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Wait, there are health benefits to beer? Heh heh. I have a function at about 8 weeks and my doc said stay away from the champs but a little wine is ok to try....but see how it feels because it might irrite my new stomach. White and red both have about five carbs for a six ounce glass so they aren't terrible for you (unless we are talking fortified wines or ice wine). But the carbonation in champs (as well as beer) is likely going to hurt.

Passed my psyc today . All clear for my 23rd date and hopefully I'll do as well as slenderella! I start my preop diet on the 9th in disney lol. At least it's an easy one, less than 40 carbs a day is all.....I wonder if I could just save those for wine .

Hey ma fierce...same day as me Mamma Mel....I have a six year old who needs me so I know what you are going through. I'm going to write him a letter just in case and I know he will be ok . As long as you are smart and follow directions you will be home for your darling! I'll be anxiously looking forward to hearing that you are ok Duluth huh? I almost ended up there. We were going to buy a house called French house (you know it?). I loved that house but the owner was nuts on the price . We could have been neighbors!

Wow, your age changes my answer a bit. Do you have a decent relationship with your father or grandparents? I personally would not go under life threatening surgery without telling the people I love, just in case (and people do die from this). I was not close to my father so I never would have told him, but I'd be heartbroken for my mother if I kept the surgery date from her and didn't make it.....just food for thought . I wish you the best!

OMG I'm so excited. Aug 23rd is my day . Yeeeeee hawwwwwwww. What kind of freak looks forward to surgery lol. MEEEEEEEE

I think you hit the key issue when you said you are possessive about food. That's one of the reasons some of us got here and it's important to get over which MIT mean some counseling. I "hear" in your words resentment that he can eat crap that you can't. If its not a money issue than you need to take a step back here and deal with the real issue.

I live in a four story Victorian and was wondering if stairs are difficult right after surgery? If they are, how long does that last (do I need to make a bedroom on the first floor for a week?). All I can relate this to is my c section where stairs were a challenge but I didn't go home for two weeks after it so I didn't have too much trouble.

Yes she can. But only for the right reasons dear. Her goal is to ensure you are doing this for the right reasons and are ready to commit. Be honest, be forthright and be yourself. Youll likely be fine.

Totally a numbers thing here. I recently lost 30lbs and then it came back (dang crap sneaks up on ya). I hit 191 and said NO WAY! I'm not hitting 200 at 50 years old. I don't want to have the comorbidity issues that get the surgery paid for. And part was my stage in life. Ds had been terribly I'll for years and is now generally well. Dh has a crazy busy business which is successful bit time consuming. I decided its "me time".

I was going to add...I'm a fairly private person. I wouldn't tell anyone except the above mentioned people if I was having a tummy tuck, boob job or cheek implants so to me this is no different. My medical history is between me and the doc and even close friends don't need to know it. That's just how I roll .

Only my mom and husband know. I told mom because if there was a complication and I didn't make it I wouldn't want to have kept her in the dark. My sn knows I have an owwie in my tummy (he's six) and then I also told his nanny because I'll need her extra help. Aside from that I am not telling anyone. My line in response to "you look great what are you doing?" is going to be "a strict liquid diet and HARD work) which isn't a lie .

Total side conversation, but I want to vent and still be a good hostess so I'm venting to you all lol We have twelve houseguests who have been here since Wednesday. Six I know well and six are new (business retreat). I always get stuck taking the spouses on a tour, shopping, whatever so on thurs I arranged a beach walk to a glass beach. Everyone understood we would leave at a certain time. So come that time one does not show up (the trip was not mandatory, and only those who wanted to go said yes). We waited half an hour then went looking for her and finally an hour later just left her a note with phone numbers and a "sorry we didn't see you" thing. Great trip (6 mile beach walk lol...great exercise) and everyone went to get ready for the scheduled dinner reservation. We kind of wondered what she would say but we get to the restaurant and she didn't show...well at least not on time, she was two and a half hours late! But she said nothing! No apology for that late thing, nothing about holding us up on the beach walk, nothing! How freaking rude! And we are supposed to have dinner with her tonight.....grrrrr. I told dh I was going to be two hours late lol. Ok I won't, but sheesh....she is so freaking rude! Who does that crap and feels ok with themselves. Eyes rolling....ok I feel better now . I think I'll go poison her lunch......

I'm on floor three lol but I can come in the back on floor two instead of taking all of the front stairs. Fortunately I have laundry on each floor (but on top of that my mom is going to do it for the first few weeks) so that won't be a problem either. Good to hear about the csection comparison. Oddly enough I didn't think that was half as bad as my broken wrist surgery (many nerves were cut through do it) so this shouldn't be too bad . Hopefully lol. I do have lots of (too many....we bought an old b& bathrooms so I won't have to go up and down stairs all day long. And being a floor away from the carbtion....ummmm I mean kitchen, should be a good thing!

Every state has different laws in regards to coverage, then on top of that every employer can vary. I have bcbs and it will not cover my surgery because I don't have any comorbidity issues and my bmi is 36. Next year our plan will cover a bmi over 35 without comorbidity issues because we will change our rider to do so (we own the company). But we would still expect a five year history, psyc, etc. in our state we can't reduce the policy for dependents (which is rediculous) nor require a certain period of employment for specific benefits. That's kind of bizzare IMO but you are the Rick perry state .

Carla, I have had a cancer scare once many years ago and I probably have a tiny inkling of what you are going through. It's scary. . I hope that like me, it's just a scare, but if not, as others have said, catching it early would be a blessing in disguise. My thoughts are with you dear. Take care of Carla! Btw..... I'm Dawn I'm 49 now and didn't want to turn 50 overweight! Let's see, what else? Oh 190/185/110 the mortal fear of leaving onederland brought me to the sleeve Washington/Alaska I'm happily married with one adorable six year old boy. I gained the majority of my weight during the last six years while in and out of hospital with him (he has a rare blood disorder which he will grow out of) and while trying to have another child via ivf. We lost seven angels in the process and I gained 50lbs . Somehow that's not fair lol. we are restoring a nationally registered property and managing that and the kiddo is my full time job.

Oh dear....I live in a Victorian home with no recliners lol. Am I going to need to find an antique lazy boy?

I'm glad you didn't take my comments badly. I guess the "I pushed it" post pushed my buttons and I may have misunderstood your question because of that. "pushing it" is like playing russian roulette. I would hate to see you do that. My after plan is five weeks of liquids with one week clear then on to more solid, then wet purée etc. my doc is very conservative because he says that most problems happen with people who push their healing too hard. You might feel good on the outside but since your stomach was literally cut off, you aren't healed enough to play games with your body. I had the unfortunate experience of shattering a bone in my wrist a few years ago. Two weeks out my wound was obviously not fully healed (not the bone, but just the cut skin). Maybe it was good practice for this . I know at two weeks you can open a wound that is very well stapled and sewn (I didn't, but I know it's condition then) so anytime I read about someone pushing their early program it kind of peeves me off on behalf of their loved ones. But since that isn't your goal . How are you feeling two weeks out?

Why are you not calling your doctors office with this question? Every doc has a different protocol and you need to follow the protocol your doctor has developed for you. Asking here and getting the "I broke the rules and didn't stay on liquids as long as I was supposed to" could endanger your life. People DIE from breaking those rules. Call your dr or nut so you don't end up one of those people.

Don't cheat! This is a life or death kind of thing. Its the difference between the doctor stapling a piece of leather....or a sponge! Sponges leak! And if you do cheat, stick to straight Protein. No carbs!!!!!!!! Our doc does an Atkins indication verses a liquid diet pre op (which I think is easier than liquid). Th.e carbs will kill ya, but a taste of a very nice piece of crab or steak could satisfy even if it isn't on your program...but probably won't effect your surgery as much. . Best not to do it at all but when tempted...think meat!

You know, there are two ways to look at life...both are ok if you use your experiences the right way (as a motivator, not a crutch). So if you ask me, I got fat because I'm lazy and find fast food easier to "prepare" than good food . I haven't used food as a replacement, in fact I was quite the opposite most of my life. My father was horrific and if you ask my sister she would say she turned to food to cope. I did quite the opposite and was always slim, not obsessive, but appearance was important to me. Sort of my way to say to him that the things he said about us were wrong. It wasn't til I was married and happy that I gained weight. Lost weight after that divorce and then married and got happy (and gained) but not much. It wasn't until I accidentally (was told I couldn't) got pregnant with my lovely little boy that I gained weight significantly. He was born with a rare blood condition that wasn't diagnosed until he was nearly three. We spent two years of hospital nights all over the country trying to figure out what his issue was. During that time I ate very few Vegis and lots of carbs (because in hospitals they're not so big on healthy food oddly enough). Never lost the pregnncy weight and gained another 30 lbs or so during those years When he was diagnosed I then went into ivf for child number two, who we didn't end up having, but I did gain five lbs or so while on hormone therapy for each child I lost. 35 more lbs.....I didn't gain a baby, just some hefty baby weight! So unfair lol. While losing Those babies was sad, i didnt eat out of depression or anything, i just continued to enjoy carbs...theyre an addiction ya know.....and Anyhow, I said at 49 that the extra 80lbs just isn't going to hang around! I don't want to be the fat mommy on the playground and as such, I'm getting sleeved in August. I'm happy, and plan on staying that way for many years and apparently happy and busy for me translate to Mac and cheese lol. I'm a lazy cook and want the sleeve to be my tool to get to a good place physically . It's about time for me to focus on me for a change. . So I can get happier...and skinnier lol

Ya know, when the "petite" (5 footers lol) girls are ready I will pass over some nice not your daughters jeans I just received yesterday. I had to buy them so I have stuff to wear at a conference and Disney in a couple of weeks, but then I get sleeved and likely won't wear them out . They're far too nice not to pass to a friend!

I have trouble with that . This is your journey, not his.....maybe it's just me.

I'm sorry...what on earth was that bad?!?