Thanks Paul for your repsonse. I am honored to be here and I expect and want nothing more than some tuff love. After I had my RNY, I was a member of another support board. By focusing on helping others and trying to make a difference in the lives of others I was able to lose weight and finally was loving and living life. I remember giving out tuff love when it was needed. So please don't hold back. Well, don't be to hurtful either because I am a girl ). I had my surgery 2 1/2 weeks ago, physical therapy is a work in progress. I really didn't have any pain post-op until my PT therapist increased the intensity of my workout. Man o man, that was last Friday, and my muscles are still flared up and angry. Yesterday we had to take a step back, she put me back on my walker with ambulation. I just want to screammmmmmm. Im not doing anything that can increase my metabolism. This is very frustrating. Im telling myself to stay compliant or it will take even longer to get better. Wish you or somebody had a majic wond that could fix me and take me to the gym. This is going to happen Im just so impatient. Im going to search for some upper body exercises that might help increase my metabalism. Thanks for your help and suggestions.