ashkaymom

I'm using my inheritance.

Hi gang iwas wondering for those of you that have kids how did you explane it to them? I have seen threads on if you tell people or not and I have for now decided not to tell people except for a friend who had RNY 10 years ago. I'm actually going to ask her if she will help me with the kids. Naturally the hubby will know. But how did you tell the kids mine are 14 and 12. My 12 year old is high functioning autistic so my situation is probably a little different than most. I have never said anything negative about my weight or anybodies in front of them. Right now I think I will go with this will help mom loose weight so her feet don't hurt all the time, and it not something other people need to know about. So how did you handle it?

I guess I'm really worried about passing on my body issues to my kids. Fortunately my daughter seems to have inherited her dads slim genes ,thank you God! My son not so much but he has slimmed down after his last growth spurt

Ok I realize that I have taking my time in making the decession to get sleeved. Went to a seminar 18 months ago. So I called today to confirm how much it is going to cost me since I will be self paid. I left a message with the insurance/money person at the surgon that I had chosen. I got a call back from her and she told me that the hospital is no longer doing barbaric surgery so the surgon will no longer be doing was either. Really this is my preferred hospital. One of the reasons I choose this doctor was she was a female and I thought she would be more understanding with women and body image ( just my thought not that that would be true but..). I know it could be much worse, there are 3 other surgeons in town who do barbaric surgery now I just have to pick one. Almost feels like starting over again Just needed to vent thanks for listening guys

Have been wondering if anyone else has or had similar feelings. I have been thinking about was for a year and a half. It got put on the back burner for several reasons. I now have the money to do it but am feeling guilty about the time it will take away from my family. My daughter is high functioning autistic so when/if I'm ever not going to be around I have to write a long detail list so things can go as smoothly as possible for her. I must admit things have gotten better with her but still. I have a friend that had RNY 10 years ago and she would come and help with the kids. I guess I just have a hard time asking for help. And I feel like I would be the person it doesn't work for. Then I would have incovenced my family and spent all that money for nothing. Guess I'm just looking for someone to say I felt that way but it was worth it.