knknosmom

Thank you so much for your positive advice. I knew when I posted this I would probably get some negative opinions about my husband and it is nice to see someone that seems to understand a little better. I talked to him about this tonight, after he got out of his mood. He said he would never leave me because of that, that he didn't mean it that way. I think that he is scared that I am gonna lose a bunch of weight and leave him. I have heard a lot of husbands feel that way. But honestly, if I wanted to leave him, I would do it now. It wouldn't take me losing weight to do that! lol Thanks again!

I am planning on having my lapband surgery after the holidays. My husband wasn't overly enthused when I originally told him about the surgery but he came to me saying he would support me. In the mean time, every time I have Dr appointment or anything that has to do with the surgery, he gives me a hard time about giving me gas money for the car. (My Dr is about 40 minutes from me) Today when I told him I had to go there on Monday, he told me I should start taking the bus! This isn't even the main problem though. He told me that when I get this surgery I am going to ruin my body. I said "what do you mean?" He said "your going to have a ton of loose hanging skin." I replied that I didn't think I would have a lot of loose skin and he said "you better hope not." I then said "even if I do, I would rather have loose skin than be this big." He sarcastically said "yea because you will look so much better with skin sagging all over!" I am pretty confident that if I have this surgery and end up with loose skin, he will leave me. I know I am going to have some loose skin, my belly already hangs down some so obviously when the fat is gone, the skin will still be hanging there. Same with my upper arms. So now I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose my husband over this. I just don't know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

I began my journey in August. I have done almost all the things required, before being able to get my surgery date. I just have to lose 8 more pounds and go to one more support group meeting. Yesterday while at the hospital, waiting to have presurgery tests done, I overheard some women that had weight loss surgery done already. They were saying how horrible their skin is hanging and how they miss eating bread and pizza and pasta. Then one was talking about her sister that is very sick after having the gastric bypass, she has lost to much weight, is losing her hair and looks horrible. Then I saw my Dr later that day. He told me that with the lapband, you only average losing 25-30 pounds a year! And that most people only lose 40-50 pounds total. I am worried about having tons of loose skin and feeling even worse about how I look and my husband finding it to be nasty and not wanting to come near me. I thought after you had the surgery, you could go back to eating most things? I didnt realize you could never have bread, pizza and pasta (among other things) again? I see people on this site that have lost a lot of weight, so I dont understand how the Dr is saying you will only lose 40-50 pounds total. I was hoping to lose arouind 80-90 pounds total. So now with all of this information that I heard and recieved yesterday, I am starting to have second thoughts. Anything anyone could say to me, to make me feel better and be as excited as I was before yesterday, would be great. Oh and another thing. Sunday my husband (who is supporting me in this) said he was worried that after I lost the weight, that we wouldnt last. I didnt understand why he said and feels that way. Then yesterday at the Dr, my Dr said a lot of people end up divorced or seperated after losing the weight. This scares me. I dont want to end up divorced. All I want is to lose weight and be able to do more with my children, feel better about myself and avoid any health problems being over weight can and will cause in the long run. And now I have all this scary stuff thrown at me. Any advice will be appreciated. Thanks.

Kay, thats exactly what my husband said! I assume he isnt the only spouse to feel that way, now! Thank you all for your help and advice! I really appreciate it!!

Thank You all for your advice and words of wisdom! You have made me feel so much better. I know I can do this, I was just scared by all of the information I heard yesterday. Do I want to be able to pig out on any and every thing I used to? No but I want to be able to eat healthy but be able to still have things like that on occasion, when its a holiday or a Birthday or something. And my husband and I are in love with each other, we are best friends, sole mates. SO I do believe that we will be fine. Thank you so much for all your help. :-)

I went to my Dr for my 1st appointment about a month ago. But I do my grocery shopping once a month and had already done my shopping for the month. (My appointment was a last minute appointment because there was a cancelation) So the Dr said it would be ok to do Weight Watchers for a couple weeks then to start on the Medifast Lean and Green diet. Well I didnt lose any weight on the Weight Watchers, because of the medicine my primary Dr had me on (which had a side effect of weight gain) I am no longer on that medicine, it caused me to gain 3 pounds. Anyways, I started the Lean and Green diet on Monday. I hate it. Most of the foods I am allowed, I dont like. I am just so hungry all the time. When I go to the Dr on the 22nd I plan on getting the Medifast shakes which from what I hear, will fill me up for a few hours. I am started to get cranky and I am just so miserable. I cant make this feeling of hunger go away. And to top it off, my husband comes home with pizza for himself for lunch! Now I know he has every right to eat whatever he wants but did he have to eat it right in front of me?! I dont know if all Dr's have you do the same pre surgery diet, but if any of you did this lean and green, please tell me what to do to make myself feel full. I am so scared that I am just gonna get to the point where I am so hungry and I am gonna pig out. Thanks for any advice.

Maybe I am refering to it as the wrong thing? This is the diet they have me on, to lose the required 10% before I can schedule my surgery.

The lean and green diet sucks! lol I can only drink water, tea or coffee. I dont drink tea or coffee so I am stuck with just water. I cant even drink diet soda or crystal light. I am not a huge water drinker, so its hard. The food part, the things I can eat that I like are tuna, tilapia, pork and turkey. The rest of the list is gross stuff that I wont eat. Then there is a bunch of green vegetables. I can have a 1/2 cup of fruit a day. Thats what I look forward to the most! Your diet sounds awesome compared to mine lol

I went to my Dr about a month ago and was told how much I had to lose before I could have the surgery,( 26 pounds) and how much I had to lose before I could schedule the surgery. (13 pounds) I thought to myself that day, wow this isnt going to be very hard at all! They recommend you do the medifast shakes, but I cant afford them. They are about $60 a week. I have a big family and only one income right now, and we just cant afford it so the Dr told me another diet plan to use. I have been doing this diet and walking 2 miles almost everyday. On the other hand, my primary Dr put me on a new medication around the same time as I went to the surgeon, for my headaches I was getting. Little did I know, a side effect from that medication is weight gain. So here I have been, trying so hard to lose this weight while being on a medicine that causes weight gain. About 1 1/2 weeks ago when I wasnt losing any weight, I went online and looked at the side effects of this medicine, after a friend suggesting maybe it was the cause. I have since seen my primary and been weaned off of it. I just weighed myself and I have only lost 1 pound in the past month because of that medicine. I guess I am grateful that it didnt cause me to gain weight, it just kind of caused me to not lose any, but I go back to the surgeon in 2 weeks and I feel like a failure because I thought I would be going there and would have lost that 13 pounds and would have been able to schedule my surgery. Thats obviously not going to happen now. Does anyone have any tips on ways to lose the weight quicker? I feel like this is never going to happen.

So, last week I went to the required therapy appointment. The good news is, he says I seem like a good candidate! :-) But I have to go back in a couple weeks and he says before he will give teh Dr his ok, he wants me to have some more information on a few things. The first is, he wants me to know what foods and beverages I wont be able to eat and drink after the surgery. And the second is, he wants me to know what all the risks are. He also asked me why sometimes the lap band doesnt work for people, and I wasnt sure how to answer that. So I am hoping some of you can helpme come up with as much information on these topics as I can get, before I go back to see him. Thanks so much!

I havent seen the nutritionist yet, I go on the 22nd, thats also when I see my Dr.So far I have gone to the seminar, the therapist, had tons of blood work done and had a physical by my Dr's assistant. I have most of my appts on the 22nd. I am just trying to get all my little required appts taken care of before the 22nd.

So I FINALLY got to go to my 1st appointment since the seminar, today! I am very excited to finally be able to begin this journey! I just have a question. They gave me info on something called a Lean & Green Diet, to help me lose the pre surgery weight. I was wondering, do I have to go by this diet to lose the weight or can I do something like weight watchers to lose the weight? Thanks!

Thanks! That makes sense! They didnt really explain much to me, just gave me a bunch of packets to read.

I went to the seminar for the Lap Band on August 9th. At that time my husband was not on board with the surgery. Since then, he is ok with it. So thats a big sigh of relief and I feel so much better about it. But I was told at the seminar that I would hear from the Doctors office within a week to schedule my 1st appointment and its been over 2 weeks and I havent heard anything yet. I called them this past Thursday, when it had been 2 weeks and they said they are running behind. Well I wanna get the show on the road here! I have to lose 10 % of my weight before I can get the surgery (like I am sure most of you had to do) and I was told not to start trying to lose that weight until my 1st appointment! I am just starting to feel like this is never going to happen. First my husband didnt support it,now he does and now the Doctors office is taking its sweet time! Did anyone else run into this issue? How long does it usually take once you start your appointments and everything, until you had your surgery? I just want to get this new chapter of my life started!

Tonight is finally my Seminar, I am excited to finally begin my journey to get the lapband. My husband still isnt on board. I am planning on bringing him with me tonight, hoping that it will help teach him about it and hopefully make him see it will be ok. He told my mother in law about it, she is against it also so now I have 2 of them ganging up on me. They think its unnecessary and dangerous. They have never been 265 pounds, So they dont know how necessary it really is! He tried playing the "I will tell our daughter that I told you not to have the surgery done" card on me, when he was trying to talk me out of having it done. For some reason he seems to think I am going to die during surgery. He keeps going back and forth over coming with me tonight, like if he doesnt come, I wont go or something. It is very discouraging not having his support. Have any of you had this problem with your spouse? Did they change their tune and end up being supportive? What should I expect at the seminar tonight? They say it lasts 2 hours. Thanks!

I havent gotten the surgery yet, but my one worry is having excess skin. I weigh 265 and am 5'5. I dont plan on getting down below 150, I never wanted to be skinny minny, just thinner and healthier. So I plan on losing about 115 pounds. My belly hangs already and my upper arms are already pretty big. So those are the two spots I am worried about and I know those are also what my husband is worried about too. I heard that there are certain excercises and things you can do to help tighten your skin as you lose the weight to help prevent it from hanging so much. Does anyone have any experience in this, any tips on what worked for you, in preventing it? I am so excited about the surgery but cant help but to be worried about this at the same time. Thanks.

My brother in law is doing p90x and couldnt do it all at first either but oh my god! he can now and he looks awesome!!!

So, I went to the seminar finally but I am confused now. The Dr that did the seminar says that with the lapband, you only lose about 30-40 pounds? My goal was to lose about 100-115 pounds. I feel like it is pointless to get the lapband if I will only lose 30-40 pounds with it. Another thing that he said, which isnt a big deal to me but my husband pointed it out to me was that you wont be able to eat steak or drink carbonated beverages afterwards? He says that steak is to tough to be able to chew it down small enough to swollow it and that carbonated beverages make you bloated and stretch out your stomach? I never heard any of this on any of the sites or boards I came across while researching this so I dont know if this is all a bunch of crap or what. I feel kind of bummed about it, I mean I was really excited thinking that I was going to be able to lose 100 pounds with help from the lapband then I get told that you only average 30-40 pounds. Is there any truth to this?

I have been going back and forth over having the lap band surgery done, I didnt want to tell my husband until I was certain. Well I decided to have it done! I wentto my Dr today, and scheduled the orientation for August 9th. Then I told my husband. He is less than enthused. He says he likes me how I am (265 lbs!) I hate how I look, I want to lose the weight. He asked me how much I wanted to lose, I said I wanted to get down to like 150 lbs. He freaked out saying thats waaaaay to much. I want to be happy when I look in the mirror. He says he will support my decision in whatever I do but I feel like I need some other people to support me and actually mean it, I guess. I am frustrated. I was so excited.

I made the decision to have the lap band surgery. I have my 1st appointment scheduled for August 9th. I have been thinking though, and I am not sure if I want everyone knowing about my decision. My mom is very judgemental and quite frankly I dont feel like listening to what she has to say about it. So obviously if I dont tell her, I cant tell anyone in my family because they all talk! My family doesnt understand, they are all skinny! They dont see how it could be so difficult to lose the weight, because they have never had to try! While I still have yet to decide what to do about telling people, I just have a couple questions. Did any of you decide not to tell people? How long are you usually in the hospital? Pretty sure that it might make it harder to keep it a secret if I will be there any length of time!

I went to my primary care Dr today and she was all for the lap band surgery! I called the Dr that will be doing it and scheduled my Orientation! It is set for August 9th. I was told that I have to lose 10% of my weight before I can have the surgery. My question is, do I start doing that now, or do I wait until after orientation? Is it hard to lose the 10%? What did you all find as the easiest and quickest way to lose it? I am going to have to lose about 26.5 pounds as of right now. I can schedule my surgery after losing 5%. How long should it take me to lose that weight? I am so excited, I cant wait!!

Hi my name is Shannon, I am 32 years old and have been overweight my whole life. I have contemplated lap band surgery several times, the only thing that makes me hesitant about it is what I have heard about ending up with a lot of loose skin. I am planning on calling my Dr tomorrow to schedule an appointment to talk to her about the surgery and hopefully after that, I will be able to begin my journey to weight loss once and for all. I guess what I want to know is, what does this entail? I have found several sites telling me what the surgery is, but nothing about what you need to do to get there. I have heard several different things, some people say that you need to lose a certain amount before you can have the sugery, some say you dont. I just wanna know what you went through from that first appointment, until you had the surgery and how long do you have to wait to have the surgery? How many of you had to deal with the loose skin and if you didnt end up with it, how did you prevent it? I am just scared that I will end up with loose skin and be more ashamed of how I look than I am now, being overweight. I would love for someone to talk to, that has been through this. Thanks so much.

Thanks everyone for your answers!!! I am 32, 5'5", weigh 265. I would like to get down to 145-150. I have 3 children, had 2 vaginally and 1 by c section. I made an appointment for Monday, to talk to my doctor about the surgery.. Hoping she is for it, I am sure it will make things easier!! I think one reason I am so worried about the loose skin is because my husband mentioned it and I am afraid of looking "gross" to him.