chelseyrion

Thank you! All went well, aside from my dr trying to get me to vote for Romney lol. Tonight I ate 1/4 cup of home made Refried beans. Feeling MUCH better with a little food in my tummy!

So I had surgery last wed and really did not tell anyone but my brother(babysitter? And my fiancé. My mother is an OR nurse and although it would have been great to have her there to advocate for me, I didn't feel I could handle the negativity she would for sure be throwing my way. So I made the choice not to tell her. To put it in perspective, when I had my twins at 28 she verbally and emotionally abused me so badly while I was in the hospital recovering from my emergency c-section and my premature babies were fighting for their lives in the Nicu, that I was forced to cut off all ties with her. Slowly in the past year we have begun to rebuild our relationship and although I forgive her, I most def have not forgotten. So... I told her abt surgery last Friday and she now refuses to speak to me. I feel guilty for not telling her but do I really have to? I made this choice for me and I didn't feel I had to include everyone in on my personal medical decisions. I'm feeling very hurt by her. I've asked her to check my incisions and she refuses. If I were a stranger on the street she would not hesitate to help, but as her daughter I'm treated like dirt. Advice? Anyone?

Thanks for the advice all...you are all right.logically I know i need to focus on my recovery, but emotionally I want my mommy. I guess no matter how grown we are we still crave that safe place. My mother is for the most part a good person but she is also a very selfish self absorbed and self serving woman. I guess I've just hit an emotional low. I trust my surgeon and his abilities, i guess it would just be nice to know she cares. I have spent my entire life trying to please both of my parents only to be abused and abandoned by both of them. I finally gave up on my father last year, I guess I might be doing the same with dear old mom.

I wax also banded on the 17th. So far I've had 1/4 cup of jello, a cup of beef broth, a few sips of a protein shake and water. I as well have no appetite. I wouldn't worry too much from what I've read/heard its normal. Plus it's much easier to do a liquid diet when ur not hungry

Ugh no poop yet but I'm dreading it. The first poop after my c-section was 3 hours of crying, pushing and frustration. I'm really hoping I won't be going thru that again!

And I'm in pain! Back pain has become bearable but the pain at the port site is unbearable. Feels like I'm being stabbed in the chest when I breathe in. Pain meds are not working that well. Any suggestions?

I was also banded on the 17th. Sipping water and beef broth. I also am not hungry but I'm going to try some tomato soup. Just sip as much as u can. We should feel much better by Monday

Thanks all! I have managed to get broth down so I'm going to attempt tomato soup. Wish me luck lol

Ok three days out and I'm feeling MUCH better. Cutting down on the pain meds and actually drank a half cup of broth and two tbsp of jello. Hoping to feel good enough for the last farmers market of the year on Sunday

Yes-finally. Been trying to get the air out all day!

I've also started taking arnica pills which have helped with the pain greatly. Now working out the gas pain. My belly feels so full now I understand the whole gas pain thing!

Thanks Maddy! The PA told me its ok to alternate hot and cold on the incision. Just try to keep it dry...

Thanks guys....I've added Motrin for pain which is helping. Alternating hot and cold packs and was able to get two tablespoons of jello down. Hopefully tomorrow will be easier.

Ugh...hearing pad over port site is the only relief im getting. Walking all night and it really did nothing for the pain. I had a c section a couple years ago and I was far more comfortable then than I am now. Thanks for the encouragement! I'm hanging in there!

Surgery tomorrow! Excited, nervous, scared. Doubting myself and my decision. Words of advice please!

I am on day 4. Can u say super hard? It does get easier everyday, especially after getting on the scale and seeing I have lost 5lbs in 4 days. Soy protein shakes, sugar free pudding/Popsicles/custard, LOTS of tomato soup, water and crystal light. Hardest times for me are when I have to cook for the kids. I'm a good cook, I don't use recipes. Cooking without tasting just seems wrong at times.

Protein shakes are making me super gassy.....I can hardly stand to be around myself. Anyone else have this problem?

Congrats to all! Yes I do have a 10 day liquid diet. I think that is going to be the hardest part for me. I have 2 year old twins, and i am the only person who cooks in my household. I'm going to have to give the hubby a crash course on cooking!

So after one of the most difficult weeks of my life I got my date today! Oct 17! Super excited to start this next phase of my journey. For the first time in a long time I have hope for a healthier, happier life!

Just got my date today! Oct 17!

I have it... After going to the center here for some testing I was approved within three days of submitting. Should be pretty easy. All they require is a BMI of 40+, a mental eval, and medical records. I don't even have the 6 month waiting period. Seeing the surgeon on ties to schedule. Call them and ask what your coverage is.

I'm in the exact same boat. My mother is an RN with a masters in public health. She is also a naturalist and a size 4. I am currently a size 22 and at my smallest was a 13. For my mother food is sustinence, for me it is an addiction. I have tried to have these conversations with her my entire life and I have finally come to the conclusion that there is no point. At 30 I know myself very well. I know that I cannot do this alone. My mother will never understand. She is my mother and she loves me but her path is very different than mine. I have chosen to not tell my mother until after my surgery. I applaud you for being open and honest with your mother. Hopefully she will come around and support you thru this next phase of ur life, but of she doesn't keep in mind that you are responsible for your life. You know yourself and you know what the right path is for you to take.

Am starting my lapband journey and VERY excited about it. I have been overweight for over twenty years and at 30 I feel like I'm slowly dying. I have come to the realization that this is bigger than me and I need help, hence the lapband surgery. I had an emergency c-section two years ago to deliver my twins, and literally had NO support other than my fiancé. It was extremely hard and I suffered from depression and mild PTSD post surgery. I'm scared about the surgery and how to manage after considering my support circle is VERY small. My mother is a public Healy nurse, herbalist, and diet guru but she's also a very mean and judgmental woman and I feel I cannot be truthful with her about surgery. I know she could be a great source of support for me but I don't know if I can handle the judgement and condemnation that comes with her being involved. Any advice?