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Welcome Minda! This is an awesome site! I know that hanging here has made my lapband journey much easier and have met some wonderful people along the way. I hope you have had success with your band! Darcy

I am good for today... would never be able to jump on after having my AM Java! Weekends are easier for some reason so I should be able to behave until then!!! Come on Monday... Momma needs to fit into her old pants!

Yee Haw Lisa!!!! I can feel the "HOTTIE" vibes all the way in Wisconsin!!!! You Go Girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I couldn't agree with you more Chantal! I starved myself for approximately a year when I was 15 ... I got down to 105 lbs at 5'6" tall. Funny thing was... I didn't see myself as skinny... still saw the chubby girl in the mirror and have continued to see her that way for MANY years! After awhile... the not eating had control over me... just as the binging had control over me! I can't tell you how wonderful it is to be living in "happy" medium world with my band. I feel "normal" for the first time in years! Leatha thanks for the link! I went and downloaded forms and will sign up to participate in Neenah WI. Do you know what distance the walk usually is???? It's funny... I was just talking to my hubby about wanting to participate in the Fox Cities Marathon and then voila... you posted a link to a much more important event! Darcy

Okay... I can hear that darn scale calling to me!!!! *inserting earplugs* Darcy

Good Luck Penni!!!! Just think... Dr. Billy's hands are gonna be ALL over your body!!!!!! I know you are in good hands and your surgery will be behind you shortly... come back soon and sending wishes to you for a quick recovery! Darcy

Woo Hooooo RIca!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know what you mean about the scale! I joined a scale challenge here at LBT to try and keep myself off of the darn thing! You are doing a fantastic job with your band... congratulations!

This is totally unrelated to the band but I am hoping for wisdom... Prior to my current marriage, I was engaged to a poop head. I was totally in love with a man that was unable to love anyone other than himself. He was 19 years older than I and his credit history was a disaster. He was in the process of a divorce and the only way he would be able to keep his (our) home was to get a loan to pay off his ex-wife. Yup... I cosigned... idiot. I finally came to my senses one month prior to our wedding date and left the relationship. It was the hardest thing I had ever done in my life as I still loved him very much... idiot. I had to start all over again as all of my resources had been consumed by his need to live beyond our means. So... here I am... 3 years later... married to a wonderful and giving man and I am still co-signed on the ex's loan. The worst part is that I discovered it is also an open line of credit and he continues to borrow up to the max. I can't even get the bank to send me a damn statement even though I am held equally responsible. If he defaults I would be required to foot the bill and yet I have no rights to his property. I guess I am in hopes that someone will have suggestions of what I might be able to do about this. I am going up to the bank today to raise a fuss about the open credit line and hopefully put a stop to that. I wonder if I would have any legal recourse in this matter. If we had been married... the court would have assigned responsibility to one or the other. AM I stuck????? OY. Sometimes the past can really kick a person in the arse. My hubby has been very understanding about this but I feel horrible that my past decision causes him worry. *sigh* Darcy

Thanks Rica... but he would probably like that! Now if you were to nab his stash o hash... that might get him where it hurts! Hmmmm... I wonder if the police would like to know where he hides that????? Something to think about!

WHEW!!!! I am sooooooooooo glad ta see ya girly! I hope the discomfort eases soon... although the numbness and tingling in the legs worries me a tad... perhaps you can ease my mind and call the Doc with that one?????? Did I mention that I am a worry wart???? Hmmm... I think I did. THey pump you plum full of fluids in the hospital... try to keep drinking one sip at a time and those extra Fluid pounds will take a hike before you know it! Welcome to Bandland!!!! Darcy

Well ladies...it appears I am SOL...not to be confused with LOL. We called a law firm and explained the situation and the answer was not what I was hoping to hear... but... what I expected to hear. Bummer... looks like I am just going to have to hope he continues to make the payments. My only hope is knowing how much he loves his home and where he lives... he always puts his heart into inanimate objects. Once again... you guys are awesome and thank you so much for trying to help me out of an unfortunate situation. It looks like this is just one of those piles that sticks on your shoe no matter how many times you wash it. (((hugs)))) Darcy

Hmmmm... Bailey... I am worried too! DEBRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!! We are wondering how you are doing??????????????????????? Scooby Dooooo... Where are you????????????????????????????

Thanks Again Guys, I think that it is as I thought... a problem that can't be resolved even with legal representation. I do not think he wants a legal fight so a letter composed from a lawyer might scare him into getting his new girlfriend (assuming she is as blinded as I was) to cosign on a new loan for him. How sad that a man in his 50's can't even refinance a loan, with horribly high interest rates, in a day and age where banks are practically begging folks to re-finance. I guess I was hoping the band would get rid of this dead weight as well...lol. Thanks for the links Donali... doesn't look very promising does it???? Lesson learned... "If it smells like a skunk... it probably is one!" Darcy

Thanks Donali, I grieved for almost a year... but knew it was the best decision for my daughter and ultimately I knew for me as well. He, on the other hand, was dating before I could even get out of the house and in a serious relationship within 2 weeks after our break. I was totally destroyed and had zip faith in my ability to choose a partner. I emailed him this morning to ask about the status of the loan and once again... he still has yet to refinance. I told him the next contact would be from our lawyer (we don't have one). I guess I would like to know if we even have a leg to stand on prior to spending a small fortune on legal advice. *double sigh* I was hoping it wouldn't come to this... hoping he would do the right thing for once in his life. Gawd... I can't believe that I didn't have him put me on the deed when I co-signed... guess love is blind! Thanks for the hugs... for some reason this is all crashing in on me today and I am a basket case. Darcy

IHi WhippleDaddy, I was once in the same place as you are now. My sister had the RNY and was very happy with the results but I was still not sold on it. I ultimately chose the band because.... 1. My gastrointestinal system would remain intact. 2. THere would be no malabsorption or any of the future worries that go along with that. 3. THere was less risk for post-operative complications. 4. The recovery time was shorter. (It took my sister 6 weeks to feel human... I was up working on our cabin after 2 wks) 5. THere is really now "window of opportunity" with the band... it is adjustable to your weight-loss needs over time. 6. It is reversible and removable. 7. The weight-loss is slower... hopefully giving my mind and my skin the chance adjust to the change. 8. My husband and daughter were supportive of the banding due to the decreased risks involved and I was unwilling to chance the comlications that can accompany the RNY. Those were my reasons... hope that is helpful for you. I was just banded June 30th and so far so good! Good luck with whichever path you choose! Darcy

Debra, I just wanted to wish you well at you travel to bandland today!!!! Sending wishes and prayers for an uneventful surgery and a speedy recovery!!!!!!! Please come and update us when you are feeling up to it. We may not be band twins ... but definitely band siblings! (((((hugs))))) Darcy:banana

YUp...he's a cutie... although I'm sure he is even cuter when you add a personality to his face. (place smiley here as they won't work for me tonight for some reason???) Thanks for the visual Penni! Darcy

Debra?????????????? Don't make me worry about ya! Come on in here and let us know how you are doing??????????? Darcy aka Worry Wart

Hi Denise... So sorry for your troubles! I'm glad to hear that you are feeling better since your unfill and hopefully you'll be able to find a happy medium between a fill that is too tight or not tight enough. Wishing you and your hubby better times ahead. Darcy

Okay... I shall call mine "Les Orpeebee"

Okay... I did pee!!! Dang it you guys... now I am going to have to do laundry so that I can put on clean underwear!!!! Grossly soaked Darcy

Debra... Sending healing vibes to you this morning... you are in bandland... YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Welcome Sista! ((((hugs)))) Darcy

Oh man... do I ever need this challenge!!! I can't stay off of the darn thing!!!! I weighed in yesterday at 239.4. Maybe I should have my hubby hide ye scale from me? A part of me is afraid that if I don't weigh every day the pounds will silently creep up when I am not looking! I'll try to stay off until Monday! Darcy

I'm on the UP portion of the rollar coaster right now so I just LOVE everyone... I love you guys!!!! Can you imagine if I had a drink while being this happy/lovey dovey???? Holy Crap... Did I mention... I really love you guys!!!!!!!!!! Remind me of this next week when I'm blubbering and hating the world okay????? I have to go kill a carrot now but I promise to knock it out first!!!! Teresa... now worries... I love ya! Okay... I think my Zoloft dosage is way to high...hehehehehehe. Darcy

Thanks Penni! It is VERY noticable when Miss Lisa is absent and I hope she is back soon! YAY on the appointment as well!!! I have an appointment on August 13th for my first fill. (Friday the 13th). WOOOOOOOO.... Get that puter fixed soon Miss DeLarla!!!!! Miss Ya Darcy