Marybell

this made sense to me in a way that nothing anyone else has said did. thank you for responding to my rant. Food has always been my friend and has always been the circle of events, ie birthday parties and anniversary ect. I do look at food differently and i wonder why i eat as much as i do. I have other OCD issues. and i believe food is a major one. My sister in law had surgery and ended up getting the band removed due to chocking so often. she would get a fill and go back a day later and ask for it to be taken out becuz she couldnt eat anything even Water she would gag on. she is a debbie downer in my corner i think sometimes. i know everyones situations are different and i dont expect this to be a cookie-cutter experience. i am defiently indifferent about having surgery. but i am most certain i am tired of being over weight. im at my biggest and everytime i go back to the doctor ive gained more. lastly i was 324. and im 5'1. puting my bmi at 61. i have no other corrids. but my A1C is rising. i find myself latherigic at times needing to eat or drink something to regain my energy when i try to diet. the liquid diet is why i suggest to myself i try the liquid diet. to get myself on the track now and not wait until i have a band inside of me tlling me i have to, by then it would be 2nd nature to me. to drink or to eat little. im already praticing eating slowly and taking many many bites. putting my fork down inbetween and drinking little. while i eat. i dont think i am completely niave to the thought of surgery and losing weight but i do think i am grossly un prepared for the feelings to come.

I have Blue Cross Blue Shield of Anthem. My deductible is 400. my max out of pocket is 3750. equals 4150. i havent even got to see the doctor yet, this is what the insurance sent me after i inquired about the cost. This doesnt include my 50 dollar co pay every time i see someone other then my primary.

I found out today my out of pocket cost for surgery. I could cry. $4150.00 is my portion. we run off of a single income for 4 people. im a stay at home mom , i take care of my sick infant, and a 3yr old. me working is very hard with my husbands schedule. our tax money is usually saved for the whole year and used to pay off bills we made thru out the previous year. ie furniture bills ect. if we did it on the FSA card for the 1st of the year it would 190 a paycheck every which way i have tried to figure the numbers we just cant afford it. sigh, id sell a kidney for this surgery id sell body parts!!! id sell anything to make it. my husband just keeps reassuring me we will find a way but i dont see any light from this news at all.

im still months from out im sure havent even got to see a surgreon yet, is this something i could do to start losing weight ? or to train my stomach/mind that this is it ?

why is it required to do the liquid diet before surgery?

georgous!!! good job hun

im excited to read about your progress , i am pre op still and waiting for approval i hope i am as lucky to get it

is it true, no drinking a hour before your meal and no drinking during your meal and possibly 30mins after a meal? How do u NOT become dehydrated? my boss had lapband and got dehydrated in the hospital for a day getting fluids and monitered. she ended up having her band removed due to a ulcer

Sorry to piggy back your post i am pre op still and going thru the processes, are you supposed to take like nibbles of your food and then swallow and then wait and do it again? does that prevent the problem?

Hey all, im Mary from south georgia! im 27, a mom of 2 girls. married for 2years. and im 324 lbs with a bmi of 61! im so fed up with this life of mine. Im ready to do something different. my mom died in her early fifties and so did her mom. her sister died in there 40's. I was 20 when my mom died. i do not want to put my girls in the same sadness i was with her. I have see my pcp and he is referring me to a surgeon, i have bcbs of anthem ppo. so technically i could find my own surgeon but i dont know ppl like that so ill trust him to find me one. Oh did i mention im only 5'1!!! ive been big since i can remember, never been a small girl. I don't have any contributing factors like high bp or diabetes, no sleep apena, none of it, just big ol me! he said he believes with all of the tests and such i should be done with surgery in about 10 weeks. which puts me around november. How he pulled such a number out of is behind is beyond me. but im satisifed with that. It will give me enough time to process this major life change. i enjoy reading everyones posts and hope to find ppl who are similiar to me in size and such and age. i am nervous about the life after surgery. the doctor said id be pretty limited to 4oz of food if not less once i am on mushu or solids. i put a 1/2 measuring cup on my counter everyday and i just look at it. its scary. i go in for my 2nd plate of dinner and i just sigh and think " i reallllly love food" its my comfort and my addiction. what on earth do you do when u r hungry to keep urself from eating and making urself sick?

yah! he is in jacksonville and is a nurse. he jogs ,runs , paddleboards, skateboards,bikes, and all kinds of fitness he never did before its pretty awesome. im jealous of his endurance for sure.

Hi theresa! thanks for the welcome. i was shocked when he said i was 324. when i was in middle school i said id never be 200lbs...when i was a midteen age i said id never be 250. as a adult i said id never be 300. after the birth of my 2nd child in late april i had broke the 300...on my postpartum apt i was 286 but when we were still dealing with allergist and formula changes and hospital stays i lost track of caring about me and more about getting my baby girl healthy. ( she wouldnt poop and it was backing up inside ) now she is 4months and healthy healthy and moving around and just showing her true personality. my 3yr old is kinda in her own lil world phase where mommy doesnt have to be up her hind 24/7. I want to change befor my girls can remember me like this. I dont want them remembering there mom being the fat mom at school conference and such. i get tired quickly too. i dont mind walking the neighborhood with the girls but in the south ga its humid and yucky! when my size 28 pants didnt fit anymore, i was so sad to have to look online for size 30, ive never been past a size 28. and i never ever seen a size 30 befor in the store like lane bryant. and i hate stretchy pants they are like a bitslap in the face to me "you are to fat to zip a zipper, have a stretchy waist band" sigh. please oh please let his behind be right and 10 weeks ( mid november ) comes fast! thanks for listening

thanks! my oldest brother did the surgery in nov of last year and has lost almost 100lbs. he is such a different person on the outside. he still has issues choaking on things. and i never see him eat personally ( we live in different states ) but when i do see him he usually has a kid in his arms and is taking small bites here and there. its def a lifestyle im curious to do. i dont have much choice. when i asked my doctor what my BMI meant. he put down his pen and said simply "60% of your body is fat. not good. for anyone. including a 5'1 27 old like yourself " i felt like crawling inside of myself and dying. i find allot of relief reading the posts from others from pre and op surgery. the feeling of losing 200lbs is actually laughable to me. but reading everyones posts and blogs it seems not to far away. thanks for the welcome.