted me to point out your thread because they figured I might have some strong words. To know me is to love me But still, can you serve those bean sprouts tonight?

OMG, is that what that is? I (ducking) fell asleep during that movie. Too many sword fights. Where can I get an avatar of Johnny blowing me a kiss?

Diane, for dinner tonight prepare steamed brussell sprouts and broiled fish with no butter or oil. Everyone gets a lemon wedge, and serve a side of raw bean sprouts. Thank your family for caring enough to get your butt in gear, and announce that you'll now be cooking healthier for the ENTIRE family since your children are predisposed to the fat gene. Tell them, "Daddy doesn't want fat kids, and neither do I" then pass them a rice cake for dessert. Then say, "WOOF" and mean it.

I take a little offense to "These women have no couth....." considering Diane's thread is based on a women being insulted by her husband (man) and children through incessant, hurtful jokes. I'm not laughing. I wasn't raised around any men whatsoever. I didn't have a father, a grandfather or any uncles. My grandmother was divorced before I was born, and my mother divorced when I was an infant, so I can't fathom allowing a man to insult me in my own home. Perhaps that makes me the wrong person to give advice on how to handle a husband that makes fun of his wife. It disgusts me, and I'd slap his face and risk a night in jail just to shut him up. Diane, your husband and children are verbally abusing you. The sooner you look at the severity of their jokes, the sooner you'll come up with the right words and actions to teach them respect. A family just like yours was portrayed on Nanny 911. The husband a dentist, the wife a stay-at-home mom. He and the kids constantly insulted her weight. It was awful to watch. I don't care if they're kidding or not, there's nothing funny about making fun of your mom. Nothing. And I know Nanny is just a TV show, but it sent an excellent lesson on respect across the tube. I'm not saying you should leave or destroy your family, but you need to put your foot down. Call a meeting with your husband. Use a notepad and show him how bad it hurts when he allows your children to make fun of you. Ask him how he would feel if his children didn't show him respect, and tell him it's tearing you up. Men don't often respond well to being told what to do, so instead show him what YOU are going to do.

How bad does it suck that this man is married to my friend, and I'm married to a guy I already love? Dawg, how did I miss this thread? Great job! I don't know the girl's name, but Dr. Fisher in Vegas had an erosion last year, and Lopez flew in to teach him how to remove it. That's when Lopez was in Vegas and agreed to have me back to Mexico, so the info came from the surgeons. Have Michelle and Francesca responded? They were both banded by Ortiz, both eroded. Karen H (my Vegas pal) doesn't post much, but she was a Lopez patient that eroded. I was banded by Lopez in Tijuana May 2004

"PhotoNut and DAWG - where have syou two been all my life?!?!" HEY, that's what I was gonna say!!! I want to marry them.

HOW YOU BEEN, BEAN? Looking forward really bad to hearing that you're doing great! LOVE YOU xoxox

Girl, now is the time to dig deep and find all the strength you can muster. Time to tell your family to make their own meals. I know how great cooking is when it pleases others, but their insulting comments and fat jokes make me physically ill. Nobody can help you but yourself, and it's time you took care of YOU instead of the ungrateful people surrounding you. Your husband isn't perfect so he has no right judging you. The Band gave me MY life back. I didn't ask anyone's permission or advice because I didn't care what other people thought. I did this for me, not for anybody else. I personally could never stay in a relationship where anybody insulted my weight or made me feel bad about who I was. It's time for you to pull a "Marge Simpson." That's when Mom puts her foot down and splits to the spa for a weekend letting the family fend for themselves. I don't care how bad your high school kids need you, that's an age where they should have learned respect by now. But they learn respect from parents, and you haven't set such a great example by allowing them to insult you or allowing your husband to insult you in front of them. Everyone sees Mom as a joke, yet Mom keeps cooking for them. If you're serious about losing weight, you first need to lose that low self esteem. I'm sorry if I sound harsh but sometimes tough love is the only thing people respond to. So your first assignment is to schedule a manicure/pedicure for tonight at dinner. Don't ask your family if they mind, don't make a caserole for them to pop in the microwave, and don't stock the fridge with frozen dinners or leave them money for a pizza. Start slow and show them who is boss!

It's always a better week when you start out laughing! Chuck Norris does not sleep. He waits. Chuck Norris is not hung like a horse... horses are hung like Chuck Norris. Chuck Norris can make a woman climax by simply pointing at her and saying "Booya". Chuck Norris doesn't read books. He stares them down until he gets the information he wants. Chuck Norris was banded without novacaine. He doesn't get endoscopies.

I'm going to submit my ugly belly photo later. Work is always getting in my way of all the fun :puke:

I can't even imagine how amazing you feel! Congrads to you!!!

Please, somebody send the men in the white coats with some pretty pills that will keep me out of this whacky thread! I'm literally laughing my ass off over what this thread turned into. It's getting nowhere. If anyone wants info on erosion, here it is: IT HAPPENS, and it sucks! And it can happen to you! And even if you don't feel like getting an endoscopy, it can still happen to YOU. YOU might be eroded right this very minute. But if you're like Chuck Norris, you won't care. What else can I help you with? GOOD NIGHT!

SMOOOOCCH! :puke: P.S. I figured maybe Eileen was from a country where they called the backside, "bups." So I figured she wanted leaner bups. I'm glad I asked!

Hey Doc, I've talked to Dr. Rumbault on the phone, but we've never met. However, if I ever had to go back to Mexico, he's the ONLY surgeon I'd even think about considering because he's got a stellar reputation. I have never seen a negative word printed about him or the facility he practices out of. I hope that makes you feel good :puke:

I can't even imagine. No way. Uht uh. Crazy. Wild. Wow. So proud!

Erosion doesn't only happen in Mexico. Dr. Lopez recently came to Vegas to teach Fisher how to remove an eroded US band, and a Florida bandster is currently recovering from band removal due to erosion. These are two that I personally know of, so I'm sure there are many more eroded US bands. Meanwhile, while US erosions seem lower (FOR NOW) please keep in mind that the Band has only been approved here for a couple years. Before jumping the gun, let's see how things unfold in the next few years before thinking that Mexico is the only problem.

This will all be a moot point as soon as DeLarla's At Home Pee Stick Erosion Kits are released.

Part of being human is having an array of emotions that range from silly to angrily outraged. Some people think it's bad to show emotions, but I think it makes us all honest. I would rather see someone's true feelings than wonder if they feel at all.