mommymary81

I am a very loving daughter, wife and mother. I am a full time 3rd shift customer service rep for a cable provider in the area.

I lost my mother who was also my best friend on February 2, 2002 after a very short fight to cancer but a long fight of several other health problems all related to obesity. My father thankfully is still here with me and he is my rock. I couldn’t have asked for better parents then the ones that God blessed me with.

I have been with my husband Jason for over 10 years, married for 7 years now. He is a very loving and caring man and will go out of his way to make me happy, but he doesn’t understand the gravity of the situation I am in with my weight and health issues.

Between us we have 6 kids. My two step children are Ashley age 19, and Michael age 13. I have a son of my own Bryson also 13, and together we have Jonathan age 4, Zane age 1 and 1/2, and Allyson age 7 months.

I was banded back in January 2009 by Dr. Olsofka at 318 lbs and lost around 80 lbs before I became pregnant. At which point my doctor removed the fluid from my band to prevent pregnancy complications and unfortunately I gained almost all of my weight back by the time I had Zane in January 2011.

At that point with 5 kids between my husband and I especially with 3 of them my own (even though I wanted a girl of my own so bad) we were done having kids. However we did not do anything to permanently assure we couldn’t have anymore but we did take precautions which were supposed to have been 99.9% effective for up to 10 years. About a month or so after I delivered Zane I had fluid placed back in my band and I lost about 30 lbs again before I ended up getting pregnant again in April. I believe wholeheartedly that my mother had something to do with that because we were that 0.01% the birth control failed on, it just so happened that the date of conception was my mother's birthday, and it was finally my baby girl I had been wanting.

So unfortunately again, my doctor again removed the fluid from my band, and again, I gained all of my weight back. I had my daughter Allyson on Christmas Eve of 2011. After which my husband and I both made permanently sure we arent having anymore kids. LOL

I have had 2 fills in my band since having Allyson but I am struggling so badly to follow the very simple lap band rules and get back on the weight loss track. While I havent gained any weight, I havent lost any either. So I stumbled across this forum and decided to try it out and hopefully get some advice and support to help me take back my health and life for not only myself but my father, husband and all of my kids.