I went to a couple of seminars. One from a Center for Excellence and one that wasn't. Plus the sister hospital that I work for offers RNY. I chose the place that was the Center of Excellence. My PCP is very supportive. Maybe you should find another PCP. I just got my approval letter on Saturday, so I should be hearing from my surgeon this week for pre surgery teaching and setting a surgery date. I've already been through all of the pre op stuff and paid my non-refundable fee of $300.
Since I went to the seminar first I just had to make an appt with the doc for a consult. They then told me what I had to do for my insurance needs and I went from there. I don't think you can even get in to see some surgeons without going to the seminar first.