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I am going to a consult now w barker, he is 3 to 5000 dollars more expensive depending on which other surgeon I compare him to and I'm a cash patients so that's significant...kuhn at baylor is 16, barker is 20, consult Nicholson on Monday

it is nerve wrecking thinking about complications going back in the hospital as cash patient for complications. the hair loss the pain in the swelling for 3 weeks, people saying they need 3 days to recover other saying they went home and took care of kids immediately, any others need 2 weeks with help....ahhh I don't know what to expect haha.... I'm looking at doing surgery around Christmas time I'm already off of work..... even now just training crochet Canton vegetables everyday is pretty boring I can imagine doing liquids for so long..... going to be so hard on you think about all the food I'm going to miss...lol.... and I wonder what dating will look like if I can't go out and have dinner and drinks bc thats what ppl do......

I realize this is a personal decision, I honestly do not know what route to go... I think BP better long term results, but it seems so drastic and I really worry about dumping syndrome and complications as well as my ability to really follow better eating habits.... I think having negative consequences of dumping might help with that, but wonder if I would decide to live with the pain just to satisfy my craving...... the sleeve seems like a more natural way to continue with life..... my doctor at first thought sleeve but the more we talk think the bypass offer me a little bit of extra help.... people use to die from this procedure and I realize that's not the case now but it scares the crap out of me... I know I want surgery I just don't know which 1 to choose... they're successes and failures with each I know it is my own choices.... socially I'd like to be able to drink a beer on occasion if I want to you know, I don't want to be on a date order something and take two bites eat like a bird either, but normal kids size person would be good I just don't know what to expect.... I have a friend who had bypass and she's great results but would have done sleeve but insurance would not pay for that, her mom had it also it is have the dumping effects but not as great results.... very stressful choice and it's a lot of money either way I go.....thx for thoughts between two surgeries

ohh my God I went to doctor Kim 4 * and I've had four bad experiences I kept thinking I would have a good 1 and maybe its time they were just busy and didn't have very much time to give me today... I am set up to see Nicholson on Monday... I want a good all around program that's going to have a lot of support for me and a lot of teaching n educating for me to help get me through this because I really have no support for this.... and all I know how to do is make poor food choices I really am clueless and I don't feel I really know what I'm getting myself into long term wise.... or can I really give up macaroni and cheese and fried chicken wings I don't know....lol.... can I really give up going out on a date and not having a couple alcoholic drinks.... that is what people do on a date I mean what am I going to do want to date now I'm sorry I don't drink.... and then we go to dinner oh I'm sorry I don't eat more than 2 bites at a time will think I'm a weirdo... I don't want the focus of the day to be what I'm eating and drinking...or lack of.... but yes need to find a surgeon I really don't know who... did you have a consult with Baylor grapevine? their website looks like they have a really good after surgery program, shrug, and I don't know how long that doctors been doing it but call me crazy I don't want someone has been doing this for only 5 years.... that is the bonus with kim he's been doing this over a decade and I really thinka good surgeon just can't speak that great for his attitude personality or his staff.... I think they just schedule way too many people each day.....idk

who have you guys used and been happy with or have a consult with and then decided you didn't care for.... I keep thinking doctor Kim is 1 of the better surgeons but I have gone to his office 4 * and had four bad experiences and I really do not think I want to use him. might be a good surgeon but I want to make sure I have a good overall comprehensive care package and I don't care for any 1 in his office I always feel rushed and like they don't have time to inform or educate me.... I have a consult with Nicholson in Dallas on Monday..... I know there are lots of good doctors out there I really want a team that will really help me through this after the surgery, I just know I'm going to need a really good active support group, and just at the comfortable calling the office asking for help or how to do something or what to eat or suggestions etc.... there are so many doctors so many commercials I don't know.... and then last night I heard about Baylor grapevine matin for first time..... I'm open to other suggestions.... does anyone go to counseling or therapy to help them with some of the changes n eating or just changes in your life??? I guess food has really been my love affair.... I know I will miss my favorite foods..... and honestly eating grilled chicken everyday for my life does not sound that great.... I hate chicken.... I have tried eating it this week for lunch, and dinner just not tasty lol.... I love my Mexican food it will b missed

Opps hit send early... and then I get confused because some doctor say 1 thing and others another in terms of gum carbonation straws do you really have to chew your food to puree consistency Exedra my doctor says stay off the internet and the stuff isnt true that all these other surgeons can't be wrong, this was from Doctor Kim if you're in the Metroplex supposed to be 1 of the better ones, but honestly I've seen him 4 * and I've had 4 bad experiences so I just don't think the surgeon for me..... I'm just very scared of whether I will follow this for long term or if I would slowly do things to sabotage it or if I would just decide to live through the sickness to eat the whole piece of cheesecake... as a binge eater you eat through the physical discomfort but I am told is a completely different type of pain.... however Carnie Wilson sure manage to gain all of her weight back after bypass so is definitely possible, and I don't want to be in her position in 15 years from now so I guess it would be really hard to gain back 100 pounds I would think that I never thought I would be at this weight n first place, I never want to be over 188 again I would like to stay the 150 n 160...currently 270

thanks for your honesty. I know few people have done it and they all say they just aren't hungry and just can't eat anymore.... and I guess since I haven't had surgery yet that's a strange concept I don't get it.... I don't get from how we go from being over eaters and binge eaters to we just don't over eat anymore... I appreciate your honesty in that you really miss food.... because sometimes I hear others say they can eat whatever they want they can only just have a bite of it and I wonder out true that is.... and if that 1 byte is even worth it or if it is more of just a tease to yourself..... I'm scared I won't followall the restrictions and I just emotionally and physically won't be able to follow the guidelines, not because I don't want to just from 20 years of bad habits.... I don't think my eating habits have been any different from any of you, and a bunch of I want this I also want to be able to live a normal life... and I won't be able to do that after having bypass.... so I guess it could be argued I don't have a normal life now just because I can't do everything I want to do.... I'm scared if I don't chew my food small enough it will cause a blockage and i might choke and die as I live by myself

what surgeons have you guys used in the Metroplex I'm having a hard time finding 1 I like.... I would love to meet up with you guys this weekend if we can I have so many questions and thoughts

how long did each of you require someone's assistance after your surgery...is 3 or 4 days after hospital enough? I live alone and I'm trying to find a friend that can pick me up from the hospital and stay with me but need to know a realistic number of days assuming everything goes well..... I hear a week so I'm thinking 2 days in the hospital & 3 or 4 atmy house should be enough...what r thoughts

Im 270, goal range is 140 to 160. after talking to surgeon I am not really any closer to a decision I wonder if I can really follow the restrictions of the gastric bypass requires, and a sleeve allows for someone more natural life but the surgeon thinks the extra help of a bypass would be good for me.... I don't know... I don't want to fail.... and I don't want to lose only 50 or 60 pounds either..... I think I lean towards a bypass but it definitely scares me the sleeve doesn't scare me, but I think I could sabotage a sleeve a lot easier... I'm cash patient and it's 6k difference, but if I'm doing this I need to do what's going to be best and not worry about the money. I have insurance but weight loss surgery is only available to people who work at companies with over 500 employees regardless of medical need but I don't have any medical complications right now anyways

I'm trying to make better food choices this week while decide on which surgery I want and just trying to eat better right now... I already have issues with migraines but it seems as though I have cut carbs and I'm just eating chicken and a vegetable I am getting these really bad headaches everyday and I think my body truly depends on having some sugar and carbs.. does anyone have this or did you or when does it stop, ate a piece of toast w butter and maybe it's in my mind but I think it helped.... not have any sugar for 3 days is really I think that been shock to my system... carb thing in my head or do y'all think that this is possible to have headaches from not having a carb or sugar

I'm in Arlington and trying to pick a surgeon I've been to doctor Kim and I'm set to go to doctor Nicholson... but I would love to have a bariatric support group thats local in the Metroplex I don't have anyone that is very supportive of this... it would be great to have some workout buddies, I know doctor Kim has a support group it only meets once a month it would be good just to have some women to sit with n go through everything together and even sit and plan together especially to lean on during pre diet and post op... Brneyd79@gmail.com hope to meet some of you... I'm trying to decide right now between a sleeve or bypass... I just don't want to do this alone my mom says to do Weight Watchers for 6 months, cut carbs blah blah... as if I haven't tried all of that over and over again.... no 1 in my family has a weight problem and they just don't get it, they think they're being helpful but their comments really are negative

I mean my first thought I am pre surgery right now but my first thought would be to follow the liquid diet as told and then just eat baby food . And then you can't taste anything for you want can't you.... havent asked the doctor about this but it seems logical to me if you're supposed to eat soft foods to just eat baby food and already portion n small jars

Caroline everything you said are my same thoughts... pregnancy apparently not an issue with anything I'm told that over and over... I'm trying to decide between the 2 procedures also and until about 5 days ago there is no way I would ever done by pass.... my doctor the first two visits thinking about doing the sleeve and the more we talk today he said definitely go with bypass the extra accountability will help me long term, im 5'7, 270, 33yrs, size 16... I think of the Unknown afterwards it scares me as far as the dumping what to eat how to eat

I have the same thoughts and concerns I'm trying to decide between the sleeve or bypass. I want the best long term results I also want to feel like I live a normal life, I don't want to feel like I go out to eat or something with friends or date and I just sitting at the table everybody eats because I can only eat two bite, I think that would be depressing... but I wonder about still being able to binge through a sleeve and eating through the pain ppl talk about... I think having a negative consequences of dumping me help me with that some and not be able to consume any carbs and sugars is probably better also but it seems really drastic and scary all the different concerns and nutritional stuff... I do want to be healthy and I want to be able to get pregnant, which I cannot do at 5'7 & 270

I am concerned about this stuff pre surgery am I really just not able to live a normal life anymore can I don't even have just a few bites of that stuff what happens do you get sick or is it that you don't want to allow yourself those few bites because you're scared of not being able to stop... I want realistic vision of pros and cons I'm trying to decide between a sleeve or bypass and I understand sleeve is the natural way of life, but bp may help me make better choices because of the Sugar absorption issue and have a negative consequences might teach me to stay away from things... I just don't know what to do

I am trying to make the same decision a sleeve or bypass... I am concerned with the dumping and not being able to take nsaids as I have a lot of migraines and probably take about 10 a week. I think not being able to absorb sugar as much is a good thing. I am self pay and I realize insurance for many doesnt cover a sleeve but if it did with any gone with the sleeve bc of experiences with the bypass I know 1 person who says that if she could have she would have been sleeve but she has had great results and have not had dumping

my stats are the same as the original poster I'm a size 16, very proportionate and pre surgery.... 33 not 20 something, I worry about this too but I think for me it will be more of my breast as I am a 44 G. I know for me personally no matter what size I am if I look in the mirror and have flabby skin post I will feel bad about myself... this for me I'm looking out of a long term process because I want to do this and then wait required time to get pregnant and then have a baby and then do a tummy tuck. so I'm thinking I will have some flabby skin for a while and just deal with it until after I have a baby..... good luck with your surgery I'm still trying to decide between a sleeve or the bypass.... seems recovery and complications from bypass is more severe as are the eating ability... but I think not being able to absorb sugar is a good thing that to sleeve does not offer.... but I also think if sleeve to be effective maybe I should just do that I really don't know what to do

so what are you guys eatpost op if you can eat ckn I'm really concerned about what I'm going to be eating afterwards.... do you really have to chew your food to puree style before swallowing or is this just something every body experiences differently

I'm pre surgery and I'm told your body will not tolerate carbs that's because of the sugar... and so you'll have negative consequences from dumping when you consume too much sugar carbs... and it this is 1 reason to go with bypass over having a sleeve what are the experiences realistically.... also I read in a forum that chike nutrition has some of the best tasting shakes out there and I agree they don't bother me any... they have flavors like orange strawberry lemon different things . there's no chalky taste and really don't smell like the whey protein, you can order them for 2 dollars each and try them ilikechike.com

what have your pain and struggles truly been like after surgery I'm pre surgery, I'm trying to decide between sleeve or the bypass but I really wonder about complications and dumping with bypass

I am pre surgery deciding between the sleeve or the bypass but I agree hang in there but I also wonder how common is this I know its life changing a slow process, I also I'm afraid of doing all this and not working

this kind of stuff is good to read I want a realistic vision of what to expect after surgery I'm trying to decide between a sleeve or bypass... that sounds crazy to me to be in pain and not able to lay on your stomach a month later

congratz any advice for someone considering surgery... I'm trying to choose between a sleeve or bypass but I really wonder about the side effects complications etc... any advice or info on problems struggles you have would be great thanks

how common are these types of problems I'm pre surgery trying to decide between the sleeve or bypass