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Hiya Kimberly, I had to gain weight as well ... I knew that my BMI had to be 40 or above since I didn't have any other serious co-morbidities. So... I gained... and now I can't lose what I gained for surgical purposes...LOL. Sometimes a girl has to do what a girl has to do! I did it because I knew that with each weight loss and then gain... I would be above 40 without a doubt at some point. Hang in there girl and have yourself a Culver's Turtle Sundae or two... or three... whatever it takes! Darcy

Yup...you guessed it Lisa... I'm a lounge singer by night and a masked wound packer by day! I know Alex... freak I am... but honestly... packing a wound really is freakishly fun! It was really awesome when I worked in home health.... I got to do it all of the time!!!! Sorry Alex... Donali... could you hold Alex... I think I have frightened her.

Awwww Man!!! Bummer Lisa!!!!! I wish I lived closer to ya... I LOVE PACKING WOUNDS!!!!!! The truth is out... I'm a freak. I think you'll feel a lot more at ease with a local Doc... it makes me uneasy that my surgeon will be an hour and 45 minutes away... can only imagine how you are feeling! SO SORRRRRRYYYYY LISSSSSAAAA.... ((((((((((((HHHHHHHHUUUGGGGGSSSSSSSSSSS)))))))))

Again... you are beautiful and I for one am glad you kissed the pink little piggy goodbye!

Look at beautiful you!!!! It's great to put a face with the personality!!!!! LOL... I'm glad I'm not the only one to suffer from small chair tushitis! I was a squirming and shifting... sighing... and otherwise in complete agony! Reason number 210 for getting the Lap Band!

Just be glad you didn't have to go to an school assembly and listen to them give out awards for two hours... including awards given to children that helped out 1 or more times in the lunchroom. :cool: A buttocks as large as mine is not meant to sit on a metal chair for that long! I was surprised they didn't give awards to children that attended school at least once during the year. Hope you are keepin those eyes open today DeLarla... if you need more excitement... I'll be happy to share more "edge of your chair" stories from the assembly.

Tinkle... Tinkle... little DeLar ...La :cool:

WOWZA David! I hope I will be able to work as well with the band as you have!!! Congratulations and wishing your wife the best with her banding!

Will Miss Birdee... take satisfaction in this... you made a very intelligent and healthy choice for your body now and down the road. Your body can absorb all of the nurtrients it needs and when you are an older Birdie... your bones will thank you! It's too bad she didn't listen to you and one day she may look back and think... *Damn... that Birdee was really smart and I wish I would have listened to her instead of being a boogerbutt* :cool: My Sissy is having trouble with weight gain with her RNY GBP... but... she is also putting on the breaks and trying to work with the tool that she went through so much to get! Before your band... if you lost this much weight... would you have gained it back by now... plus more????? I know that is why I am hopeful about getting banded... not because I will lose the weight fast... because I will lose it for good! (((hugs)))

Just thought I would start a thread for having a little fun! I know there are lot's of creative minds here... help me come up with ways to pass the time until my surgery! :cool: #1. Frequent all of the "skinny butt" clothing stores... ask for things in size 5 and for a dressing room.

Donali ... honestly... I love your wisdom! I remember my Grandma... with her soft but deep laugh... her wonderful wit... fantabulous cooking skills... and best of all... I still remember sitting with her and rocking in her chair... all snuggled up and comfy into her soft and warm cushy body. I think that is one of my comforting memories. My body is exactly like hers... but since I don't imagine I'll have grandchildren anytime soon... I think I'd like to work on becoming a skinny Grandma and I'll use flannel quilts for the soft... warm... cushy part.:cool: I totally agree with you... being fat builds character and I think we get to keep it even if the fat leaves! I can't believe it is 3:10 AM and I am posting...lol. I have all of my pre-op testing tomorrow and I have ta tell ya... I am HUNGRY and THIRSTY already!!!! LOL.... bless my husband for he will be spending the morning with a very hungry and thirsty woman that has not had her JAVA!!!!!!

You know Bright... I feel it's a parents role to support... love... teach... guide... and nurture. Your Father's choices and actions are completely his own... please don't take responsibility for his lack of parenting skills. It sounds like you are a wonderful person and well deserving of the happiness that life can bring! I love reading your posts and hope you spend lots of time here sharing your thoughts... and if you need to vent or get rid of frustrations... this is the post to do it in! :cool: A round of (((hugs))) for everyone! There's so many of you I'd like to meet... maybe someday! Darcy:D

Man DeLarla... I know just how that little boy felt... and I think it is important for people to realize that this is something that could be stopped. My daughter's school has a ZERO bully tolerance... unfortunately... it is not inforced. She did attend a school that had the teachers actively involved in stopping this type of behavior and it made a HUGE difference. If more schools... teachers... and parents would throw away this idea that this is "just the way kids are" and step in... this would not be a big issue. I remember thinking feeling so helpless... afraid to even go to the bathroom for fear that there would be someone in there that would corner me... I remember the class playing dodgeball and everyone throwing the ball as hard as they could at me... to this day I still feel bile in my throat just saying the word "dodgeball". I remember girls pretending to be my friend in order to sucker me into an embarassing situations in front of everyone... I remember a boy coming up in the middle of class and hitting me over the head with a book as hard as he could... IN THE MIDDLE OF FRICKING CLASS!!! THey found endless ways to destroy my spirit on a daily basis and not one person ever stepped in... I would have gladly put a gun to my head if I had had one. I think it is not wise to underestimate how serious this problem is and how deeply hurtful it is to be the child experiencing it. It would be my wish that everyone that reads this post will have a serious talk with their child about this subject...

Hiya... Welcome and wishing you the best on your journey to be banded! the total time from start to the surgery date I have scheduled will be 3 months BUT I would think that the process will be at least 3-4 weeks less for you since you are self-pay. I guess it depends on what your surgeon requires. Good luck with everthing and I think you made a very healthy choice when you opted for the band! :cool: Darcy

Yes Donali... you expressed beautifully exactly what I was thinking. :cool: I started to write a response and suddenly felt afraid that anything I would say would be taken the wrong way. I have no desire to start a flame war but... I really would love to have a place to express some of the built up emotions...hurts... without judgement. If this post in any way offends anyone... I ask that they look away and let us have a small little place in the world that we can fight back without hurting anybody. Oh... and if it is hurting anybody... sorry for that too... that is not the intent..

Hmmmm... does that mean laughter isn't the best medicine????

You Rock, Delarla :cool: I am absolutely positive that you had angels standing by to give you hope but I am also pretty darn certain it was your very own inner strength that brought you through!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA... Thanks DeLarla... that was my last pair of clean underwear.... hehehehehehe;)

DeLarla... I think you have turned into a fabulous woman! It never ceases to amaze me that children are left or returned to situations like yours... time and time again. I just don't understand the theory that a child BELONGS with their birth parent... for heavens sake... pregnancy cares not about the vessel it uses. I am in awe that you came through all of that and here you are with a wonderful spirit a big heart and a clever mind. Huge ((((hugs))))

OMIGOD Donali... I think I need depends because I almost piddled all over myslef when I read this!!!!!! LOLOLOLOLOLOL

Nooooooooooooooooooooooo wayyyyyyyyy will my nekked pics ever be posted...LOL ... well... maybe after a couple of bottles of wine... You know Vera... I guess I am lucky in a way... I doubt I will ever have to run into any of my tormentors since I live in a different state than the one in which I was raised. I do think that what goes around comes around so I really don't spend any time worrying about "getting back" at anyone. That still doesn't erase the hurt though... oh well... when I'm sporting a thong on the cover of Sports Illustrated... justice will be served! :cool: I can only imagine what that felt like to face the fella that hurt you so badly... sounds like he wasn't a terribly smart man, but definitely getting smarter about what it is like not to be in a perfect body! Me too Donali! I am always making myself the butt of jokes... *bonking us both on the head* We have got to stop that for sure!!!! Just this morning I was telling my hubby they should give me a pill to render me unconscious so that I can at least travel by plane... and then added... but then you would have to buy an appliance dolly to get me on! *bonking myself on the head again for good measure* Denise... Sounds like you have a wonderful hubby there! I'm so glad that you didn't have to go through too much teasing ... still... any teasing is just too much!

Yep... forgiving is great... it is also a very personal journey that doesn't necessarily include forgetting... all of the experiences in my life had helped to shape (no pun intended) the person that I am today. I have done a lot of forgiving in my life but that doesn't erase the memories or even the need to talk about them. Soooo... back to the whole point of this little post... I'll be needing those creative ways to pass the time until my surgery... Linda... Forgiveness and Mercy are covered... anybody else???

Thanks Denise... I just need a site to express thoughts that I generally keep to myself. While not everyone here has the same thoughts... many have the same challenges. I think counseling is an great option for many... just is not a helpful one for me. I'm all for the self-help option and that's what I'm doing here... helping myself and facing feelings and issues that I would generally keep under the covers. No worries... I am clear on the fact that the band is a tool and I do not look upon it as the cure-all. I am fat because I eat too much... I eat too much because I LOVE food... and I love food because it tastes good! This is a separate issue from my childhood experiences... I do appreciate your advice though! :cool:

I guess it comes down to this... we can't control what other people say or do. The chubby kids and the skinny kids made me their target and I was just not prepared or strong enough to fight it. I left Miss mousey behind many years ago and perhaps have even gone to far in the other direction. Just let somebody try and walk all over me now! The past... can't change any of it... the future... I can do something about that! THings I will try not to do anymore... I will try not to beat others to the punch and make fun of myself or put myself down... I will try to look others in the eye and hold my head up high... I will try and see myself as my hubby does as I really don't understand why he loves or wants me... I will not be invisible anymore... Finally... once this weight starts falling off... I will never... never... never let it find me again!!!!! Self Lecture over...

Hi Alexandra, Man... I will have to make sure I am always riding on a tight fill cause this girl LOVES her carbs! Hope you are back on the wagon soon and feeling perky on protein! Yay on the Harry Potter movie... we are going to see it tomorrow!