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Hi evryone, thanks for your feedback. My bf felt really bad saying what he said, i was so cut cause it was the first time he ever said anything like that and we have been 2gether 10months. he later realised what he said and apologised. he is suppotive of me thruout my op. made he made a promise that he will never make a remark like that again and i accepted. thanks again everyone for your feedback! Just a reminder , you are all doing great and i commend you all...xxoo

i have been banded for almost 2 months, i have lost 16 pounds, and feeling good.. on sat night while my boyfriend and i were getting intimate he told me oh so gently that my stomach is a bit of a turn off. !! gee was that a blow to my insecurties. he seemed to think nothing was wrong with that, he was being "honest". can i have ur veiws? was that offensive or am i over -reacting, cause it hurt like hell for me! im already a very insecure woman and he knows it!

OK the biggest load of you know what was when i 17 someone told me the fasted way to burn off fat is to wrap plastic around your tummy and go for jog. Allow me to remind you that i was only 17, so i did it, i came back all sweaty and proud that i was melting away, and gulped about 2 litres of Water, i did this for 2 weeks, realised i hadnt lost a kilo! 2nd load of crap was my cousin who was a very big girl and competitive i might add lost loads of weight well over 30kgs, me being still in the fat boat asked her in her skinny jeans how she did it, her answer was that she didnt consume carbs after 2pm. i and my sister have since suspected that she too has had the lap band but has not told us. I cannot wait till she asks me how i lost my weight, i intend to tell her that the "not eating carbs after 2pm" actually worked for me! lol Banded: 7/2/07 weight pre-op: 103kg weight to date: 96kg

:hungry: HI Janiee I can understand what it feels like to have family against you and justify the acts of an A**hole. I too have been told by my father that being FAT isnt going to get me a husband and thats why i was ditched by the last man i fell in love with. I just can't understand why they make FAT an issue, isnt the unconditional love supposed to come from family? My father told me to my face that he was to embaressed for me to come with him to see his cousins for fear they may look down on me, however he was asking my two thinner sisters to go with him. I cant tell you how that made me feel. As for your ex, well babe he is just a poor excuse of a man, did he not take his vows seriously? What i find most hurtful (my own experience) is the fact that when your family is supposed to be there for u at your lowest, they tend to kick you while your down. I have learnt one thing in my life and that is to rely and comfort yourself without the need for anyone else, unless they can prove that they are truly there for you. Gaining weight is no excuse to be treated like dirt, its sad to see we live in a society that is so shallow to think that someone can leave their partner based wholly on the fact that they are over weight! What have people become? I say stay beautiful, your the winner in the end, you can see why that would hurt you, the ignorance is theirs not yours and thats victory babe!

I am 6 weeks post op and my father who is very wealthy refused to lend me the money for my operation, however i was determined and i got a loan to pay for it. To this day he doesnt know that i have done it and i dont intend to tell him. All the while my whole life my father puts me down about my weight infront of anyone that would listen, the most memorable thing he told me infront of a group of young and older men was that i ought to be tied to his ute and draged accross the country. Or that i cant move im so big, mind you my biggest weight is 200lb. I have been asked if i am pregnant, or my fav is 'you have a such a pretty face, shame about your body, what a waste'. I have since lost 14lb and my father still goes on and on and on about my weight. but i guess as they say he who laughs last laughs the loudest! i hope im loud and clear when the time comes.

Hello every one, i have never posted on this site before, so i greet you and congratulate all of those who have made a fantastic lifestyle change. I was banded on the 7th of Feb 2006 i weighed 103KG im 5 weeks post op and still have not been tightend. to date i have lost 7kgs, however im starting to fill very hungry and can keep down any type of foods. Is this normal? I am due for my first tightening in one week. would love to hear from anyone that is in the same situation as me or has experienced the same situation. I am very scared that this operation will not work on me. Would love to hear your experiences and views. Going_down