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ME TOO!

I'm going through this and feeling the same way exactly so I haven't been coming to the forums as much anymore. It's an awful feeling seeing so many people drop weight on and on and I have been stuck for maybe 4 months now sigh

this is exactly how i feel today.. surgery was 10/23. just feels bad.

Oct 23rd here - going through my 2nd.. or 3rd stall? frustrated. I lost exactly 30 lbs and the scale isn't moving. I feel like I look the same and trying not to let old thoughts creep in and demoralize my good intentions. Maybe I will try the measurements thing idk guys

Hi everyone - New Yorker here, 26 f, getting sleeved tomorrow - 10/23/12!! Will be checking surgery time after 5 pm today. So many thoughts, nervousness, excitement, hope, fear. Right now I'm just drained from fasting today.. I wonder how I will feel this time tomorrow..

I told my mom, dad, and little brother. Very tight knit supportive family, and I don't even live with them. I'm one of those "tell no one" people. I just felt I owed it to them, seeing that they gave me life with all healthy organs. If anything were to happen, I didn't want them blindsided. That said, I don't think anything's going to happen, I've told no one out side of them, not even my best friend who I tell everything to. I don't plan on sharing any news with anyone. I could not care less about observations of eating too little either. Whatever, I'll just order soup on certain outings. It's a theory. All that commentary is for the birds lol. If you want to keep it private, do so. There are a lot of very supportive people out there but more than anything, some of us aren't into group discussions about your life choices, foreign country "hack jobs" and so forth. Vacation it is!

In re: YOLO not gunna lie I lol'd

I second this I can't wait either!

Girl what? 44 lbs in SIX weeks? Holy cow!! You look so good.. this surgery man.. what in the world

hey girl

really?? Interesting! what insurance do you have? I was completely shut down and told that he and his office do not accept insurance and that it was a cash only practice!

lol wow. well she loves you and is really frightened. That said, you need to take care of you so you CAN live a long life with you 2 kids. You aren't going to a back alley to receive a hatchet job for goodness sakes

Hey everyone All those who are going the plication route: we are the new breed huh haha I'm a NY gal who decided to do the band plication (lap band + plication). Since its so new there are so few resources online in comparison to all the other procedures I figured I'd cut the lurking out and try to add to the body of knowledge for the next wave of fingernail nubbing rabid researchers out there who plan to do this too fwiw I come fresh with worry and fears and the whole lot. 1 - Outside of the woman who birthed me, God bless her (love you mom) I'm not telling anyone about the procedure in my regular life. Now if I join my potential new doctor's support group then its alright + my online community .. I just. I'm not going to say a word. I wonder if anyone out there has done this and how did that work out 2 - So one of the pre-op testing is the Psych eval. I have no idea what to expect. I know it sounds silly but I'm afraid to say too much (like sound way too ready to do this, yesterday being too soon) or sound so needy that they say "how about no". Thank you college psych classes which have you thinking every things wrong with you. Couple that to I've spent so much time allowing the bubbly positive and sometimes plastic smile hide the pain that comes with being so overweight and feeling like a stranger in your own body 3 - Late last night I stumbled upon a NY Times article about a teen who had weight loss surgery but struggled with the rules afterwards. I understand the concern about a young person not being mentally prepared for a surgery like that but the vitriol against the weight loss surgery community and people who struggle with weight hit me hard core. I have never seen such hate and disgust.. like people think that much less of you and don't say it to your face It made me feel really bad and took my desire to keep the surgery to myself due to being very private and not wanting to spark endless group conversations to Christ I hope no one finds me out - time to research incredible skin care for tell tale signs. the emotional tsunami of it all is just how much starting this process of pursuing a surgery for weight loss shoves your issues to the forefront. I guess logically I knew that but I didn't see it coming if that makes any sense.. Just a little stunned by it.. and I know this is the part where I only just see the tide coming in I'm still in the very beginning stages of choosing and talking to surgeons and making sure my insurance will cover this OH boy.. lol hope you guys don't mind my intro turning into a personal blog post I look forward to getting to know you x

*hugs* not easy but I do think the timing is beautiful. The season with him in it came and went. This journey is a deeply personal one in which your faith is going to bring you through. A new season will come bringing the right person with it Right now this is your time. Get to know you, on your own, and keep building that mindset. Mokee is right- You do have us, and you'll be pleasantly about how rich an experience something like this can turn out to be - hurtful start and all. Also- here's a favorite video of mine on the beauty of being alone vs lonely.

I know just how you feel - kind of dealing with those thoughts as well. A guy who went through it as well would be really great. We're different though in that I only told my mom and thats gonna be the end of that. For a normal person though (lol) I would say whether its weight loss surgery, or some things about the past, or what have you, everyone has there "stuff", you know? And thats typically the risk right? Just really hoping someone we care about accepts us. I really do wish you the best of luck because the worry really sucks and finding love is hard enough as it is. Just hang in there, temper your expectations, and go with the flow. Awesome vibrant people who learn to love themselves end up attracting the like anyway!

@ Mr_Worm ha ha thats pretty awesome

20 something NY girl here as well Personally I wouldn't volunteer sleeve information to new guys in such early stages. Give it some time, check out their character and all that and when you're comfortable, you mention it. Young guys, at least a whole lot of them can be critical about things they don't understand particularly with someone they don't know that well yet. I guess all people can be that way. Point is, its your journey, your body, pace yourself and when you're ready, go ahead and share your story Major point to note though - a guy who isn't open minded about your journey probably isn't going to be an ideal match. Really and truly. You want to be able to be yourself with the person you're with! Cliche concept but SO true!

sorry to hear that fattophat :-/ thats exactly what I don't want. *sigh* I don't think I'll change my mind about keeping this private either..

ha, for me try more like 140 lbs give or take haha. I wonder if having the band along with my plication will significantly provide for restriction. Anyway let us know what happens with you see Dr. Ortiz! hope you have good things coming!

if this isn't one of the sweetest things I ever heard. I'm serious.. aww! :) <3 <3 <3 "I am the most fortunate person in the world in that my Husband is so supportive. He has been doing the pre-op diet in the evenings with me so I am not so alone in my endeavor. im so glad you have this kind of support. anyhow I use sparkpeople.com - I really love that site and their android app is super convenient. However you're keeping an eye on your intake though and being mindful is great. In other news, that salad reads delicious.. hmm show might not be too shabby of an idea! You can even shoestring it at first and hit Youtube with it. Something to think about

I'm so glad you're keeping a blog So you lost 41 lbs in 4 weeks? whhaat?? Congrats girl, geez! Sorry to hear about the tummy burn though.. How are you getting your protein in while still dealing with a sensitive stomach? Mostly drinks? last question (haha) what does your restriction feel like right now.. how much can you get down food wise before you start to feel full? thanks a lot and keep up the great work!

Holy cow! Well first off, congrats on losing the 30 lbs - thats something! Thanks for sharing your experience so vividly though. I'm pre-op and this better helps me understand what can happen especially then you said before the surgery you could eat 3 slices, and now you can eat 2.. and wait for 1 more. Thats not the kind of restriction I had in mind when I thought of the plication Did you contact your doc at all about the restriction or lack thereof? What were you told?

hey! I think that its awesome that you have a support system like that in place. I think ideally, this is best if you have it. For me though its a couple of factors plus how much I relish my privacy. Thanks for the well wishes GiGi!!