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Oh god, my worst nightmare. How long ago were you sleeved, what did you eat?

I know, they won't be able to submit mine until the end of October early Nov. I know that it's not that far away, on the other hand, it feels like AGES away. Why do we do this to ourselves. I think about it at least every 5 minutes or so.

That's awesome. Was it dinner? Did you tell him about the surgery? I know people say to order an appetizer and no one will notice how little you are eating, but if we can only eat a couple of spoonfuls of Soup or something, surely they will notice.

Well, I just tried googling it but no site for post WLS dating. There are sites for overweight people, but that's not what we are looking for. Hmm, I bet we could find someone to create one. Everyone put their heads together STAT. There were lots of posted subjects about dating after surgery. I thought this was an interesting article. http://www.wlslifestyles.com/cached/_downloads/1790/Getting%20Out%20There%20-%20Dating%20Following%20Weight%20Loss%20Surgery.pdf

please let us know how it goes! :wub:

THat sounds awful. Is it something that you swallow or do you have to spit into a napkin or do you have to go to the bathroom?

Just had another breaking point....read a minute ago that MIchael Clarke Duncan died. He was 6'5 and weighed 300 pounds. Wait a minute, I WEIGH 300 POUNDS at 5'5. May he RIP but he was a big guy with big muscles. Also, I was at my friends house and I picked up her bikini top as a joke and put it around my thigh and it wouldn't touch.... I probably did what we ALL do. Laughed and made a joke. Does this even need further discussion?

Well how did you do?

All of the problems sound so scary. Does anyone regret surgery? I just don't if I could live life like that. Of course my quality of life right now is pretty crappy too.

I know to expect throwing up, is that a temporary thing, or is that just to be expected forever? Also, what are slimes, sounds alien like.

I'm confused. Some of you say you're constipated, but then you say to never trust a fart which makes me think you have the opposite problem. So basically there is just bowel problems in general... great... looking forward to all of these side effects. Blah but I'm guessing it's all worth it right?

Follow up with the program's psych today. He thinks I'm on too many medications and that I'm too depressed for surgery. He, the psychologist is questioning my psychiatrist? Uh, who's the medical doctor here? According to his psychological tests I'm off the charts in depression. His "tests" say that I am passive dependent (wth?), gives up easily, oppositional, pessimistic and a poor candidate for surgery at this time as compared to other bariatric patients. Boy I sound like a real winner, who here wants to be my friend now? (oops that's sarcasm and pessimism) So my first reaction was to cry, then scream and tell him what to do with his tests, but I thought he would probably make note of that. It took everything I had, but I sat there and listened to his recommendations which was to go get a second opinion and start all over with my meds, get a "clean slate". Are you kidding me? My psychiatrist knows my history, knows what medicines effect me how and he's the one who helped me when I was face down on the floor. That was 12 years ago. Since then my weight has gone up, but my moods have been pretty steady, lower then the average person, but we are all different. I just can't believe this. I finally make this decision then bam right in the face. Like I'm going to get happier being this miserably overweight and in pain? Anyone else gone through this? Help? If I wasn't depressed before, I'm devastated now. Way to start the weekend.

Thanks everyone for your responses. I did answer the questions honestly and at first I thought I should have told them what they wanted to hear, I know that it was in my best interest to tell the truth. Gustavo, you say the surgery isn't for everyone... how so? Is it that it's mentally tough? I'm sure it is but that is what your suport system is for right? Plus, it seems like everyone keeps saying it gets better after a couple of months. Things were left that the psychologist is going to call my psychiatrist and talk to him. We'll see how that goes. If that doesn't satisfy him then I'll go from there. I'm not going to give up that easily.

It’s given me a lot of time to contemplate. Am I really going to get sleeved? Am I willing to make that drastic, DRASTIC change? Then I realize…It's hard to be 300 pounds at the beach (well everywhere really). The group I'm with, they don't understand nor will they ever. We are on the 3rd floor... I won't even get started on my knees. They went and climbed the lighthouse, they walk the beach. I'm trailing behind just dragging the umbrella and beach chair 50 feet away. It's hard. It’s humiliating. I have to sit in the front seat of the car because if I sat in the back seat we wouldn’t be able to fit 3 people back there. So why wouldn’t I jump and say, yes, let’s get sleeved. Why am I having such a hard time with it? I’ve already seen the surgeon and I see the psych on Tuesday. My life revolves around celebrating food. It’s such a big daily, 3 times a day event, especially on vacation. How would my “new” lifestyle fit in? Will my friends understand or will they get tired of dealing with me and my food restrictions? I keep wishing there will be a sign saying that I should do this. What if I am missing the sign? What if the sign was my leg giving away getting out of a booth at the restaurant and nearly hitting the ground? What if my sign was not being able to go see a friend in a play because I don’t fit in the theater seat? What’s a fluffy girl to do?

Raven, I saw the psych yesterday and I didn't like him at all. He was so negative. I would just rather stilck with my psychiatrist. I still have to see him one more time on Friday. HOpefully just one more time. He said I was on too many meds and made it sound like my fault. Hopefully he won't hold up this process for me.

You hit the nail on the head. I think this one is HUGE! You have to do it to break the awkward silence. Tonight I had to tell my boss who had been bugging me and buggine me about joining the rest of the department at a baseball game that I didn't want to go because I couldn't fit in the seats. Her 100 pound butt didn't have anything to say after that. The saddest thing about this post is the things people say about us and we take it. I hate when skinny people say they don't notice weight and they don't treat large people differently. I want to yell bull. But you can't convince them. I can't wait to get enough confidence to start dating.

Oakcliffmom, you hit the nail on the head. The nerves come from the fact that it is an elective surgery at least that what others will see. It's kind of like "well you did this to yourself". However, for us it's not elective, it's life and death. BUt then, what if we fail? What if we don't lose all this weight? What if all the people on this forum are the success stories? I've tried googling other stories but they mainly seem good which is the only reason I'm still in the process of doing this surgery.

Thanks to everyone. Great advice. I do need to do this for me right? I need to stop thinking what others may say. People are going to judge and I can't change that. Those who are my true friends will hopefully understand, or at least try to. But... that was easy to type... what will really happen? What will I really feel? I already suffer from major depression, is this going to make things worse? Will I be able to handle this? All questions I will ask the psych on Tuesday. I hope he doesn't disqualify me because of my "crazy".

what did the doc say? Will this get better? I'm so sorry you are having complications.

Why did you have to go back to liquids?

What is an endoscopy? Is it something that has to be done before surgery?

What do you do for the first few months when people want to go out to eat? Do you still want the food as you sit there and smell it and watch others eat it while you drink a protein drink or whatever?